Do you forgive the one who betrays you?

wow this being back memoriz i been were you are b4 i will not for give them if they didn't even talk you or appoiz after that mostly they were never your friends in the being when i was in the plance i didn't hold in my tears i would go in my room and cry and after i do that i feel better it my seem like good stuff is happeding now for them but belive my its not, when i got tired of being mad some much i let go some of the anger i feel much better but i'm not going to talk to them. One night i was hanging out by myself and one of my so call friend was there at the movies she try to hug me i backed away then she started crying i just stod there then she tells me that she thinks her b4 is cheating on here i stared laghting be big time and i told her you mean the b4 you stold from me, she looked at me agin and i told her now you know how i feelt and i walked away you went and enjoy my movie tell this day they both try to talk to me but i tell them i have no time for you. forgiving people can be hard, i thing it depents on the person and what they did. I did ended up forgiveing them but i still don't tall to them even tho they keep calling me.

I understand how you feel. I also experience a betrayal of the one you trust. Somehow i was able to forget in the long run but I was never in a good relationship with that friend again.

That is the worst thing a friend can do to me...betray me, my trust, my confidence and everything else. But then, I can forgive them but never forget about it. Their will never be a relationship between us anymore even if our friendship was on for years. Friends never do that to you. I believe in Karma so whatever they do to me, will be done to them by others too.

I do. Time heals. I only have one close friend since college and we’ve gone through a lot of things. We had our bad and good times and we would never forget those. She betrayed me and some those times, she didn’t know that I know but it’s ok. And I know that she knows or at least have an idea that I betrayed her in the past. But we remain friends and we let go. We still planned a yearly outing or yearly going-back-to-old-times vacation back in our old city. It’s lovely and I like it. I guess it’s how deep or how you manage to make every thing fair for you both. Not betraying each other because one wanted to be on top of the other.

you still wish to talk to them and vent out your emotions, this means you still feel their absence in your life and your love for them is true. they betrayed you and lost your friendship, this is their loss not yours because you are capable of making new friends and you have the right to have have freinds who are worth calling friends. those who betrayed you would never understand your emotions and sheding tears in front of them is not worth. why would you share your emotion with those whom you cannot trust. if you show your helplessness then the would be happy to see you in distress. it is the beginning of a new phase of your life. start afresh, make new freinds and this time be cautious while selecting people.

just let it be. one of my friends betrayed me, even thought she didnt mean it. It does happen and hurts me bad. People say time can heal the wound, but as far as i am concerned, once the gap is developed, it can never be bridged. So even if she made some compliments later, we cannot go back to the past.

i also hate a betrayal and it is hard for me to forgive a betrayal as well... once my trust is betrayed, it will be very hard for me to be able to trust the person ever again... i might be able to forgive the person after some time... but i might not be able to trust the person completely again anymore and i might put a distance with the person as well... take care and have a nice day...

I am very sorry to hear that your friends have betrayed you. I can imagine how you feel right now but you need to move on. If I am on your case, I may forgive the person who betrays me but I will never forget what he/she has done to me. I will not be able to trust that person again. Its easy to make friends but its hard to have a real good friend. A friend in need is a friend indeed.

hello there! at first i thought i could never forgive such selfishness from other people but i was wrong..as time goes by, i realized that i would lose more if i contain anger or resentment in my heart..i'll never be healed from they pain the gave me so i forgave them already and i tell you, it's truly one amazing feeling and the healing really starts..so i suggest, forgive them now and be healed from the pain of the the event. good luck!

I'm sorry if you feel that way and curse those people who dare hurt you! Anyway, as for me, I don't want to carry that extra baggage of heavy feeling day in day out, so as much as possible, I let go of the bad and think of the good that we had. I do not forgive the person right then and there, it is impossible for me to let it go AT ONCE. but i do make it a point to release my frustrations of the betrayal as days pass, so i'll find myself okay and ready to face that person again in a few days or weeks.

I was recently betrayed by my "best friend". I will not forgive her for what she has done. I specifically asked her not to share information that I told her with anyone, specifically anyone in my family. What does she do? She runs and tells my sister and tries to call my mom. I will never forgive her and I have wrote her off as a friend.

I am currently betray by a friend. I was suppose to resign this month of August. I confide it with a dear friend (we are friends for 10 years) who also work with the company I am in. I told her that it should be kept a secret because I want to be the one to announced it. She assure me that she won't tell anyone. A week after a colleague ask me if I have plans to resign. I was caught surprise but remain calm, I interrogated him, ask him who told him. He told me that our boss mentioned it to him and even ask him to snoop around me to confirm if its true. This colleague told me also that my boss got it from my friend. I was very disappointed with my friend. To save my face, I told my colleague that it was just rumor and that I really have no plans to resign. Currently, I am not talking to my so called friend. I don't understand why she has to tell my boss my plans. I really cannot trust her anymore.

i think things like that would happen in everywehre. Don't make it a bigger things. Just forget it. if you can't forget it you will never have peace for yourself. if you don't need to contact with this person then you will forget in some time. if you still need to face the person then try to dear with it carefully. it's a lesson you have got from life. Tell yourself never be betrayed again by same person.

I am like you. Betrail, a lie ~ the same thing in my book. There is nothing that bad that if we talk about it together we can't deal with it. But asking God to punish someone isn't good either! It puts you in a bad position in God eyes. I explain to people I meet within hours; that if we ever expect to be friends, there are two things. There are like two rules I follow in my life with people. All people. No matter what age, six to sixty. I can not be friends with a liar or a thief! I tell them that there is nothing I own that if i am asked the right way about and they really wanted it. I would probably just give it to them. They didn't have to steal it from me. Things can be replaced, friends are hard to come by. Trustworthy friends are hard to find. But, a liar. that is something different. Don't ever lie to me. I can't forgive that. There is nothing bad enough to lie about. A few of our past Presidents found that out! "I never had relations with that woman!" Yep we believe you. So what is Oral touching? So there is your answer. No I can't forgive betrayal.

I have had people betray me, in fact one close friend. I forgive her over and over year after year. I kept saying okay, it wasn't that bad, I can get over this. And I did. But one day she betrayed me in a big way, in a way that I just couldn't overlook, one that affected my entire life. So while I eventually forgave her, I never let her back in my life. Don't be so hard on yourself. It takes time to forgive someone. Just because you don't feel it right away doesn't mean you won't get to that point. And I finally realized that forgiveness doesn't mean we have to keep in contact with the person, that we have to be around them. God doesn't expect that. He just wants us to get to where we can forgive them, like He did us. But it takes time. And in the meantime, I'll be praying for you.

..well, I'd been betrayed and those were the most terrible times in my life.. You're right, it's really difficult to forgive and forget.. However, if you analyze the situation, you, being the betrayed, will never find peace and happiness since you have anger and hatred in your heart and mind.. What I did was, (I was brought up in a Christian way too)I told myself that those persons who betrayed me were just instrumental to test how strong my faith in God is.. I did my best not to hate the person but hate the thing that the person did to me.. It's hard, I'm telling you but if you open your heart for forgiveness, then you will be free from hatred and you will try to smile genuinely again.. It's been years that you've been betrayed by your friends.. It's high time that you forgive them.. As the bible says, being a child of God, you have to let your light shine in darkness.. Your friends have done something against you, what you have to do is learn from that experience and never do it to other people.. try to teach yourself to make friends with other people.. remember, we have different personalities.. Those who betrayed will not be the same to other people.. You are very much welcome to cry, but you have to promise yourself that after crying, you will not be crying for the same reason again.. show to your friends that they did not defeat you by betraying you.. show them that you can succeed despite of the bad experiences you had with them.. God bless and I wish you the best..

Nope, I never forgive a betrayal. This is the extreme of the action that a person could come upon. I could understand your case.

I have had alot of my friends betray me and it hurts alot because they are suppose to be your friends. I have forgave them but it always turned out the same way. They would be betray me again which ends up in a lost friendship. I hate it when it happens no matter how fun that friend that betrays you is but it is better off that way. True friends are out there but very hard to find. The people that are usually at the sidelines that are quite and don't have that many friends are the one you want to be your friend depite how nerdy they are. It's sad but true. People look at the nerdy people different when in fact they might be the best friend you ever had.

How would I feel? I'd feel sick inside. Don't ask God to punish them...ask him to help you forgive them...you won't forget them, but don't keep it inside day after day. By doing that, they just keep betraying you over and over again!!! I've never been betrayed quite like that, but sorta a little bit. It is a sickening feeling...all I'd want to do is cry.

I was in your shoes back when I was in college when I had a group of so-called friends who I ended up having some bad terms with. Just because of a guy they all turned there backs but I never asked any of them to side with me against one of our friends. I told them that I do not have to justify myself to all of them because they all know me. I stayed mad with them for a few years and when I see them nowadays they all say sorry for the stupid thing they have done but I hardly talk to them since there is nothing good to talk about with those people who betrayed me for nothing at all.