What will you do if one day your very best friend ignore you?
By Janetx3
@Janetx3 (441)
Singapore
July 16, 2009 8:28pm CST
Well, i have the fear of losing friends. What will you do if one day your very best friend starts to ignore you? And even when you tried to call him/her to ask what's wrong he/she still ignores you? How will you react to this situation? For me i will become very sad, and maybe I'll skip school to avoid him/her. Maybe i will turn my sadness into hatred and starts to hate him/her too. Maybe I'll feel very lost because i suddenly lost my best best friend. ow about you?
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16 responses
@John4Christ (1597)
• India
17 Jul 09
Well what do I say, I am going through it right now, she is not really ignoring me but I would say she is avoiding me.......once we were really very good friends but now for some reasons she is simply avoiding me.......and it just hurts specially when you don't know the reason, I did try to confront her many a times but there was no response, she didn't really speak her heart out, she will be leaving the town soon for her further studies and I would never be able to meet her again, anyways that's what life is all about.......and i better learn to live with it !!!!
Have a nice day !!!!
@Niah1976 (739)
• Paranaque, Philippines
17 Jul 09
That happened to me a year ago. I don't know what is the reason why she didn't respond to my texts. She didn't even accept me in my yahoo messenger. At first, I was hurt. But I did nothing wrong to her. But I am happy with my life so losing her isn't that big deal. If she don't want me anymore, fine with me. At least I know deep within me that I didn't get anything from her. That I was fair with my friendship with her. I dion't wanna be affected with her anymore. What is important to me is my family.
@fishkingback (430)
• China
17 Jul 09
It doesn't matter for me. Actually I am not really afraid that if my best friend ignores or leaves me one day, if this happen, then it means that we cannot be friends anymore, that is ok, then why not find a new like-minded friend?
Maybe I will also feel lost at that time, but life still have to go on. People change, I am ready for that.
@suj123 (1067)
• India
17 Jul 09
Well it has happened with me. Now we are not close as we were before but just talk sometimes. She started ignoring me. I asked her twice or trice to tell me what is wrong ? but to no avail. I think she found new friend so she stopped talking with me. If a friend is like this then its better if you don't have.
I have moved on and have found some nice friends.
Happy Mylotting.
@Shery32 (423)
• Saudi Arabia
17 Jul 09
Good point, life never stops, we should all know this and try our best to move on when we are left behind, it is better not to have a friend like this as it is not a friendship if it is like this. If there is something, she/he should just say so and be open about it
@FFFrocks (306)
• Canada
17 Jul 09
Oh boy, that happened to me some years back. She just stopped calling me and taking my calls after she had found a new boyfriend with a whole new group of friends. I kept trying because I wanted to know 'why'. I ended up writing her a letter and she gave me a call and let me know she didn't want to be friends anymore and she still hadn't given me a real reason for it. Boy that hurt! I moved on though. My thinking was if she didn't think I was worth her time then she definitely wouldn't be worth my time.
It was what it was.
I'm all better.
@Shery32 (423)
• Saudi Arabia
17 Jul 09
If as you say its your very best friend then there must be a reason, you should give her/him time and reasons for this. If you know your friend then you should give him/her a space and not feel sad or bad but be more supportive and more understanding. It could be something that he/she needs time to share it with you, just make sure that you show her/him or tell that you are there and you have her/him in your mind all the time.
I think you know him/her better than thinking bad about her/him.
Thanks
@sharlionse (739)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
I have to clear up the problem first. I have to ask her why she's ignoring me. I can't just hate her because she might be right at all. If I have to change a little of me I'll do it. Like the other day my friend told me that she's not feeling my presence anymore because I am busy with somebody else. She said that I was not around when she felt like having a friend around. So, instead of hating her for that, I asked for an apology and promised to be "back".
@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
17 Jul 09
Sometimes friends need a little space.. I would give that person a chance to explain their story to you.. but if the person does not talk to you or give you the time or day for awhile; I guess that person does not want to be your friend any more but does not want to say anything.. Either because the person does not know how to confront you or does not want to hurt your feelings..
At the same time that person just might be really busy with something else.. And really does not have the time right now to talk to you.. With the fear of losing friends there is a possibility that you may be over reacting.. I am not trying to say this to offend you in any way, I use to have that same fear.. That if someone quit talking to me for awhile that they hate me.. Later realizing that it was not the case at all.. I hope your friend will talk to you soon... But in the end if your friend does not talk to you; or even let you know some how that it is over.. Then that person was not a true friend to begin with..
@kjjjs5 (13)
• United States
17 Jul 09
I think your fear of losing friends is based on a fear of rejection. Do you see yourself as someone who has only a few deep relationships and you are self-sacrificing in order to keep them? If so, you could have a Melancholy temperament. Chances are, if you are having problems with a friend ignoring you, she/he doesn't require as deep a relationship as you do. This can hurt, but you have to realize that you cannot change their thinking but if you busy yourself outside of that relationship, she/he probably will eventually come back around. Then you would know the basis of that relationship. It's about understanding our different temperaments.
@shimanaja (493)
• Indonesia
17 Jul 09
May be your friend need some more time to do something by herself/himself...
Dont judge her/him too fast...may be there is something wrong with her/his fam which can't tell you about.
Surely lost friend is very uncomfortable things..
Why dont you give her/him some time to be alone for a while?
@tomjoad (551)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
that will actually depend. if my bestfriend ignores me because i have done something wrong to him, then i'll surely make ammends. if he didn't just see me that's why he ignored me or he has something in his mind, i wouldn't make a fuss about it. usually though i would come up to him and and him what's wrong. i'm pretty sure something is up when you befriend ignores you. because he never does that unless there's something wrong.
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
17 Jul 09
You've done all you can to find out the reasons for him/her to avoid you. There's nothing more you can do except to get on with life. You don't have to change anything just to avoid looking or coming face-to-face with him/her. Over time, things may change, you may meet up again perhaps years later in unexpected situations and then you'll reminisce how silly both of you have been in avoiding each other.
You might also want to send her a card on her birthday and continue doing things that you've been doing as her best friend. At least she knows that you care.
You have done nothing wrong, Janet. So it's best that you focus on your studies. If you bump into him/her on your way to school or in town, just smile and say hi. It doesn't matter if she doesn't respond.
Well, hope your friendship with this person will be better one day. Keep us posted, yeah? :)
@shaggin (72131)
• United States
26 Sep 10
I am sad right now because I'm afraid I have lost very close friend. I have a tendency to get mad very easily and say mean things. My friend is very upset with me. He doesnt usually ignore me so I assume I will hear from him sometime today regarding my apology but I dont know when and what he will say. This has happened a lot but this time was probably the worst. I wish I could go back in time and not start any of this. We have so much fun together I dont want to ruin that. I will be miserable without his friendship.
@clutterbug (1051)
• United States
17 Jul 09
Sometimes people can be very touchy, so if they ignore you, just go on as usual and enjoy your life. That's what I have done. Try not to be fearful of losing friends, because over a lifetime friends will come and go for whatever reason, trust me on that. It can be sad to lose a friend and not know why, but it happens to the best of people. It has happened to me. The one thing I wouldn't do is to skip school to avoid him/her, because this may be the very thing the ex-friends would want. Just hold your head high, and if you get the cold shoulder, give it right back. Be cool, calm and collected. Have a great day! :O)