I'm invited to friend's wedding shower but can't go, do I have to give a gift?
By cheekysuze
@cheekysuze (254)
United States
July 6, 2009 10:00pm CST
I'm invited to my friend's wedding shower this month but I can't go. (I already made the trip out-of-state for her bachelorette party and gave her a gag gift). Do I still have to give her a gift? Especially considering I have to pay for a hotel and airfare for my whole family in August (when she's having her wedding), a wedding gift, and a flower girl dress for my daughter. Should I get her another gift for the shower, or is it acceptable to just do a wedding gift and the bachelorette gift (plus the gift of my presence. Ha!) Any advise would be appreciated!
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
7 Jul 09
I think you have gone above and beyond since you have to pay for hotel and transportation to even attend the wedding. I'd say if you want to do something small then go for it otherwise, if you are not attending I don't think it's a big deal for you not to provide a gift for that event.
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
8 Jul 09
i don't know the etiquette for this but in a way if you already have a gift long before you learned that you can't come to the shower then send the gift. if you still want to give a gift even though you know you can't come then do so. but if you don't have a gift yet and you learned you can't come then it is your choice...
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@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
7 Jul 09
No, I don't think you have to. If you feel guilty about it, then find her a decent gift. But if it were me, I would save it for her wedding day in August. Just explain to her you can't make but will be attending the August ceremony. She should understand it. After all, you still need to save up for August. Money is a major during this recession period.
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