Four Years Relationship - Not Happy!! VS. Five Months Relationship - Happy!!

I think this is really hard. I think first, she should get to know about herself, whether she love her boyfriend, is it because some misunderstanding or because it is four years, so long that she lose interest and curiosity between each other. Four years relationship is a long time, she should be serious on this thing.

One of my friend had experienced that case too. I think it's okay and nice,, because at least we can find that the time in relationship not guarantee the end or your happiness.. Your friend do the right thing! Just end the relationship when you can't hold it anymore after you try so many way to keep it and fail.. because there's other person who understand and love you more than your last partner.. But actually people feel happy with the new thing,, I hope your friend really happy with this relationship.. and hope you're happy too with your relationship!

can she endure a migraine for four years for days one end? congratulations!!!five months is a a prelude for another attack of more intense migraine...remember the four year migraine earlier and so beware...

i have been to that kind of relationship my friend. but i ended up with the new guy and the new guy in the long run aint that good either. because we may not know somebody specially if we are not that close to them. well by now i am happy with my 3years boyfriend. i have been to much so for your friend whats better to do is ask her 4 yrs bf what happen to there relationship and what do they have to do. because being in another relationship is not the answer to the problem she is facing now. its better to talk to the person involve before she could go to another problem. jhelai

it is quite possible dat u dont njoy ur love in a long span lyk 4 years but u realize ur love in a vry short span lyk 5 months... so i think if she is quite happy and confident wid a guy wid which she is in a relation 4 last 5 months, she shud go ahead wid him..

I believe that if you maintain that kind of relationship with your 4 year boy friend, it might cause more pain and hate between the both of you if you continue the relationship. go to a relationship that makes you happy. just leave the guy she had for 4 years, maybe it's the good option for now.

hello rberon1985, I believe she is more than happier in her new relationship if she will talk to her first boyfriend and be able to freed up. Rather than having two relationships at the same time. This way, she can have a clear conscience , have peace of mind and have more time to her other man. Getting into relationship is really hard. If she is no longer happy to her first one, she should be brave enough to tell him. It's the best that she can do. Maybe her first boyfriend wanted to do that too a long time ago.

Hello, well, I have been in that place already and I know what exactly what you mean, and how she feels so far. Well, mostly when you are in a long term relationship, then you will feel missing something but actually you are not. Just like you live with your parents everyday, see each other everyday, and talk to each other everyday... then you will get some boring feeling, and doing the same thing over and over again. However, you will never realized how much that person care for you... and always you first in their mind. I know you were mention about teary eyes when she goes to work... I think, she might have too much in her mind or might be her boyfriend. They both should take some vacation or talk to someone that can help them out. I really dont know what the relationship between them now but... most of the time that I see, just getting bored of each other and seem like someone else is better. To me, I used to feel like that sometimes but over all... no one is better and understand me better than my long term relationship with my husband. If she already in a relationship with another man already then she is cheating on her boyfriend. It is hard to take it but she has to choose between them now, and I hope she will make the right choice. to me, I will follow what my heart to me cuz I am already in relationship with another person already and it is totally hard to choose which is better. Love is base on two things, forget and forgive. I wish her good luck of all love she has... and please make the right choice, and hope she will not get the same feeling with her old boyfriend to her new boyfriend.

I think from the sounds of things that she should have left her 4yr old relationship a long time ago. Life is too short to be stuck in a miserable relationship.

well if shes still within this guy that she has been with for four years she needs to leave him and move on and stop the relationship before it hurts them both more. now as far as this new guy he sounds like he really makes her happy so she needs to be with him and try to move on so that her old boy friend can move on and be happy as well as she can be happy and that's what they both need. is to be happy and move on. hopefully she can realize this and let them both have a chance at a happy life.

That really depends on her decision to make. I can't give a random decision for her as a reference. She is the one who has the direction to pick. From her heart, which she felt most happy and secure for the future. It will be her decision, and her investment to make. It really is her future.

after one year she will find new boyfriend and will be happy once again, it will start life long.

i think people should be with who ever makes them happy.. because i have seen people in long term relationship with someone who is totally wrong for them due to some stupid reason.. like they had chemistry when they met.. although they don't even like each to her anymore etc. its better to be with someone who makes you happy.. rather than wasting ur time in hope to change that jerk.

It's useless to stay in a relationship when both parties are unhappy. Your officemate should ask herself why does she continue on having a relationship with her 5-year boyfriend? I think she knows where her heart is. The fact that she entered into a relationship with your other officemate means that she has less feeling for her boyfriend. I suggest that she end her relationship with her boyfriend but don't get to excited to get really serious with the office guy. He might just be a rebound guy and not someone that she really loves. Have her have time for herself and think of why her relationship with her boyfriend didn't work out. Ask her to be as honest as possible to herself. Only she can determine whether or not she's ready to enter into another relationship.

Hmm, this is a bit complicated. Four years of relationship and still not happy? I think your officemate should find out what's happening first. If her problem could not be resolved then it's wise to break off with her boyfriend before they get married. There are many factors that lead to quarrels, it could be her fault or her boyfriends, or both! It could be other family members, too. So her first step is to look for the root of the problem. Secondly, it's fine if she wants to pour out her sorrows with another guy, but please advise her not to get too close. I can't imagine what would happen if she's able to reconcile with her boyfriend, and she's also madly in love with this other guy. It's going to make things worse, don't you think so? Therefore, please advise her to do things one by one. Dealing with relationships and handling relationship problems are tricky. Cheers!