An Apology

I just started a similar discussion. I dont even know what they are talking about and I am being attacked for having a friends back. I think it is big of you to apologize. I dont really want to comment because I honestly dont know why everyone was mad at me. I was being attacked something fierce. I have been receiving miserable responses all day. I too put an end to it. I think that as disagreeing is healthy, namecalling is not. Unless you are poking fun playfully between friends. No one should have the right to call anyone anything. dl I still have your back no matter what dl.

I have been in a discussion that kept going and neither one of us were getting through to each other . And we kept saying the same things . At one point I just deleted all the responses in my inbox.I don't have time for all this foolessness.

I have seen discussions that have taken on a life of its own, & even been a part of it. Quite often, we're laughing our way through it, but it does sometimes get disasterous. In some cases, I have been responsible for MAKING a discussion take on a life of its own. It's called hijacking a discussion. I've also been involved or hijacked a discussion on other forums. I was sort of involved in that mess. I also see from the MyLot emails that several people did what you suggested. In my case, I asked two. One is only half Black (his father) & around my age, & he agreed with me. Another, a guy in his 70's who's actually a friend of my father's - asking him was a big mistake from the earful I got about your mentioning of racism undoing what he & many others have worked hard to accomplish back when segregation was still an issue. I also see from the emails I got someone else also took your advice. Anyway, I'm sure that it has also been a learning experience where it's always best to ask before jumping to conclusions. The only stupid questions are the ones that are not asked. Speaking about segregation, assuming that your age in your profile is correct, I do wonder if you were involved in those incidents. Maybe discussions on those might be some things that can be talked about by someone who was actually there for those of us who only hear about it in history classes & read about them in history books. You probably know where I swiped that line I had in my comment to your comment from: "No matter how hard you try You can't stop me now"

I'm all for moving on as well. I hope you continue to have a good time on mylot and that we can put this behind us a misunderstanding that got out of hand. Like you said in one of your discussions, without rain there can't be any sunshine. I hope I got that right. Peace

Hi world wise, I think you did the right thing in appologizing here. The people involved reacted to your accusations which were based on a statement that you misunderstood. It should have stayed within that discussion and settled there. You reacted because in your heart you thought you were right and from there it esculated. it should have never gone that far. As an outsider, I have to say that yes....words got slung and used as weapons. Still...the two victims here...did nothing at all and were desperatly trying to defend themselves to some very serious accusations that they were not guilty of. There were several discussions trying to slander them for no reason at all.

I'm all for moving on. Peace be with you, have a nice day and happy mylotting. May all our future encounters be friendly ones.

Yes Sweetie I have and as you say it all got out of hand I hope this will now be it over and done with and left to lie I can see what happened there and as I said to Kitty it is all a big Misunderstanding I think it is great that you have apologized and I hope that it will all be left alone now Hugs to you

I have only popped in to a few, like the one you are referring to. I appreciate the apology. Those discussions are not any fun.

Well, if you are going to be getting into open discussions, you better be ready for rebuttals. You ought to know by now that not everyone will share your views. While apologize for expressing your point-of-view (unless, of course, you were intentional being insulting)?

I tend not to see these sort of discussions for some reason. If I do find one I avoid it as I believe they are against everything myLot is about. Unfortunately there are some people here who are only happy if they are being nasty and attacking someone. It amazes me how others come out of the woodwork to join in.

Yes several times on here I have become involved in discussions that have gone to calling names. Not on my part, but once you disagree with them, it gives them the chance to trash you. I find it funny that people make discussions then gets mad when someone gives them their opinions. There is no sense in calling names no matter what.

I have no idea what discussion you are talking about and don't care. You are a lovely person and I am pleased and privileged to know you. We all have moments, goodness knows how many I have had, and we are entitled to let off occasionally. I have started and participated in many discussions that went off subject etc etc. That's all part of the fun I think.

I almost got into one of those several days ago, but even with the nasty comments aimed at me, I refused to be drawn into a flame war. It's not worth it, especially if you have earnings that you'd like to keep. Kudos for standing up the way you're doing.

? what happened? What could happen that has this undesirable result?

worldwise1, First of all, why are you apologizing here when you should be doing it at the other end? Don't you think it would be more appropriate than to start one and let some "hijackers" have a go with your "well intention"? No offense taken but I just feel that this apology here do not really serve any purpose. Worst off and no offense taken - insincere. If you are apologetic then by all means make your peace where you had faulted and be done with it. Starting one here, will not do anyone any good except for some narcissism if you know what I mean. Anyway, enough said and I do not think that the other party is taking anything offending or you will have another episode here. Sometimes, it pays to eat that humble pie and walk away into the sunset. Believe me the view is great. Take care.

I personally think it is very gracious and good of you to do this public apology. I just cringe each time something like this comes up because I don't care for things like this and I don't care for anything that could plague our situation here. There is alot of misinterpretation online. I have had things happen in trying to communicate a feeling or thought. I haven't had a bad time on here at all. [Crossing my fingers, knocking on wood,as I type here.]Yes, enough already! Hope this is the last of it. You can't make everyone happy and why try?

Hi Worldwise, Humans do not have a perfect. Certainly been wrong, but surely there is an opportunity to apologize. By the way, I really do not understand, for what so that you apologize to the public?

That's alright my friend. Atleast, you had showed to others that you accept mistakes and you are a down to earth individual unlike others who just stick with their pride and doesn't think afterwards and inculcate the situation aftermath. Everyone has the right to express his or her opinions but still there are limitations. Also, it is part of socializing with people online since we dont know there individuals personally. The moral: we cant please everybody. Happy MyLotting my friend! :)

I didn't see your discussion, but I think it's really big of you to post your apology. I think most everyone has gotten roped into some conversations that just spiral into the ground and don't realize how bad it's gotten until afterwards. Not really a great feeling! Hope your future discussions are filled with peace. :)

its alright, we are all human being here. though too bad coz some people took some post here personally for in fact this is just supposed to be a pure discussion and not a debate... and people supposed to be open minded in every post here... just share what their inner thoughts about the post and not to personally hit the owner about it... if the owner post a certain topic here.. it doesnt mean that they want to hit everyone.. its only an idea to share.. and as long as you have anything to say hen you can share... or perhaps they couldnt think of something to say.. thats why they prefer to hit the person as one of their way to just leave a post.. which in fact cannot give them credit.. not bcoz people post here it means people can earn.. it will still depends on how their post be...