Which one do you prefer Physical Appearance or Personality?
By chiltacs
@chiltacs (49)
Philippines
June 29, 2009 7:28am CST
Basically most of us do notice a person with it's physical appearance especially a person who just passed by or just a stranger to you. By merely looking at how a person looks or how he/she carries his/herself, we already got an idea of the personality. But in some cases not all our judgments are true. There are certain instances wherein what we perceive are wrong. The moment we got to know more a person's personality, there are some of our impressions that changed and some of it lasts.
Based on my experience, i can't avoid to get attracted to a person by its appearance like being neat or good looking, but once i get know the person, i get to appreciate more of it's personality. That's the time that i can say that the person's attitude matters most than just by physical appearance.
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@daliaj (5674)
• India
30 Jun 09
I give importance to both physical appearance and personality. We can't judge the personality of a person by just seeing. We will know the personality only when we start talking to the person or interacting more with him. If you aks me which one is important, I will say personality.
@kprofgames (3091)
• United States
30 Jun 09
I tent to lean towards a person that is self confident and that doesn't always comes with physical appearance. I think a person that feels good about themselves will show on the outside more then mear physical beauty will.
I look at it this way. A good looking spouse, well looks can fade away. A person that you feel good being with, have fun with and can talk to, you'll still have somehting in common with as you grow older because you actually like the person you are with.
That makes a big difference to me. All the rest is just a bonus, but doesn't have to be there for me to be attracted to a person.
@Mitraa (3184)
• India
30 Jun 09
I do not view them separately. Physical appearance is also an unavoidable part of personality. Of course, a good personality can well overlap and justify well the lacks in physical appearance, but well care must be taken to present oneself in a decent as well as attractive manner. This makes the external part of personality that interacts with others primarily!
Thanks for this nice posting and have always a nice physical appearance and attractive personality!
@rymebristol (1808)
• Philippines
30 Jun 09
mmmmm. which one has money?LOL! 
Can I choose an okay looking woman with a great personality? Does it have to be an UGLY person?
I'd pick the one with the great personality, especially if they had a good sense of humor. Beauty fades; personality is long lasting.
Can I choose an okay looking woman with a great personality? Does it have to be an UGLY person?
I'd pick the one with the great personality, especially if they had a good sense of humor. Beauty fades; personality is long lasting.
@pickoy (733)
• Philippines
30 Jun 09
There are very nice looking people who almost resemble a hollywood star but if he lacks good manners, his appearance can never compensate that. You learn to like or love the person when you can relate to them easily... if they are polite, if they respect you. I would hate brad pitt if he turned out to be a bad mouth.
Even if a person has not much to look at, you'll be drawn to him if he's really funny and kind... if he's a fine gentleman who knows the right words to say. Sometimes its enough too that they have a good grooming habit.
@Chrisandro (47)
•
30 Jun 09
Well, as for me, I'm best attracted to a person's personality, attitude, and especially the sexiest part, the brain! I just admire/appreciate gorgeous women but not get attracted to them. I go first to inside out coz when someone who so damn beautiful inside(good personality) it radiates physical thus last part for me is the physical aspect of the woman where I can say that she really is the most beautiful woman in the world. let me quote this, "You don't love a girl because she is beautiful, she is beautiful because you love her."
@megumiart (3771)
• United States
29 Jun 09
I am always attracted to people by their appearnce first, but in the long run, personality is definately way more important.
@sameroad (3179)
• United States
30 Jun 09
Personality is what gets me. sure the first thing i notice is someones physical appearance but thats only because i don't know them. to me looks aren't everything and I can be with someone who might not be all that great looking physically but as long as i am attracted to them in someway then it doesn't matter.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
29 Jun 09
I would have to agree with you, a person's physical appearance is the very first thing that I notice about a person and often times that appearance will either attract me to a person or turn me away. I have also had many instances where someone who I thought appeared as if they had it all together really did not and had so many issues and was such a dishonest person that I no longer made any contact with that person. Overall, I would say that physical appearance is what draws us to people, but personality is what holds us to them.
@frozenimage (464)
• United States
29 Jun 09
I prefer personality. Although I am going to contradict myself, the first thing I want to see in girls is good appearance, idk maybe because I am still young lol, but the point is personality lasts forever and appearance do not. For example, if a girl is good looking, but with little or no personality, what will she have in the future?
@chelsit (105)
• United States
30 Jun 09
For m I want both but how can you tell if a person has a great personality you have to at lease have a conversation wth them, and are you going to speak to soeone who is not well put together, so basically you have to see and like the outside before you can get to know that person on the inside.
@darkstormy1 (264)
• United States
30 Jun 09
I have never really went for the pretty boys so it would never be for looks although I would never consider anyone i was with as ugly either but for me it is so much more for as stated before sometimes personality and looks can blend together such as confidence ,cockiness also can be shown through in looks as long as sincere some times these things can be faked and that for me is where it goes into personality I want to see where you go mentally what you think so for me it is a complete package
@melon007 (32)
• United States
30 Jun 09
I will admit, that I do enjoy looking at those attractive people, but when I actually get to know them, they are usually dull or superficial. I am more attracted to someone that can make me laugh, can have an intellectual conversation with and someone that I can spend time with without even having to say a word. It is funny that someone that ou may have not initially been attracted to can become the most beautiful person you have ever met.
@Bobbo696 (23)
• United States
29 Jun 09
Call me shallow but I really want someone who has a good appearance and a good personality. If someone is ugly with a really good personality, I probably won't date them but I would be very close friends with them. And if someone is really hot with a bad personality, I probably wouldn't date them either because it gets annoying having someone in your life with a terrible personality.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
29 Jun 09
It's natural to be first attracted by ones physical attributes. But the physical attributes don't always represent the person underneath. The person may appear attractive but underneath they may be the opposite. Same with public personalities they are nice on camera & cold when the camera goes off.
So I guess like anyone we are attracted by looks but in the end personality wins over looks I every time unless you are interested in the person for your own financial gain ect.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
29 Jun 09
Well being human and being male for that matter, I am admit that I admire people most especially if they appear great. But just like you, as I know the person more, personality then matters a lot and in fact I prefer a good personality rather than good appearance with a nasty personality.
@tuyakiki (3016)
• India
29 Jun 09
Good physical appearance play a very less role in this regard.I do look at or stare at strangers with good looks.But thats all..Its hard to guess their personality..
In general, its quiet natural to get attract to a person with a good personality,certainly if you came to know that person..
I like people with a pleasing personality.
I have seen many good looking,well groomed, unpleasant people,who are around me,with a personality that puts me into a bad mood.. Its hard to say good or bad about them..But certainly something is there that sucks!!!!!!!
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
29 Jun 09
i prefer personality. personality is defined s the organized totality of the individual which includes physical characteristics, habits and values...
so you see, if you have the personality, i mean good personality its more better than just a good physical appearance...
coz if you have a good personality..its like you got it all...
@incredibleDNA (1742)
• Philippines
29 Jun 09
It's wisdom that says that you should go for the personality. Someone can be physically attractive and have all the personality of rock or wet mop whereas the person that you think isn't as attractive has a very good personality.
Looks are important though because if the person is really hard to look at, then you're likely not going to be happy even if they have a nice personality. But if they just look average, their personality can make them very attractive. Remember, looks do also fade.
@unwanted (76)
• Philippines
29 Jun 09
At first, I prefer Physical Appearance. Who doesn't want to have good looks?
In my experience, I find someone who is good looking and start to know her.
As time passes by, my preference changes. Personality starts to be a preference. Even if the girl is very beautiful, if she doesn't have a good personality, eventually my feelings will change.
Too sum up my post, Physical Appearance is the preference but Personality is a requirement.:)
