In direct way of saying NO

Hey! can I borrow your car? while you do my windows and will ya take the garbage out too.. while you are at it? I suck at saying NO too..

Learning to say no is an art in its own, bro.. It's like training yourself for fatherhood too, so you have to learn how to master it. But don't worry, practice makes perfect. Like for instance, you have a son or a daughter someday and they keep on begging you to buy toys that you know aren't necessary. You have to learn how to say no to them, instead of following suit to what they want. For example, you can say that the toys are not for sale or some sort. That is if you can't really tell them direct that you disallow them to buy. Another trick I always use whenever I don't wanna do something but is coerced and I really have to say no is I'll say I'll look into it and come back with an answer. And I would text saying no or call saying no. If it's a sales person being persistent like to sign up for cards or something like that, I would joke first like I'm a student. If that doesn't work, I'll try at bad humor. My last resort would be to plainly disappoint. If anything else doesn't work, that is..

A direct way to say no would be just said "You can't", or you simply can't do it. Answer it with your direct answer, and your heart. One way or another, don't make yourself unhappy. If you think that is not too urgent, or emergency for that person who asking you, simply refuse it.

I have a friend like you who finds it hard to say no to people and they end up taking advantage of her and just using her. I can say no to people no problem lol, I will say yes if they are genuine and only asking for the one favour but people who ask all the time I just say no, do it yourself. Maybe you should try saying, "Yeah well I'm not sure, I'll see whether I can or not but I'll let you know sure"

If I face a situation like yours, I would just keep saying.."Errmm..Not Sure....I'm really Not Sure..". Guess it depends on the situation that puts you to deny as well counts. So guess you got to beat around the bush a little there matey!

In my case, my art of saying no indirectly is like "I'm sorry, I may not be able to do this, but I will try." Of course I will try but maybe I won't give 100% of what I can. Hehe.. But sometimes I believe saying no directly makes much more sense unless it will hurt your opposite party.

U are going to have to stop letting people take advantage of you. U can be too nice & I BET U ARE. jUST SPEAK UP & SAY NO IN A VERY NICE WAY & THAT SHOULD FIX THAT PROBLEM.P eople will take advantage of u if u let them, DON'T!

"I'm not sure so I'm going to have to check and get back to you." That's one of the reasons why having a husband comes in so handy...he's the one I have to check with and then, if I don't want to do whatever it is, I can blame it on the fact that I have to do something for/with him.

You did not give a situation when it comes to say no. Well i just make up any story and show them that i don't want to do what they are asking. That is if they are not close to me and don't know much about me. But if people are close to me or i care and don't want to do something then i show them that i am busy on something else or i have more important task to do so they won't be able to force me.

i didn't learn to say "no" before 25 years old,it seems that i am used to saying yes,i can do it,ok,no problem.even if we found it was impossible to do at they were talking something at that moment,we also would say.ok,i try it.i always made things difficult for myself.but for now i have learnt to say no for some unreasonable require.

You're a people pleaser - that's why you can't say no. If there are telemarketers calling your phone, I'm sure you'll probably stay and listen to them!! Hahahahaha... Well - white lies would be good for you. Just say "I'll call you back and let you know" -- in which case, you will call. At a much later day or time, or an hour before the occasion/purpose of invitation. Then you say "i'm sorry i totally forgot, but I don't think I can make it anyway. I'll be busy." HANG UP right away. No dilly dallying! "I'll call you back" is my favorite excuse - even with clients! =P Another one is "oh I think my significant other has plans that night. Sorry." Hehehe...it's easy peasy! Just lie a little ;-)

i am with you on this one i can never say no its kind of odd other people can be rude to me and im still nice to them later on... firm believer of carma.

I think for most people it is really hard for them to say no to someone. You have to keep in mind who it is & if the person asking for something asks all the time. I am a pretty direct person so I don't really have a hard time saying whats on my mind. On the other hand like I said it depends on the person asking.

I use to have the same problem but then it got to the point that I was sick of being taken advantage of and used. What I did was when someone asked me to do something or wanted money or what not I would tell them the truth that I didnt want to. If they asked why not I would just tell them the truth. Wether it would be I just didnt feel like it at the time or if it was money that i was trying to save or whatever the case. You need to stand up for yourself. Anyone who takes advantage of the fact that you never say no has no respect for you. I hope you find a way to say no in the future and that it all works out for you

May I recommend the deferred answer method? "I would love to help you with this, and I will get back to you about how I can do so." or, "I will see if it fits my calendar" The thing is, most people feel they have to have an explanation or a reason to say no, but you can just say, "I am sorry my answer has to be no at this time." It is okay to say no.

I don't know any other way than just saying ,plainly "No,I can't".I can explain why but I don't know any indirect way to say it.If it is a friend,then they will understand. If it is work related, I just hope they will understand.I have never had a problem saying no.My problem is taking a chance by saying yes.