If your friend broke your trust...?

Its really a case to case basis. How one would forgive or look over someone's shortcoming when it comes to trust. Some people are really forgiving while others don't really bother forgiving a person for doing something disappointing. In some situations, it would really depend on the magnitude of the information and detail. If it is something that would really tarnish one's reputation, I guess it would really be difficult to forgive that person who intentionally or unintentionally made it aware for others. Three chances would seem reasonable for things that aren't really that serious. If they could not keep simple information for themselves, what more if you would tell them delicate details? I would only trust those who I know that also trust me as well.

Who would know it better than me? I experienced this painful thing in life. I had a so called best friend. I helped him many time and so did he.But He also asked for money when he needed and all.But i observed he was somehow avoiding me when i moved to my home city. The main reason was he was not getting so much help then. Then the broke my trust and I am in no more contact with him.

There is room for forgiveness but I am not sure If I am ready to accept him or her to be my friend again. In friendship it is not easy to give your trust, giving your trust is like giving your life, so if someone fails to take good care of that trust, it is like ruining my life. Those friends who broke my trust must start from zero, to gain my trust again. There is always a second chance, but i will not pormise that I can give back my trust 100%.

Hi raj, friendships come in many forms as what you categorized them here. We may have friends who doesn't tell the truth, and then returns to apologize and thinks everything will be all right. But after a couple of such betrayals, you may just not be able to trust her again. But ask yourself if you are being fair, and how many chances a person should get before you just have to turn away. I could still excuse one or twice betrayals and a third may still survive my trust but anything beyond that needs my serious attention. Unfortunately, part of the problem is that if they continue to engage in betrayal behavior, are consistently forgiven and are considered trustworthy, the more likely they are to continue along that path. There is little motivation to change. If I decide to still want a friend in my life for whatever reason, I have to change the nature of the friendship. I do not want to leave myself open or vulnerable.

I give one chance only. Anyone can utter something accidentally and I will forgive them. But if they do it again, I will no longer trust them. I learned a long, long time ago not to burden a friend with secrets. It's really not fair to them because it's against our nature to keep a secret. If I do not tell a friend secrets, I don't risk their betrayal. I keep my secrets to myself for the most part. If I absolutely need to tell someone, I'll tell my mother or sister or my stepmother.

At whatever level of friendship I hold someone, breaking my trust plays a huge role in whether or not we continue to be friends. I do not give up to three chances either. Once I get the feeling that you are prone to hurt me through your actions I call it quits. I also prefer to be upfront with people so that person would know for sure that I am no longer interested in having them as a friend and exactly why I no longer want this. I really find it rather difficult to smile with and be comfortable with persons I do not trust.

Friendship is most beautiful and if any one kind of breaks my trust I am ready to give him/her a second chance. I would try to work on situations that could bring us back together gain. But if the same repeats I think I would be hurt, sad and let go. Some people are never destined to be together and I think its better for both to stay part.

I vaguely recall having answered another similar discussion topic of yours Rajib about a friend who spoke ill behind one's back. The same thing stands. Once betrayed it is difficult to continue giving the same sort of trust we placed earlier in this friend.This does not mean we sulk or anything but we just keep the friend at a greater distance and what is once lost cannot be got back with the same intensity.

I have two friends that I felt were my best friends. I have known them forever and they know my history and the type of person I am. Or least I thought they both did. Now one is like a sister to me so I know above all else that she can be trusted. The other one always was a bit off and has recently showed herself to be a deceitful and betraying person. It is sad too because she lives close and we used to have such fun together. I will not put up with such people and I told her goodbye and have not spoken to her since I found out about what happened.

I had an experience of this once. That I promised to myself not to treat him anymore the way it used to be. It took a year or two before we met again but I had forgiven him and forget everything that passed....

hi dada friendship is the closest relationship. i feel that if there is no trust or if there are betrayals in a relationship then there is no existance of friendship. i had a friend whom i trusted a lot and even respected her. she somehow broke my trust. i came to know about it after long but the moment i came to know about her deeds i walked out of the relationship. when you trust someone, you give her 100% chnace to be your friend. if they are unable to carry those chances then the rest of the chances would do no good for them. giving such people a second chance is inviting touble for yourself.

i understand your problem because once my friend also broke my faith when i shared my secret with him , i did not even dreamed that my best friend can do it when we both quarreled he said all my secrets to my enemies through which i had my weak point and they would always teaze me in my class if i would try to hit them they would shout the hint of my secret through which i would shut my mouth rather than scolding them. then from that time i only share my secrets with those whose secrets were with me too so that when they try to spread out my secrets then i may say that "if u will say mine then i will say yours to your parents too". so remember when u share something with your friends then u must have something about them okay! "take care"

Its True that will all need friends to share some things that we can not share with the family but at times we get pushed towards people who might ultimately try to take advantage of our situations.. One can be easily cheated if we entrust in the other person without actually knowing him /her so its important to know the other person before considering him/ her as your good, best friend .

Well, breaking trust is very bad, but (i know it is easier to talk than to do) you should always give a chance. As Jesus Christ said " if your brother offends you do not forgive him 7 times, but 70 times 7". This applies to any friend, as i believe all humans are brothers, and of course the 70 x 7 means infinite. So, to me, this is very clear, you should always give another chance, not of course letting people to harm you. happy myloting

Depends on the nature of the breach of faith, how close the friend is, etc. It would have to be something pretty big for me to drop a friend altogether, but I would stop telling her things that I didn't want anybody else to know.

After the third time, I would have a small amount of trust of the person. This has actually happened several times to me, so I am not making an opinion based on imagination. In two cases the broken trust had a great impact on my life, so the status of those involved changed from friends to acquaintances. Where the impact is small I treat them like normal friends.

Hello my friend Rajib Ji, AS far as we both are concerned, we have never been instrumental in breaking any kind of friendship. But my hubby had a friend since child-hood and now because of difference of opinion, he feels guilty and friendship is broken. It is a great set back. It holds good for everyone of us here. May god bless You and have a great time.

Anytime you tell someone a "secret" you risk it being found out. If your friend has a big mouth then you don't tell your friend anything you would not like to have repeated. If the friend is committing larger acts of disloyalty such as stealing or getting involved with a mate or marriage partner there is no need to continue to call that person a friend.

My personality has the tendency on not to trust again if my trust has been broken by a dear friend. I think I will forgive her the first time but the second time she did it to me, I think I cannot give her back the chance. Hapy myloting.

Haveing friends is one of the hapyy things in me life.But it has confused me for a long time that what is a real friend should have.I am a student,I cann;t tell apart who is friend,who is classmates .It is interesting.But I do have some real friends I think.They whould back at me whatever is happen.So I am luck and happy.