Do you get tired of yelling?

You know that reminds me of my sisters son and my sister in laws daughter. I hate to disappoint you in this..but both are now almost 18 and they still have to be told everyday and still have to argue and fight about it.

I may be out of line here, but my 7 year old son was just diagnosed with ADHD about 6 months ago. Before his diagnosis and medication I was at my whits end. I felt like all I did all day long was scream. He would do anything that would pop into his head at that moment and deal with the consequences later.And to ask him to do any kind of chore or multiple tasks was like beating my head against a wall. It would just be faster to do it myself. Hope you don't find my post as offensive. Just trying to offer some kind of suggestion.

I can understand your feeling since i experience the same thing in my home.My elder son is very forgetful ,never does his work at the right time and burns the midnight oil.WE have adviced him many times,but nothing goes into his ears.both me and my hubby become very annoyed at times.He can be a little, bit smart,not very smart .but being a parent of 12 year old son only we should be patient ,since he is at the begining of his teens.We should make ourself steady to remain calm and manage any situation so that we dont get our health spoiled.

Oh, I'm so past tired of yelling lol. My girls are 4 and 6. The only thing they have to do right now is keep their toys picked up and unload the dishwasher. The dishwasher they do as a team. I'm constantly telling them to pick up their toys. They go pretend like they are going to start doing it then as soon as I quit watching they start playing again. I just try to find they one thing they would miss if I took it away and use that as incentive. I recently grounded them for the first time. I asked my daughter if she knew what it meant to be grounded and she shook her head yes. So I said "Good, you're grounded for a week." lol. She was a little shocked but she has been a little better because we just got a wii and she wants to play it. I don't think you are wrong to expect him to know how to do his chores right by now. I'd start selling his video games lol. That might get him in line.

As you know, my kids aren't old enough yet, but I think it is the tween thing. My nieces do the same thing. I would say it is a phase. One of my friends has just stopped yelling. The kids have been given chores,if they aren't done in a certain time frame, no phone. She kept one kids phone for almost a month. Another cant watch tv. I don't know if it working, haven;t checked in with her in about a week. lol Good luck, hang in there.

Have you tried to give him some incentive to do his chores without being reminded and to do them right? Maybe give him a pass that allows him to skip out on one of his chores, of his choosing, once in a while? Sometimes kids need something positive like this to get them motivated. I know that with my children if I praise them for what they've done right and then tell them where they could have improved they seem to be more willing to give my ideas a listen because I am not only pointing out what they did wrong but I've recognized what they've done right. Or you could maybe offer him a pass that allows him extra time to play video games at the end of the week if he's done his chores for the week without having to be reminded often or doing them right. Or maybe you can keep track on a calendar whenever he does do his chores on his own and right and after so many days he can get a special treat, like maybe renting a new video game or go out for ice cream. Just try to keep yourself calm, don't let it get you too stressed, a lot of kids don't like doing chores and just need the extra motivation. I know I have to motivate myself often to do laundry because I despise it.

I know how you feel. My 12 yr old son is very rebellious. He even goes as far as trying to tell me its woman s work. I'm not sure where he has heard that one. I have done the grounding, taking games and computer time away and haven't found anything that works either. I have taken all my girls toys out of the home when they refused to clean. All that did was make more work on me. They had to earn them back but they didn't really mind not having them there. I wish I had some ideas to give you but I dont. All I have is sympathy. I wish you good luck and I guess good luck for me too. lol.

yes, i get tired very much actually. My eldest is already 7 and I'm also having to constantly remind her of what to do. Even at eating time, she tends to loose herself talking and would forget to put food inside her mouth, in turn everyone else will be done eating and she would still be halfway through. It is really frustrating. I also don't know what to do with her. My youngest is 4 and still on his curious side and playful side and needs to still be constantly followed around, he climbs chairs, hide under the bed or the table and I even had a time when I fear he was lost since I was calling him and he weren't responding, turns out he was 'hiding' from me. I cried and he was sorry, but then afterwards things got back to the same problems i face with them I even told my husband this, I'm tired, so tired, of always getting mad, of always being the one to do the disciplining of the children. I'm tired of getting angry, I'm tired of frowning all the time and being the bad guy all the time. I too get so frustrated when they think that they will be able to get 'rewards' without even following anything I say and gets mad at me if I don't give in to what they want. i even started a post here asking how to control one's temper since I really am wanting to not get mad anymore and maybe I get a way to get my children to behave once my mind is clear from all this frustrations.

hi katsmeow, i have also got the same experience but my son is 30 years and doing a responsible job in the bank, do ing telling lie every time, plese try any hypnotist and arrange for councelling several times,i think your son will come to right i think,best of every thing will be solved

My middle son is like this. He is 18 years old right now. I wish I could tell you that it will get better. It seems that there has to be a rebel in every bunch of kids though. My son is very much like me in many aspects. We are both hard headed and I think that has alot to do with his attitude toward doing things that I tell him to do. Even though all of my children are teenagers there are still certain chores they have to do. One is to keep their rooms clean, take out the trash, do their own laundry and then in the evenings they wash the dishes from supper. I always remind all of them to make sure they do the dishes for the evening before going to bed. I have to remind my middle son at least 3 times before I retire for the evening. If I wake up in the morning and the dishes are not done I will wake the person up who is responsible for doing the dishes. This ruins their day because I wake up at around 5 am every morning! I had to do this to my middle son on Tuesday morning in fact. The rest of the week he has gotten the dishes done in the evening time. Good luck with your child. I cannot offer any tips or successful tips. I am afraid it is one of those habitual things that you will have to just keep talking to him.

I also experienced the same thing with you. I also difficult to manage my child. but as parents we must be patient. however, they are still children, they want to do what they like. we as parents must drive only, and tells the truth and who is wrong.

Maybe giving him a reward or a kiss or hug will do. Yelling doesn't help or change him. Try another move instead of yelling at him. If you feel tired about yelling, and so does he. He would just feel hatred. this hatred will form into a chain, which would make your family broken. There are better ways of disciplining a child. You can search it in the internet. Spread Love. I don't like yelling or to be yelled at.

Well i cannot get tired of yelling because i am still single with no kids well ofcourse in the future i will get kids of my own and then i will know if yelling gets you tired.

Kids are like that. I remembered when I was young, the simplest chores my mom told me, to dry the laundry, I was not happy to do. Anything told by my mom to do, I'll try my best NOT to do it. It was like, simply being rebellous you know? No way I think my Mom can persuade me to do anything. Until one day she rewards me. Each chores I do, I get rewarded like extra tv time, extra pocket money and so on. At that age, I want to feel that I am in control and having the feelings that I am able to 'earn' something satisfy me. So, try to relate this to your son and see what can work out from there?

I know exactly how you feel. My kids do the same thing to me. They do something I started taking everything away from them, no tv, no nothing, but now their attitudes are the same and they don't care if I take everything away from them. It gets very frustrating, and am only hoping it is just a phase that they will grow out of, I am doing the best I can with raising them and guiding them. (Sometimes though I really do wish they came with an on/off switch. lol)