Can you disown a family member?

I wanted to disown my MIL - she was the worst MIL that a young girl could ever had. I was young, newly married and in a strange country and culture and she was acted so badly towards me. But I didn't disown her as she was the children's grandmother and I wanted them to know a grandmother as my mother was in the U.K. She did soem terrbile things to me and my husband never forgave her. But I did. Eventually. I have not disowned anyone really - I am a peaceful person and would just probably distance myself from them but not disown them. I would still make conversation with them at family gatherings etc. I forgave her in the end.

I could never disown a family memeber. I am a Christian and we are supposed to love each other and forgive each other. Even when someone does you wrong a million times you still should forgive them. This doesn't mean that you should trust them again, but you should forgive and still love them. Therefore, to try to disown someone would be unChristian. Besides, your family is your family no matter what you say.

yeah i disown family b4 they are all ways talking sh^t it makes me sick and they come to me all nice when they hear i have money, a lot of people think i'm crazy for doing that but we are all human and just becuse they have the family name on them do mean they can get away with anything that is how i feel and no one will change that. They did other stuff to thats realy realy bad but i'm not geting in to it here.

My case is really extreme. I wont go into details, but suffice to say that I have COMPLETELY disowned my family. I wont go into details, but I'm hacked off with all of them, initially my parents, but by association also my siblings and very unfortunately my grandparents who would rather take their side than listen to me. I feel no regret for my decision, and feel that I am a far better person since making my decision to live my own life in my own way. My family still think of me as some sort of horrible daughter of satan, but I never have been, and no one who knows me could disagree with them more. We can choose our friends but we cant choose our family. How true that is! I'm just proud of the person I am in spite of them.

My husband has only very recently gotten back with his family. He disowned them once before because of the things they were saying to his ex-wife (things like I hope you and your baby die, she was pregnant at the time it was said) and constantly running their mouths saying bad things about him when he is in fact one of the most successful people in his family! He is one of the only ones who has not served prison time and or lived off of government handouts. Well he is already considering moving us away from his family and disowning them again because they have started on us. Saying we are bad parents, that all we do is "party" many very derrogatory and just plain mean things! I was told yesterday that they were not going to let me have my kids back unless we gave them 200 up front for them to watch our kids while I go to work! Essentially they were kidnapping my children and when I tried to retrieve my kids and take them elsewhere I was shoved. He called them yesterday and told them off for 2 hours and said if it ALL doesn't end he will cut them off again and that he remembered why he cut off contact with them 8 years ago! In short yes I would happily disown a family member especially these people and I would feel a great deal of relief in doing so!

I had a fallout with my sister but never to the extend of disowning anyone. I just ignored her existense. Never bothered to wish each other on our birthdays and never call for updates. Sometimes, it just hurts so much that the only way is to block it out. To disown each other will definitely hurt my parents most. So I try not to put my parents in limbo and just live life separately from my sis. That way, I am more at peace. Of course, things would have been better if we were still in good terms. But sometimes, things are just inevitable. THe only way is OUT.

Actually yes I can disown a family member when it comes to the good to the rest of the family. I disowned my biological father as I didnt want him around any kids I was going to have and did have. One of my daughters is no longer allowed at our home, no I havent totally disowned her as if I see her somewhere I will talk to her. However if she keeps trying to steal and steals off family and just causing everyone alot of hardships as hard as it is I will disown her too. The majority of the family counts and when you have younger kids you have to do what is in the best interest of the whole family of a unit. It is a hard situation to be in.

I don't think I could ever disown a family member and truely mean it as in never seeing them again. My husband and I did go through a tough time with his parents, though, and we did not have contact for 8 months. That was no talking, no writing, no emails, etc. They kept up with our lives through my husband's sister, I am sure, but we did not want to hear about them. It was empowering at first, but after awhile it became a drag to carry that anger. When we did talk to them for the first time after 8 months, it was uncomfortable, but a releif in a way.

I have a twin brother. We were both adopted into the same family at the same time. The trouble is, my brother forgets, when it's convenient for him to, where we come from and who we really are. Now I don't say that in any way to denigrate the wonderful people who adopted us. But we were ten years old when we were adopted, so there was quite a life before that, which shaped us into the people we are today. It is only when my brother wants something from me that he has no right to ask for, that he pulls the "you're my only blood relative" card on me. The rest of the time he pretends that his adopted family is the be all end all of his existence. For years, I let his 'blood relative' ploy get to me, and I gave in to his demands. Then I got divorced. I kept my married name though because I had two kids with that name and they deserved to be a part of their father's family. Years later I learned that my twin brother had been talking me down because I hadn't gone back to my maiden name when I divorced! Like WTH? Who was he to judge? HE conveniently 'forgot' that name himself when it suited him! Two summers was the last straw. My current hubs and I had sold our house for a lot of money and one day I get a phone call from my brother asking me to build him a house on our property that he can 'retire' to, free of charge, because after all, he was broke and I was his only 'blood relative'and I had money he felt I should share with him. I told him NO! He hasn't spoken to me since. In my head I've disowned him. In my heart...............well he is my brother and I will always love him, but I don't like him and no longer wish him to be a part of my life. We can't choose our relatives, and the ties that bind families are complicated. But to my mind, if a family member behaves in a way we wouldn't accept from a friend or acquaintance, then yes, disown them. Refuse to have anything more to do with them. It's their loss after all for being such idiots! If enough family memebers practiced 'tough love', there would be a lot less grief spread around!

i don't have to disown a family member, i will simply avoid him or her, i would not want to create unneccessary scene so i would only run away from troubles hence i will rather not talk to such a relative rather than making people known that i have disown him

A family member is a family member, no one can disown Gods wish. They are here to stay for your entire life. You may not be on talking terms, thats the maximum punishment you can give, but will it be really worth? meapas.

No I can't live without my family. However my family members treat me, I'll not go out of my family.

I know how hard it is to have a different person in the family. stranger in the looks but actually your brother,sister,mom or dad, but the thing is that disowning would and should be the last resort if in case the family member really sucks through out your entire life. hating can do but dis owning them is like cutting bridges and relationship with them completely, and that's worse..

When my brother makes me feel really dumb, I would usually say on my mind that I wanna disown my brother. I usually do that since during those times because I am really mad and I wanna fight back, but I can't because he is much stronger. But he has said it to me a million times because he hates me at times during I do some crazy stuff. When I turn the ringer off my cellphone and ignores him. And when his anger has subsided, he just talks to me as if nothing has happened. I never forget those things that he said that were harsh, but I forgive him since he is my brother. I don't think a family member should disown his own flesh and blood because whenever you feel down, they are mostly the ones around when you feel really down and that they would not leave you not matter what happens.

The only way i would is f they did something horrible to me like molested me or stole from me. I dont hold grudges and if people wanna talk then they can.

If I had a family member who was an abusive user I could disown them. Which to me just means that I don't have anything to do with them any more. They're out of my will (if they were in) and they're out of my life. But no, I have never actually done it. Most of my relatives are decent enough and the few who aren't are far enough away that I don't really have to see them.

In Hindu culture,parents used to disown their daughter if she ran away from home with her boyfriend. They disown the child simply because of rumors from neighbourhood. They face shameful events all their life, therefore they disown thier daughter. Later, when they get the news of them became grandparents, they open the door and welcome with both hands! This culture is still on in India, however this disowning ceremony affects their other children. It's a painful scene to witness when one getting themself disowned by their loved ones...

So , so bad .

I don't know if you would say that I have disown my sister but I have not talk to her in years. We are 11 years apart and got into a big arguement. My mom calls all the time trying to get me to talk to my sister but I never do. So I guess it depends on you!!!

Family members are not commodities. They cannot be sold, and they cannot be bought. They certainly cannot be transferred in terms of ownership to another party, and cannot be dumped into a junkyard when you don't need them. So, why do family members disown their own flesh and blood? I once had a girlfriend whom my parents didn't like. Later my mom told me that if I continued with her, "You'd better not stay with us" - that's an example of a threat that I would be disowned by my family members. Should that happen? No, absolutely not. When we start a family, we have to go through all the difficulties and talk things out. Disowning someone is merely letting go of your responsibilities. Why then in the first place have a family if you believe you can disown them when things go wrong? Right? p/s: I define "disown" an act of forced separation of immediate family members.