How do you feel when you see young lovers nowadays?
By laydee
@laydee (12798)
Philippines
July 1, 2009 10:38am CST
Call me old, but I find young lovers nowadays too shallow.
I mean, they meet someone, say they're 'in love', fall deeply, do everything married couples do and more, then after a few months they say they're 'fallen' out of love.
I'm guessing the generation of fastfoods and instant things has caused these people (or even I am affected somehow) to be overly emotional when it comes to love and relationships, thinking 'this is it!', only to realize after a few months that that wasn't 'it'.
Whenever I see young people seemingly 'deeply in love', I don't find it appealing at all most especially with overly public displays of affection. At the back of my mind, I always ask 'how long would that sweet times last anyway?'
11 responses
@khayshenz (1384)
• United States
2 Jul 09
OUCH!! That hurts! =P
Though I'm not sure how "young" you're talking here - like teens? I have to agree with you. I mean, even people my age I'm gonna have to agree with you.
Though I have to disagree with you for some of us who are mature (or more mature) than most. My brother has been with his GF for SEVEN years - that's longer than most celebrity marriages! They have plans of marriage but not financially feasible at this point. My sister is getting married in December - she too has been with her bf for FIVE years. Again, that's longer than most celebrity marriages!
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
I do agree with you guys, but mostly to the point of how parents are usually discouraged after spending too much on kids and the kid just decides that everything is okay and he'd like to get married now.
I mean, where's the return of all the investment there? Well, we're not here to run off with the money from our kids, but we'd somehow expect they'd at least show concern for all the efforts the parents has put-in all those years right?
If the parents where thinking more for themselves, I doubt kids right now would have the benefits to just be happy-go-lucky and just date whoever and wherever and when someone gets pregnant, cry on it and saying 'I made a mistake'.
@lovenish00111 (93)
• India
2 Jul 09
nice comment buddy....
actually i also wanted to say that until we finish our studies and does not get job or business we are like child who just live on its parents money..
when we finish our studies and got job or business then our first respect should be for our parents......we have to first make them happy that we are now stand on our legs...
but normally what happens boys especially start argument with parents about marriage when their parents tell them that that girl is not good. or just after marriage the girl cant adjust with boys parents and start argumentation with them and finally boy and girl get separated from parents.....
so for only these days parents have waited so long and spend so many money over their child.............u dont know the girl u selected can adjust with ur parents or not cuz even u have not spend some years with parents living professional life taking experience from them......and many time after marriage girl does not want their husbands to give large money to their parents which further make parents unhappy.......
so first live a life then try to make a change in it with full confidence and planning......
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@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
1 Jul 09
I think that the poor ba$tards don't know what they are getting themselves into LOL
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
1 Jul 09
now i can understand.......please avoid coarse language when u are in public...
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@simonelee (2715)
• China
3 Jul 09
i find it so funny,disgusting, Yucky!lol Because i've been in that situation, if i can only turn back time i rather not to be involved in that thing.lol it's not good in the eyes to see young lovers. hahahhaha
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@clutterbug (1051)
• United States
1 Jul 09
I can only remember back to when I was a teenager and then in my 20's. I'm glad that I never did anything stupid, if you know what I mean, but I was definitely naive. I fell in love many times, even when the guy didn't know I existed - which isn't love, and hence my naivete. When I see young people in love these days, I can't help but think that they have a lot of growing up to do, and a lot to learn (understatement!). I would never wan't to go back to those days.
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@chikadee21ph (438)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
I agree with you. That is also the same feeling I have everytime I see young couples. I can't help myself but compare my exprience with them. Modesty aside, my husband and I did not do things we were not supposed to do before the marriage. And even if we were boyfriend and girlfriend during college days, it never affected out studies on a negative way. Infact, we both became inspiration to each other to strive more. Now, we both have a decent work paying us a more than average salary.
I understand that falling in love has no age limit. You will experience it at no particular age. But what I can't understand is the way it is handled by younger generation. As I see it, they are not taking their relationship seriously. And that what makes me sad.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
I guess most haven't really got parents like yours or how you two met up and fell in love and didn't put your hearts over your heads.
It's quite amazing how so rare people get to have your type of experience anymore. I am even shocked at women going over to men's homes and rooms even if the man hasn't committed himself to even wanting to court her.
Whew.
@riani2009 (581)
• Indonesia
28 Jul 09
In my opinion...I think it depends on the nurture of the parents to educate the meaning of love. Love is shallow only if the definition of love mainly focuses on material and physical matter. Love is deep and lasting only if the value of love is tested in path way of life. Somehow, the differences of age, experience and generation make different view of it.
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@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
1 Jul 09
For me, I am also still young. You are right, once they fall in love then they don't see other thing beside their love. Never look forward and never know how bad the person they have been with at all... and that used to happened to me. I am very easy to fall for someone and it is hard for me to realized at first. However, now I learned my lesson and forget all the lighting love.
I can see many lovers now is very sweet and awesome but not long enough, they will turn to something else.
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
1 Jul 09
i feel very jealous first, the main reason is im very young , im 19 and i dont have a girl firend to express my love and feeling of romance, so its very natural for people in my age with out having a pair to feel jealousy when they see a couple of young..
according to u, only a few love suceeds others ends up in some disaster..
even i have seen in my own eyes...my friend and his girlie were in love for three years, but some miracle happened , that girl left him and went with some other boy..
so love does not persist for long time now days, though i have not experienced it, im telling this on my friends experience..
happy to respond..
happy mylotting
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@lovenish00111 (93)
• India
1 Jul 09
i think after thinking a lot those young lovers decided to choose life partner in young age as so many relation are breaking by court and taking divorce.........
but if those after marriage cant withstand with their partner then how can u make it all alone without court
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@fish666888 (57)
• China
2 Jul 09
Oh,this a difficult issue!because iam young!i think that with the abvancement of our society,young people are now becoming more and more open,it is an unalterable fact!About love,i think anybody can be honed through experience..Finally,i would like to say:Love is a game of the brave,young people clearly do this .Some critics of the progress is real progress,right?!
