How do we Listen.

Why do you want to be a leader?? That is the same energy as a follower, just inverted. Fortunately I have no desire to lead others anywhere because I'm not interested in what anybody else has to say, unless of course it is interesting. And then I don't have to practice any sort of technique, it just comes naturally. Have you ever watched animals listening? They never went to school to learn how to listen, but they're really good at it. Their whole being is alert and focused. That is what I am aiming for, to be focused and alert, poised on the edge of flight. That way I can hear the voice of spirit without being misguided by a bunch of inaccurate words. That is really neat about the letters of the words 'silent' and 'listen' being the same!! I LOVE that kind of stuff!

Listening is an ACTIVE skill. It is not the same as hearing. When you HEAR something, you know it's there, but you forget it quickly as it's not important. On the other hand when you LISTEN, you mind focuses on the speaker - assuming you're listening to a "live" talk - and you need to take down notes. Not everyone is able to do so mentally, so make sure you have a note book and a pen ready to jot down important points. By doing so, you're able to review what you have listened earlier, and ask questions to the speaker. As you listen or write notes, think of potential relationship the topic has with other topics that you know - what are the similarities, what are the irregularities, is the speaker talking nonsense? When you listen, avoid distractions like beeping pagers, or chatting with others. These distractions cause the listener to shift focus - that's how you lose concentration. Ever noticed how silent it is when the philharmonic orchestra is performing? There's pin drop silence - people want to focus on each musical notation. Look at the speaker in the eye. Children never listen because they never look into their parents' eyes when they're reprimanded or nagged at. It's just one ear in, the other ear out. Of course, if you're listening to a speech over the radio, you can't do that :) By being an active listener, you will learn much better as listening is a skill. Gee...have I answered your question? :)

If you go to the Self Help section of your local bookstore, Barnes and Nobles preferably (or Borders, do you have it?), and their should be books on this subject but if not just to the Religion section, look in the Buddhist section and there should be endless subjects on the ART of listening. You don't have to become a Buddhist just search through some useful advice. Another thing you could do is just search out the leaders that inspire you the most (for example, Oprah would be a leader for some) and read into their history's finding what worked to bring them where they art. I love reading Biographies and find them very useful and there's nothing wrong with imitating someone because you eventually begin learning about yourself.

There is a technique called active listening. That's where you respond by saying part of what was said to you. For example if someone is talking to about going grocery shopping and they tell you among other things, that they bought bananas and papaya. You could ask back, "Oh, I have been wanting to find some fresh, ripe papaya, what store did you find yours at?" If you are being an active listener, you are able to focus on the conversation because you are looking for things to ask questions about, or respond to. Asking questions, or responding appropriately also makes the person talking really feel that you are listening. It takes practice, but after time, you don't have to really work at it, it's just how you'll listen.

listening is the beginning of understanding they say its an untaught skills lots of us take for granted....to be an effective listener ome must understand what the speaker is trying to say, perceiving how he or she is managing to say it and noting the reasons given or the arguments advanced for the conclusion. Try to perceive the peurpose or intention between what is major or minor significance in the discourse that is to be understood. listen with open mind. Know the main points of the conversation or the speech , avoid bad habits that interfere or distract from effective listening such as paying attention to the mannerism of the speaker than to the substance of what is being said; pretending to listen while allowing ones mind to wonder off to other things ; allowing all sorts of distraction to divert ones attention from the speaker and the speech and many more bad habits that prevent you to be an effective listener , this should be over come first before one proceed on practicing to be a good listener , by then it would be much easier for one to listen really listen....

Developing listening skills is a nice habit. We know how to listen to other people we could reply them a good and approriate words. I also hope that everyone make a habit of listening. Although sometimes it is hard for others but they must try and make it a habit.

We have 2 ears, but just the one mouth so there's a sign right there! I think one of the biggest challenges when it comes to listening is being able to create that level of interest in what's being said. For example, when we're extremely interested in something on the TV or being said on the radio, or even when it comes to a song we love, we embrace it with our entire self and hang on to every word. Sometimes we can become so engrossed in what we're listening to, we won't heqr anything else such as another person trying to get our attention. This comes as a completely natural thing to us. On the flip side, the minute our interest wanes even slightly, our minds wander. We start to focus on other thoughts, other sounds, movements and pretty much anything BUT what's being said. Being in a classroom during a boring subject or when being lectured to by a boring teacher is a classic example of this! I wish I had a definitive answer for you on how we may listen better to others, but aside from conning ourselves into believing we give a crap, we're always going to struggle when it comes to things that hold no fascination for us. All we can do is focuc as best we can on what's being said and on the person saying it. Maybe even trying to engage ourselves with the conversation on a deeper level will help as well.

I am not good at listening either, but I have been able to be silent and listen from time to time, it is difficult but I try to open my mind and really hear what others are telling me, it is not always easy as some people just go on and on, but it is important in knowing when to respond or to know if it is even important to respond. Not everyone thinks like we do and they do not have to be like we are, we imagine people do but we all have a right to voice our opinions.

I think listen with our whole heart ,sometimes we should understand them ,and give a good response with love to show that we are with them ,we support them is right .

Listening is a great part of learning. You have to hear out what the other is saying for you to understand. It is best that you do not give your opinion yet until the other one is talking. After you have absorbed all the information, then, that would be the time for you to give your feedback. It is good to listen but you do not have to agree to every thing the other person is saying.

Yeah, listen to other's idears is most important sometimes!