My friend stopped being my friend because another lied about what I said

hi little i believe that you should not worry about loosing this friend .. as she has got no stand of her own .. she should be judging you with her own views rather than listening to others a quote for you dear little : Let us believe neither half of the good people tell us of ourselves, nor half of the evil they say of others. J. Petit Senn

Ah yes, it is indeed difficult to clear the air if the other party does not want to hear you out. I do not know how deep your friendship is with this 'friend', but if she won't talk or listen to you, try and send an email to her... Tell her everything and convince her, but don't expect too much out of it because it is up to her to believe you or not. If you are being honest like you said, sooner or later the truth will surface. In the mean time, try to focus more on the friends who value you most, friends who don't judge you because of one stupid lie. Cheers!

Well at least you have us here , hope the misunderstanding will resolve soon , anyway if he/she believe the bad rumours about you , this means your friendship isn't strong and i can tell you , you can forget about her for the time being .

It really hurts when someone close to you believes someone else and does not even give you a chance to defend yourself.. In the end that person is not worth having around if they can not let you talk... May be you were set up by the person so then they can have your friend to them self... People can be so greedy and rude!! I would back off and see what happens to unfold and if your friend did come back around at a future date, and if you decide to have the time for that person; look at the situation as a whole.. and not just part of it.. meaning did your ex friend come back because he/she wanted to or was it just to please the other person that was saying those lies... If that is the case then your friendship in the end is not worth mind games.. Personally I would rather be alone then having that stuff going on in the back drop.. Good luck to you, and I hope you feel better

If you haven't tried to explain to her yet, then maybe it's high time you do, for all you know this is just what she's waiting for, a gesture from you to face the issue head on and talk it out together. If you don't do this she will continue to believe that what your other friend said were true, and your character will forever be assassinated without any effort on your part to prevent it, or salvage it. If she is really a friend, she will listen, if she doesn't, maybe she never was, to begin with.

Well you could try these: -Tell her your side of the story and hopefully get her to believe it (Bring a present) -Show her that you are her friend! Not some person who hangs around with her and does not even consider you a friend. -Apologise. It wouldn't hurt. TRY! -Don't insist upon your story. Give her time! -And when all else fails SERENADE!!!!!

In my case, I would regard the other person as not being worthy to be a close friend. A true friend could seek clarification on the allegations thrown by other people. True friends should do this, especially if they have known us for sometime. When someone else says something in contradiction, they should make a careful investigation, instead of believing every single word. Personally I do not expect my friends to blindly defend me on every issue. But going to the other side without analysing the facts indicates a fickle person, one who is easily swayed by strong words. Is she really worth the trouble?

Have you stepped up in your friendship with your friend and actually talked to her about this? Telling her what is the truth in what she heard is the bet way to gain your friendship back with her and maybe if talking doesnt help her then maybe you can write her on facebook or write her a email and let her know the truth about the situation and what maybe happened after all. Having your true friends in life is very important and i hope things work out the way you would like them too. Have a great day mylotting at least.

Explain your part to her whether she listens or not.. the important is that you've done your part. If she doesn't believe you then move on. At least you clarified the situation. When the day comes that she's not blinded anymore of what she believes then she'll come to realize your side.

Well, if she is willing to believe total tripe about you, than she wasn't your friend in the first place. She's obviously a very shallow person if she didn't ask you about it first and gave you an even chance to explain. She lost out on something special, its no skin off your back. Sorry if I don't saddened or anything, I think the tone here is kinda hard. But I had friends snub me before, but in worse ways. One pretened to like me, but then she told all of her friends that she was only my friend because she felt sorry for me. Another was a black kid, and I am white and not racist at all. But one sunday I couldn't play because we had to go to church, and my Mom loves kids and she's nice. So this friend, called my house, cussed me and my parents out and left racial slurres against us on our machine. So, that was the end of that one. That's why my tone may be a bit hard, if someone does that than they weren't worthy of my friendship in the beginning. So this person obviously isn't worth your time or friendship if she believes tripe that you family and close, close blood sister/brother friends can say are lies as well.