Love Marriages or Arrange Marriages!!Which is better?

well both have their advantages and disadvantages lets talk about love marriages and its advantages in love marriages you know your partner very well,and you know that you can mange well with him or her. now arrange marriages and its advantages you parents choose for you as they are more experienced and your and your partner can adjust in family well

Hi there btamanna! Whether love marriage or arranged marriage is not really the issue. What is more important is to make sure that the marriage works. Perhaps the reason why some people think that arranged marriages do not work is that they do not have an open mind. I believe that it all depends on how the couple will make the marriage work. [b] To keep the fire burning brightly there's one easy rule: Keep the two logs together, near enough to keep each other warm and far enough apart - about a finger's breadth - for breathing room. Good fire, good marriage, same rule. [/b] ~Marnie Reed Crowell

I can see your point and I"m sure it can work and be a positive experience for some people. Surely if it's part of the culture where one grows in. I'm sure love can exist in an arranged marriage. I"m also sure that it doesn't necessarily have to. Love marriages can also work and be a positive experience. Except that we don't have anyone but us to blame if it turns out it doesn't work. I really don't find a way to compare both, because they are so different in essence. I prefer to make my own choices. That's what I did, and here I am almost 25 years later and not regretting it. Does that mean that I decided not to talk to my family before I took that step and didn't listen to what they had to say? Not at all. I did. But in the end I made my own choices and my own decision. I am not able to make a choice to which one is better, because they each have their points. Actually I do not think one can be chosen to be better than the other. It depends on the people involved and their preferences, nothing else.

you definitely have a point there. arranged marriages are definitely done after much thought. many might say love marriage is better and i do agree on that too. but i have to say that arranged marriage is not as bad as many people make out to be. it's just like match making, and it up to us whether we like them or not. of course, if we don't really want to marry but are 'forced to' due to some circumstances, then we will not look upon arranged marraiges kindly. but yes, our parents want the best for us, thus arranged marriages and all exist. and yes, sometimes, it does bring cohesion in the family and the husband and wife tend to fall in love. of course, not all marriages might work that way too and the opposite might happen.

I would have to say LOVE MARRIAGES. I do not believe in arranged marriages. No one else should be able to say who you should and should not marry. You love you want and marry who you love. not just someone off the street that someone else says will be good for you.

The question is not in which is better but to make it better.Both can be worse or the BEST, you must have the right kind of idea to approach your marriage.

i just think arrange marriage is for practicality, lots of people will surely pick love marriage because its right to follow what the heart wants.. yada yada, though i personally pick love marriage because im one of those people who prefer to give my heart to someone rather than following orders from someone

I believe we should go as per the society and current culture, previously parents were taking the decision because girls never come out side of the homes they were rarely getting chance to meet guys and there was no chance to fall in love with guys . but now days there are co-education schools and boys and girls are studying together they are spending time together they know each other and they judge each other then fall in love because marriage is a mutual understanding between two person and their soul so it is better to know each other before get married, so in my opinion love marriage is much better than arrange marriage

I did chose my husband it was my decision as I live in a free thinking country we can actually decide what we like to do. I personally do not agree with pre- arranged marriages, but who is to say whether this is right or wrong? well sure it won't be me! because I have divorced twice!

In modern society its a norm that we choose our spouse.You have a great discussion here and i agree with you on all aspect but now we are living in a society where youths rebel against religion,moral value of family and so forth.Now imagine you decide that you will choose a husband/wife for your child,do you honestly believe that they will abide by your decision?Nope.They will do everything in their power to get their way.Now children can legally divorce their parents.I hope i am using the right term.I think that we should consider the repercussions of arranged marriage in our society today.

I respect your opinion, but I've grown up in a culture where in people are allowed or given the choice to select the person they want for a husband or a wife. Arrange marriage is not wrong, but I don't think it's better than love marriage. I've grown knowing I'll marry the man of my choice. My parents would not dream of interferring when it comes to my love life. I think there are people who made an arranged marriage successful. It all depends on the couple to make it work.

Hi! Everyone has a different opinion on this subject. I think it is better to have a love marriage. If you have an arranged marriage, it is someone else telling you who you get to spend the rest of your life with and who you should love. I think you should be able to decide who you love and who you would rather have as a friend, or not at all.

Let me tell you first of all marriage itself is a risk. Then a better risk is arranged marriage. Because if the husband cannot give importance to us any day, at least he'll have a fear about parents what they may think about him, so he'll not loose his control. And he'll be in his limits. Otherwise if you believe a man for his lovely words, we'll be cheated and nothing else. Whatever he does with us we should obey him without uttering a word. Every girl must know the facts. Why should any one love her. He says you are my angel, I can die for you. etc, just to use the girl. And when he fished her in his net, he'll think of another fish. Here he's not at all bothered about anyone. Where as in arranged marriage, we can blame our elders for his wrong deeds, and they'll teach him a good lesson and he'll become set right in a correct way. So girls, be careful. Don't get attracted for boys' words. They are not trust worthy. They are like honey-bees. When the work with you is finished, they can't stop there. But a poor girl loves a boy and lives throughout her life just for him. She can not even think of another person. But the boy wants very girl for him. Two typical mentalities can not be set without elders' treatment.

To me, a good marriage is a marriage that last regardless of whether it is a love marriage or an arranged marriage. We have heard dreadful stories of loveless arranged marriage while at the same time, the divorce rate of love marriages are staggering. Hence, my conclusion is as long as it last, it is good marriage.

In the West we are not very used to arranged marriages. Royalty and the upper classes in our society do have a far more restricted choice than most of the common folk and marriages are (or were) often arranged more out of political expediency than out of love though, as you point out, love is not necessarily absent. The problem that most people in the UK have with arranged marriages is that we too often see girls (and young men) forced against their will to marry someone they have never seen and there is much evidence of pain and real harm to children of those cultures which believe in arranged marriages. They have very often grown up in a culture which is very different to that in which their parents grew up and, though, many do accept the advice and seek the blessing of their parents and family, they want to be 'British' and feel that to cling to some of the traditions of their families is not appropriate for them. I see many of the advantages in the arguments you put for arranged marriages and, in ideal circumstances, there may indeed be much to be said for it. Unfortunately, the bitter fact is that, in many Asian-British families, the young people are not consulted and girls, especially, are not infrequently taken back to the country of origin to visit family members, only to find that they are to be married against their will. I believe that that is wrong and a complete violation of human rights as we see them. As British citizens, these young people have a right to protection from that violation. Britain has a much less close-knit, family-based society than you do in your country and we try to welcome foreign nationals who come here to live and prosper. These people, however, have to realise that in order to integrate into British society, they may have to accept the British way of life and British laws to some extent. On the plus side, I believe that people of other cultures living in Britain have much to give us culturally. Many, for example, can give us Brits a very necessary lesson in politeness, respect and openness ... some of the aspects of humanity which seem to be lacking in places. Merging two different cultures is often difficult and I feel very much for the young people who have to (and want to) integrate into one culture and language at school and work and come back to a very different one when they go home to their families. It must cause a great deal of stress and friction. This is not to say that it cannot be done: merely that making it successful and beneficial to both cultures is not easy!

I want to marry someone that I love. I want to have the final decision when I'm old enough to know what is good for me. Plus what happens if the one that I'm suppose to marry I don't get along with and I meet someone say in high school or college that I want to be with.

hmmm, me too i feel arranged marriages r better than love... what if your decision goes wrong??? am sure parents wont make mistakes in choosing a partner for their children??? of course, there are certain arranged marriages facing failures, but the percentage is very low, compared wid love marriage...

Arranged marriage is good when your parents want to secure your future with a person who is financially stable. It gives you security and prepare your children for a comfortable life. Some says that even if you do not love the person you marry as you live in one house love will develop. It will not be faster but in a slower process but both of you will realize that your parents choose this person to be your wife or husband, not only for his financial status but for his kind behavior and other good qualities.

Did someone told you that they hate arranged marriage? I think both Love and Arranged has it's pro and cons. No love Marriage was successfull 100% neither Arranged Marriage.An individual has to analyse themself whether or not they can live with a partner who will be watchin him/her 24x7. No point if one is not ready for marriage at all, go get involved in such activities! Both is same to me! Person is what matters.

Hi, I agree with your opinion that arranged marriages are better than love marriage. Actually the risks involved are a little less than love marriage because in an arranged marriage so far as I believe every aspect is well checked and analysed by all family members who have taken the effort to arrange for the marriage, whereas in a love marriage only the two are involved and they keep it as a secret that no one comes to know about their affair till they actually get wedded as they do not want anyone to object them from getting married. In case their is a failure in their wedded life no one comes to help them and they are left alone as it was their own decision. But, in a arranged marriage the parents of both the bride and the groom are there to help you at any time of trouble, to guide you to the right path and in case of any difference of opinion between the spouses they are there to help. So I think arranged marriages are better than love marriage.