My life completely changed today, and I don't know what to do next.

I wanted to get a dog, but I moved to a very small apartment where they are not allowed. And even if they were, there really wouldn't be any room for him. I wish that weren't true, though. I would feel so much safer if I have a big, growly dog by my side at all times. I am really trying to figure out a way to move out of this city. Finding the money will be difficult, but hopefully I can figure out a way to do so. I guess it is a good thing that I started trying to earn from the internet. It's not a whole lot, but it's an extra 100 bucks a month, that maybe if I work harder at, can be a larger sum. For now, I am going to ask my boss if I can work from home. I live in a much safer building than before, and even though I am constantly scared, I feel much better behind my locked door than anywhere else. I don't know how to talk to him about this just yet, so I am going to pace myself. Today I came home straight after court and refused to leave because I was hysterical. I couldn't stop crying, and for good reason. Tomorrow I am going to call him and tell him that I just don't feel safe leaving my house right now and I have been very upset and I am probably not stable enough to work. I plan on letting him know that I am available to work all day from home, which I have done in the past, so hopefully he will let me do that for a little while.

That is good.. I hope that you will always be safe..

I already do most of these things. I wont leave home without my sunglasses, and I almost always stay in after dark. I try to avoid going out at night, but if it's late, I will either take a cab, or make someone walk me home. I never walk alone at night anymore.

Thank you, I appreciate that. I am trying my hardest to stay safe, and that's just because I am too scared to do anything! But I guess it's better that I am too scared to do anything, rather than thinking that nothing bad will happen! Better safe than sorry.

I have no idea about any of this. I feel like I am absolutely clueless as to how this all works. I have frequently had to ask the DA and lawyers and police what the hell they mean, because I don't understand half of the lingo! I am under the impression that I am supposed to write a victim impact statement which will be brought before the judge before he sentences this man for breaking his probation. That trial is in the middle of August, so until then, I am going to be laying low. I think that if his bail was set so low, that maybe they will just sentence him to an extended probation, instead of giving him jail time. That thought scares me. I figure, I better write a darn good statement. In this statement, I am not supposed to talk about the incident at all, just the impact it had on me financially, emotionally, psychologically, etc. I blog pretty often, and I know I have written entries about how terrified I am and about how stressed out I have been. I figure I should include some of those entries too.

Yes totally agreed this is a ridiculous, did you managed to recover any of the stuff that was stolen from you? And you are right he can pay the bail as still have enough to party. Plus I doubt your apartment is the only one that he had rob.

No, we havent gotten anything back yet. I doubt that we will. After the next trial, I am going to see if I can sue him directly for what he stole from us. Because he is not just going to get away with this. I am going to do everything I can to make sure he doesn't get out of this. I know for a fact that he has robbed other people, but the people he robbed never contacted the police, so now they can't use that in court, because it's hearsay. UGH!

Yeah, I am very upset at how this turned out. Like, if this guy had put away everything he stole from me, he could pay his bail and still have money to play around with! I don't understand why his bail was so low. I am definitely going to ask about this and try to figure something out. But I have a feeling that there isn't much I can change.

The guy has a "stay away order" from the court. The problem with getting a restraining order (at least in my state) is that he either needs to be a relative, a past roommate, or someone I have been romantically involved with. Because he is none of those things to me, I cannot get a regular restraining order. To get a supreme restraining order, I have to go to supreme court and plead my case. If it is accepted, I will have to pay $150 and then he will be instructed not to come near me. If he does, he will face a fine, but that's it. How messed up is that?! Since the robbery, I moved, and I am on a floor where there is no way for him to access my windows, unless he had a ladder. I live in a pretty big city, and there are cameras in the back, so if he had a ladder, I am sure either me or someone else would notice. I have two locks on my door right now, and a police lock, just in case.

I always keep my two locks on my door, sometimes three. Depending on how freaked out I am. I have always been like that, too. My old apartment I always had three locks on the door, and there wasn't even any reason for that. I refuse to leave the house without someone, and if I have to, I always take a cab. Retaliation really scares me. I know that they will automatically know its him if something ever happened to me, but I don't want to have something bad to happen to me for him to get what he deserves!

I moved to a different apartment since then, but sadly, it's not too far from the old one. I live in a big city, but its only a short walk away from my old apartment. I am afraid of going outside most of all. What if someone is watching me? Before I got him arrested, he pointed me out to a bunch of his friends, who I have been told are gang members.

I am sorry, I do not know that I believe in a god. I feel like I create my own destiny, and I feel that I need to hide in order to prosper.

I really appreciate all of your well wishes. Since the robbery, I have moved into a new apartment. I am in a safer building now, but I am still in town, and I am worried about being followed or something like that. It has been a very scary 8 months for me, and I am really hoping that sometime soon I can come up with enough money to move somewhere that I don't have to worry so much.

Oh, trust me, since I got him arrested a few months ago, I have been terrified to leave my house. I am afraid that people would be after me (because before being arrested, he pointed me out to his friends, and I hear rumors that he is in a gang) My every day life has changed a lot, and I really DO want to move out of this city so I can start to live a normal life again.

I came home crying, and he tried to make me feel better, but he didn't know what to say. I think he is scared too, because this guy knows who my boyfriend is. I hope that I might be able to get my money back, but the major trial hasn't begun yet.

I have already moved out of the original house where I was robbed, but I didn't move far enough, I am only about a 15 minute walk away from where I used to be. But you are right, I don't understand the justice system. It really doesn't make any sense that this man had such a low bail. His lawyer kept saying he was schizophrenic, too. Doesn't that make him more likely to do something wrong?

This response didn't even make any sense to me. What does this have to do with the topic I posted?

I moved out of the original area, but not too far away. My job is in the neighborhood about ten minutes away from where I was robbed, so I am terrified that I am going to be followed or something, so I am not going to go to work. I know it sounds irresponsible, but there is no way I can risk my life like that. I am really very worried that someone is going to follow me, or try to hurt me, and although that it may be unlikely, I am not going to risk my life.

That's what I am afraid of, but I don't have the money to move anywhere, and I don't have a van, or a job elsewhere. I am actively trying to make money online so I don't have to leave the house to go to work, but I don't think that I am going to be able to make enough to support me. I am at a loss of ideas. I really want to find a way to move out of state, or something.