What would be a deal breaker to you in a relationship?

For me it's infidelity.. There's nothing more hurtful than being lied about that I'm the only one in a man's life. If I find out that my partner is having another affair I will break up with him without hearing any explanations from my partner. I cannot trust him anymore. It happened to me once and I really cried sooo hard. I cried for weeks. But the experience was somehow helpful for me. It made me a very strong woman. Ciao!

Cheating would be a deal breaker in my relationship. Nothing more to say...

Hello mermaidivy, I think if my partner cheated on me, I still can forgive and continue with the relationship but the most hurtful thing that I cannot accept in a relationship is when my partner has no more trust on me, always feel suspicious though it is already proven many times, that I am a trusted person. It is just hard to know that the person closest to you, the most that you love, feels that you can't be trusted though you never do anything to prove that!

I think any sort of cheating would do that. I don't feel that I would put up with that in a relationship. Don't get me wrong I put up with a lot of crap from people, but I want to be number one in there heart and I dont want to share. Everyone has things they would and wouldnt put up with though.

I think it would all boil down to one word that means many things. A lie. Lie about where they are, about money, who they are with. A Lie can cover a lot of things, but that is the deal breaker for me. If they lie, then how do you know when they ever tell the truth. And if you can't be honest in a relationship, then you really don't have one.

i am currently married for 3 years, but before my husband now i had a relationship where the guy was always playing video games, worrying more about his friends, playing computer games, etc.... he never game me his attention and i couldnt get him to leave the house. even on holidays and special occasions if i wasnt begging or bribing him to go out he wasnt going to go eventually i left him and when i was gone for 4 months he got in touch with me through a letter and said he didnt know what he had til it was gone. too bad for him tho. with a marriage though i think the biggest thing would be an affair. once that happens all the trust is gone and when that is gone you dont have any foundation left!

had a few of those... there was one guy who didn't seem to care much to even call me unless i call him first, so i just stoped calling him and when he called me a few month later i told him to get lost... the other guy figured he can date 2 girls at the same time and get away with it. i broke up with him but the other girl didn't. a month later he wrote me that he cant stop thinking about me even when he is in bed with the other girl, i forwarded it to her and she forgave him once again... i think after that if i were her i would've killed him lol...

Dealbreakers to me would be: cheating or abuse. Honestly if my boyfriend EVER hit me i'd probably hit back and leave him. I wouldnt just take it and stay with him. I havent encountered any of those two deal breakers. However i was involved with a guy..i think his dealbreaker when he encountered it was...he found out he wasnt interested in women. Now hes very happily dating a guy and we're still pretty good friends.

Hi mermaid...If I found out that the person was cheating on me I don't think that I could go on with the relationship. I think that would make me completely heartbroken. I've had relationships in the past - before I was married - that the person told me he didn't love me and never did. That was the end of the relationship - he said he was looking for a friend - I wanted a husband - it took another 5 years but I found my husband at last and I don't think he would ever say that to me or cheat on me. He knows how I feel.