is it shame when a man cried?
By cedarlgp
@cedarlgp (207)
China
July 20, 2009 2:09am CST
man often means strong,thus,when a man cried,it seems to be shame.Today,man burden much pressure from job,life and society,he has to work very hard and try his best to earn more and strong enough even faced with any hardship.sometimes,a man would be discouraged at all and he need to release the big pressure by some ways such as cry out loudly,but he could not do it easily.he may cry out loudly in his private room with nobody knowing this,and,when he is in public place,he should be seen a strong look yet.A long-time emotion constraining will do harm to one's health,woman could be so easy to release herself by crying out,but man hasn't this good luck.It seems that crying out be women' unique right.do you insist it be shame for a man to cry?
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@rsa101 (38126)
• Philippines
20 Jul 09
That is the general perception that when man cries, he shows his weakness and eventually ends up being taunted as a weakling. But that is not supposed to be. I think we men should be given the chance to express our feelings too and we can from time to time express it by crying. It should not be considered as weakness but rather a sign that we are humans too.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
20 Jul 09
Hello there my friend,
I don't believe that crying will degrade a man.I rather admire men who never ashamed of crying when he feels the world is tumbling down upon his shoulders.This only shows that he is a kind of person who is true to himself.I found men who cries as honest and good person.Becoz being true to ourselves in the most important aspect i can count on.How can we be true and honest to others when we can't even be true to ourselves?
It is just the society's views that men who cried are not man enough.
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@cedarlgp (207)
• China
20 Jul 09
Being a man I admire what you have said.crying out shows that man has the sense of responsibility,if he doesn't care what he is dealing with,he couldn't feel like to cry in front of big hardship.we men could be stronger and braver after wiping out the tear.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
20 Jul 09
Becoz crying is one way of expressing our feelings and emotions.And for a man to cry,it's a gesture of honesty to himself.Inspite that men are highly regard for their image as stronger gender,but deep inside there's still a little boy who cries within.
@coolcat123 (4387)
• India
20 Jul 09
Well, I do think men are far more strong then money and it's very rare a men usually expresses himself by crying but I believe that a man shouldn't feel shame while crying as its a part of life.A men usually controls his feeling but they are as week as Womens from heart.
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@daliaj (5674)
• India
20 Jul 09
People usually consider it as a shame when a man cries, but I don't think it should be like that. They are also human beings and have all right to cry. Crying is a very good stress breaker. I have never seen my dad crying in 26 years of my life. But, my husband cries often. It doesn't mean that I make him cry often. It agin depens on person to person. Men should be given all rights to cry.
@cedarlgp (207)
• China
21 Jul 09
I didn't cry for a long time until a few months ago,at that time,I had a dream after I went to bed,I dreamed that I saw my mother falling down and nobody helped her because I was at work not at home.I was anxious and woke up suddenly from that dream.then,at midnight,I worried about my mother very much and I couldn't go home to see her well or not,I found myself not a good son.I was sadder when I thought this more and I cried out in my quilt.
@babshish (1387)
• India
20 Jul 09
No, I don't think so, after all man is also a human being having the feelings, he can break with the situations like women. But why we don't find man crying is that man are more practical compared to women. And because of these they managed to overcome the tuff situations, but that does not mean he will always. Now a days both man and woman are same in every field, so why man can't cry. I think it depends on the situations and the capability of man to handle the same. There is nothing wrong or shame if man cries. Just my views.
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@rlaknar (616)
• India
20 Jul 09
I prefer cry in a unmanned room.Why because i do not want to hurt other by my cry and i do cry rarely.Crying is an aid and i can say it is a gift for human beings.Why because crying decreases the stress and depression.Crying let out your feelings and you do not want to dump anything in your mind and you will be relaxed. Crying does not depend upon gender.Male crying is not a shame.
@emskoneko (805)
• United States
20 Jul 09
I believe a man has the right to cry just as any other person does. There should be no shame in expressing feelings. I know too much crying can be a negative thing but I believe tears can show a person's true understanding of reality. We all must eventually realize when is the right time to shed tears. We shouldn't let a man keep their frustrations and sadness inside.
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@meiyeec511 (405)
• Malaysia
20 Jul 09
Man is human too. It's normal if there's one day he feels want to cry for so much pressure from job, life and society.
If the guy cry always, guess there's something wrong with him.
It's not a shame fora guy to cry. Just release the painful from heart when necessary.
@chivann (138)
• Cambodia
20 Jul 09
yeah i really felt that ways sometimes, i tried to stop it because i dont want anyone know that i'm that weak. But to say straightly being a man is hard to cry in public, but anything beside this point i think being a man is much better than a girl...
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@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
20 Jul 09
I don't think so, when I see a man cried, I just think he could no longer hold his true feelings. We know as much as possible man tried to hide their feelings but there comes to the point where the pain or disappointment is too much for them to bear. They have to cry sometimes to feel better.
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
20 Jul 09
When someone say a man are strong, I take it to mean that in terms of their physique. Other than that, it's hard to discriminate a man's from a woman's strength. Therefore, if a woman could cry, why not a man, too? After all, crying is a way to express our sorrows. I cried once too when I did something silly to my dad when I was a teenager. My eyes would be teary if I see a touching story in the movies. Whether it's a loud cry or just a weep does not matter. When someone's sad or has problems, he or she needs a shoulder to cry on. So, cry.
A man who says that "Men don't cry" is probably just being egoistic. Therefore, it's not a shame to cry. In fact some woman look up to men who dare to cry!! Believe it or not.
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@treychi (121)
• Philippines
20 Jul 09
it is not shameful. For me when a man cries it just indicates that the man is strong and not embarrassed to let people see what he feels, Man does cry if they can't control too much emotion.
sometimes they look even manlier when I saw them crying. T^T
@heartbeats1010 (206)
• India
20 Jul 09
NO i don't think so. Crying is just to express his feeling. Just to ease out the tension or the cause of worry. Else it accumulates and creates mental depression. SO it is not shame for a man to cry. He is also a human being. he has also got feelings and worries
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@brienn (825)
• Philippines
20 Jul 09
Man are just one of those human beings that have feelings. Crying is just an expression of what and how we feel, and man should not shamed when he cried. Me as man never felt shamed when someone saw me crying, and I know its good for me to express what I feel.
@youless (112481)
• Guangzhou, China
21 Jul 09
I don't think so. I think everybody has the rights to cry, even if he is a man. The scientists found why men usually have shorter life than women, the reason is the men often hide their emotions. Women can cry anytime when they feel bad. So it is healthy for them. When you see a man cries, I think he really feels so bad.
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@celebratelifeh (1142)
• China
20 Jul 09
i do not think so and man also need to express themselves.
and i always can't understand why we think man can't cry and at least that's not properly if they cry on public. if one man do not cry for everything that means he have suffered lot and that's a burden to his life . he may be sick for too much of these suffers.
@yolanda19191 (1934)
• China
20 Jul 09
i think it's normal. after all, man is also human being.
but i feel the man is braver than female, so they wont easily cry. i dont know if it's true or not. or only casue they control their emotion?
if one man cry, it must be because he's greatly moved, or hurt heavily.
@bluehibiscus (702)
• United States
21 Jul 09
There is absolutely nothing wrong with crying whether the person is male or female. Actually they say crying helps you both mentally and physically because it helps eliminate some of the stress related hormones which can cause bodily harm.
@aravindkrd (610)
• India
20 Jul 09
yep! Thats not fair..
Crying is based on ones mindset...
Its not even about being tough.. but How your body reacts to mental STRAIN
Its STUPID to consider it like.. Man.. woman..
Even a boy (student) who cries.. is INSULTED.. and described a COWARD...
Common...there is nothing to do with being a man and crying...
I've seen many soft guys being INSULTED!
@defcon505 (919)
• United States
21 Jul 09
It's not a shame to cry if your a man. It's natural to cry. When your mother die or someone close to you or a person you value, don't you cry for them/her/him? When your most precious pet die, don't you cry? When you loss plenty of money don't you cry? When your girlfriend says it's over, don't you cry? When your about to die from the hands of your enemies, don't you cry? If you don't cry there's something wrong with your head or there's something wrong with your eyes or something. IT'S NOT A SHAME TO CRY FOR MAN!!!! Hope I answered your question?
