What are the things that you don't like in him/her
By doryvien
@doryvien (2284)
United States
July 5, 2009 4:07am CST
but you've come to accept anyway?
Sure you love your husband/boyfriend/partner that's why you're gonna stick it out with him/her no matter what. But admit it, there are things that you just don't like in him/her, things that you've come to "accept" because - you love him/her. Maybe some habits that to you are unglamorous, gross, unhealthy, annoying, or just plain "not to your liking".
My husband is so organized, and I don't like it because I am not. We both accepted that from day 1 of our relationship. Another thing: he says I eat a lot and always reminds me to watch my diet, but now he's given up and has accepted the fact that I love to eat.
So what are the things you don't like in him/her that you've come to accept or at least tolerate? Would appreciate your thoughts.
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7 responses
@faln_angel1205 (1192)
• United States
5 Jul 09
My "complaints" are prob what most of us complain about lol. He wont pick up after himself, my son and I are always doing it for him. Doesnt look at me when im talking to him so i think hes ignoring me, though most times hes not....he has a rather foul mouth and doesnt control it in front of our son..so im just waiting for the day my son gets in trouble at school for "talking like his daddy" Other than that hes a great man lol
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@doryvien (2284)
• United States
6 Jul 09
Opposite sides attract, or so they say. It's probably why we stick to them despite their flaws. No matter how we say we've had enough, we just stay on, and hope that they will eventually change. Oh well, maybe you have to tell your son that not everything that grown-ups do is right, and teach him to be able to choose which are the things that are good about is dad and worth emulating, and just ignore those that are not. Thanks for sharing and happy myLotting!
@faln_angel1205 (1192)
• United States
7 Jul 09
Oh yes i have made it very clear to my son what to "copy" and what not to, and ive been very fortunate so far..as for hubby most times if i sit down and have a discussion about it with him, he will cool his jets for a month or so then slip back, but at least he tries and thats more than some will do
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
7 Jul 09
Oh at least he's trying, you can see some hope there. Kids these days are really smart and we don't even need to tell them which are right and wrong. But still parents, particularly the mother, should be there for them to guide them through the path so they don't go the wrong way. Thanks!
@Debkie (45)
• Philippines
5 Jul 09
the thing that i really dont like with my husband is during shopping, coz when i shop for me something I have to compare prices from one store to another and he doesnt like that. so that's where we fight most of the time... But later on, in our married life, we've come to make a truce, a decision that we both agreed, that I should go first for window shopping so that during the day when we were together to shop. I know which store to go and I also got to see his point to organize things coz its not easy walking for how many hours and hopping for one store to another.
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@doryvien (2284)
• United States
6 Jul 09
Hi Debkie,
Oh shopping, it drives them nuts! Good that you were able to come up with a compromise, at least you've settle the issue now. My husband is like that too, He doesn't have patience for my shopping habits. So now whenever we shop we go on different ways - he goes to hardware or any DIY shops, and I go to departments that interest me - clothes, shoes, kids things, household. After the shopping we meet somewhere like a restaurant, so we can have our meal.
Thanks for sharing and happy myLotting!
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
7 Jul 09
This is something I don't understand. If you are in a relationship and there are things you don't like about him, that would be understandable and normal. But if you don't like everything about him, then I don't see any reason why you would stick with him - unless it makes you happy that you've got someone that you just don't like... now I'm confused LOL.
@tundeemma (894)
• South Africa
5 Jul 09
what i hate most about her is her inability to keep even small secrets sometimes she puts her brother ahead of everyone and she doesn't seems to care about who is hurt except her brother, she also feel proud and rude sometimes , these are some of the habits i find difficult to remove from her
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
6 Jul 09
Most girls are like that, they easily get excited and they can't help but tell others about what is supposed to be a secret. You're still young so I supposed your girlfriend is young as well. Through time she will learn that some things are best kept within the family or between couples only. Since she appears to be close to her brother, maybe you should start liking her brother too, or at least be civil to him. Peace.
@airakumar (1553)
• India
6 Jul 09
HI doryvien,
I am different and also my thoughts regarding my husband. I know you won't believe it but this is true and the fact. Whether you believe it or not. I like all he things my husband has, his habit, his attitude, his behavior, his eating habit, his working schedule, everything. There is nothing that I would deny or I hate or I don't like. He is a complete man and a very caring husband. I never give me a chance to complain. Rather I don't get any opportunity to shout on him or disliking..I appreciate this and also I am so lucky!! Thanks.
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
7 Jul 09
Yes indeed, you are one of the very few lucky girls who have a guy that you can actually call your ideal man. You must be an envy to your friends. And there are only very few guys out there who can fit this same description...Does he have a brother? LOL
@Wink24 (167)
• Philippines
5 Jul 09
hello.
i think some of the things that i don't like to him are; first,being aloof sometimes because he's a type of an independent person. second, being near to perfectionist, he's also a systematic person and wants everything to be near perfect, am not like that so i feel uncomfortable whenever he asks me to do so. third, can hide his feelings, he's very unpredictable that's why i found it hard to understand him sometimes. but like what you've said, though there are things that we don't like about them. it's still because of our love to them that makes us still want to be with them and accept those differences later on. happy mylotting.
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@doryvien (2284)
• United States
5 Jul 09
I know of a friend who complained of the same things about her partner as the ones you mentioned, but they're still together... Maybe you just need to be a little more open yet understanding, eventually he'll realize that he should let you in to his world so you can be in tune with his persona better.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
6 Jul 09
Hey doryvien! I have a few things that I don't like about
my boyfriend! We live together and he is a total neat freak!
He drives me crazy with his cleaning and his rules! I am
clean about myself, but he is a compulsive cleaner! He will
re-clean something that I have already cleaned! He also has
this really annoying habit of sucking his teeth all the time!
I have asked him to stop, but he does it all the time! It
drives me insane! I love him, but he can be so annoying! He
also repeats the same things over and over without giving me
a real answer! I might not be perfect, but he is habits that
would drive anyone really nuts, but don't get me wrong he
does have some wonderful qualities too or I wouldn't be with
him!
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
7 Jul 09
Hi Opal,
Okay, in your case, I think you can relax because he's willing to do the cleaning anyway, so why don't you just leave it to him? LOL. The differences of personalities - these things are the ones that make the relationship exciting. But we stay because the good qualities usually outweigh the bad. Thanks for sharing.
