I am very disapponinted about my husband...

Hello yes I do remember. Well it is really very disappointing to hear that he is still behaving this way. What did you actually say to him when you spoke to him and what was his response. Did he seem to understand? Was he sensitive about the issue? If he is taking it too lightly, then you need to have words with him again. You deserve to be treated much better than this, everyone does, so don't put up with it!

I know how you feel... My husband is always looking at others. And he dosen't look at me the way he looks at others. He doesn't even talk to me the way he talks to others. I feel alone in this and wish he would just treat me the way he did before we married. I have lived this way for 14 years now. And I do love him. But I have gotten to the point that I don't like him. He goes to bed anywhere between 4:30 and 6:30 at night. And I spend my evenings totally alone. I have put some wieght on. and have had a hard time trying to get rid of it I keep thinking that if I could drop some wieght, maybe he would look at me in that way again. But then I have to thing...When I wieghed 110 lbs. he still told me I was fat and looked at others that I know by looking wieghed more then me...I don't know what it is...I even thought maybe if I turned it around and did the same thing by looking at other guys..how would he like it...but, I know him well enough that he would just accuse me of cheating...So it's one of those deals that your d#m if you do and d#m if you don't. I wish I could give you some hopful words. But I can't, I'm in the same boat..... Good luck and home you can get things worked out

hello, mermaidivy, Well,men all like to see beautiful girls. But since your husband has married you ,he can't do that to you. If I love my girlfriend,,she will be the most beauti ful girl in my eye. Anyway,make yourself more charming, you can't cook and do laundry only ,do some interesting things and refind yourself. You are his wife ,not the waitress.

My suggestion for you is if you hold sand of desert tightly it will pour faster if you leave only over a palm it will remain quite longer. I think you do not care on this matter. If both of you have good understanding & Coperation it is no matter at all on married life. It happens to most of.

I don't want to say this but...if he knows how you fell and does it anyway...he does not care what you think. Maybe you should look at other guys! If he can do this why not you?

I think there must be something. You also not giving proper attention to your hubby thats why he is behaving like this. Watch yourself first

some men are that way I do not know why either but I too would hate it hey men wake up stop looking at other women look at the lady you married and fell in love and let her know she is pretty too.

Its a serious discussion. I think there is some reason that your husband do with you, he just want to ignore you. I think he just want some changes. You make your body in perfect shape and you also ignore him but not too much,, you realize him that he needs you. Dont make physical relation very fast make some pranks like newer girls. Just talk with your husband what he wants. I also think he just bore form you and he also want to make some change,, so you try to do some changes that he likes. Impress him. If he dont come on line then seriously told him why you do this with me???. Bcoz if this type of problem occurs and not solve so the relation brakes ,, so do your best.

Hello. I know how you feel. I have a friend that does this too. Once we were at a music festival in lodo (downtown area). There was a wet tshirt contest. We (i thought) were going through the crowd returning to my car. When i turned around i discovered i was alone. I knew exactly where i would find him. If it wasnt for my car keys being in his pocket i would have left him there. So i go back and sure enough there her was stretching his neck way out to see everything. I just reached into his pocket and snached my keys out then walked away. This time he fallowed. I was so madd i didnt care if he did or not. Im thinking of having a wet shorts contest. You can bet your life i do some hard core looking now. I also go out with others now too. I also let him know it. Now he also talks about us living together. Haaaaaaa!!! No way in hell. Been there, done that. I already know how he is. He can say great things about other women but never me. Last week at a outdoor concert, he standing behind me, i heard a guy come up and start complimenting my attire to him. Then i heard the guy say "whats wrong?". I do not know what happen because my back was to them. I imagine he made some kind of disapproving face. They are just doggs. At least they can respect the one they are with and look but not make it so plain to see that they are looking. My son-in-law does this too. That is why now when i look i make sure he knows iam looking. I sometimes even make a sound while looking just to make sure he notices what im doing. And i make sure im smiling when i stop looking. If he can be so obivious so can i. Im a single female.

I think that is normal to all men. Your husband may look to other pretty girls but it was just a look and no matter how hard he took that thing he will just look that. You should appreciate that your husband marries you because one thing is for sure about that! YOU ARE PRETTY. why? because your husband as you said keeps on looking to pretty girls and you are one of it or maybe the best because he marries you. Your husband only appreciates beauty especially those beautiful girls outside the window or outside the car.hehe. As long as he did nothing wrong with your marriage then that is just ok.

It is not acceptable for him to behave this way. It is rude and demeaning toward you and I would be inclined to confront him again and remind if the fact that you deserve much better than that! Have you communicated how you feel effectively? He needs to understand and ‘get it’, what he is doing is hurting your feelings and how would he like it if you behaved that way? It might be worth giving him a taste of his own medicine but then again why should you lower yourself? Talk to him again mermaidivy, you deserve more respect than that!

nasty.. i know what you mean mermaidivy! its crazy when they do that, it lowers your confidence level and it feels like you are not attractive enough for them anymore! though i do not see my husband doing that (thank god or else...) but he do make comments about women he see on tv..about how sexy and hot they are and it hurtst when he does not make compliments on me! but i do tell him how i feel and well he minimized it, i guess it is part of them being males..sometimes so insensitive!!!

Hello mermaidivy, When I read about your story here. I also disappointed with your husband did to you. He should not act like that, to you. Because you and him, is already married and need more respect and love to avoid jealousy. As I see your photo here. You very pretty, enough to be a great wife and not need for your husband to look someone else that is not in your business? You know my friend. Your husband is very lucky to find a girl like you. A beautiful girl, that never define how gorgeous you are. Now, I would say that your husband is bad luck because he is not looking strait forward to your beauty. If I were your husband, I'll make sure that I will keep smiling at you. Looking at you as my angel. Hug and kiss you always, seems to be the time is not yet pass to makes you happy every day. I will make sure that I'll give the fullest love that I have...If I were you husband. Most of everything I will love you always and avoid something to make you hurt. That should be your husband did to you...be patient my friend. Don't worry I will understand your situation. I will give my opinion because I don't like wife being treaten like that by their husband... Happy myloting, my friend...have a great day! Follow me on twittere@http://twitter.com/great_tribes

I'm a married man, and I'm not going to defend your husband, but what I'm going to tell you might not be agreeable to you. I'm not gonna deny that I don't turn around and look at girls - I do. And my wife notices it. The thing is we accept each other's flaws and that's why we don't get into a fight over this issue. What I'd like to advise is that you should reduce your expectations and your husband should do the same too. The reason is, the more you expect, the more disappointed you'll be when your expectations are not met. In additon, be normal - meaning that you don't have to dress to the nines each day just to impress him. You can capture his heart in other ways like giving him a surprise kiss, put a rose on his pillow while you're away. Send him a card any time you like. He may not appreciate it at first, but eventually I believe he's gonna come to his senses. It's good that you've voice your frustrations here and let go some steam. Hope someone is able to give you better advise :)

He sounds very immature. I think that he is proving that he doesn't love you and yet he expects you to do things for him and stay with him. Did he do this before you were married? Is he willing to talk about it? If not then he doesn't care that it bothers you. I would say that you try to speak to him once again about it and if it doesn't help, tell him that you are finished!

I don't blame you for being upset. If it was just a glance, fine. But I think your hubby is going above and beyond being obvious about looking @ other women. Come on dropping your keys?!?!? & turning around??? I'd be upset too! Though hubby & I do something on the funny side. Like I'll tease him and say something like... I know why you picked that line cause the checker was a looker huh? So after that he'd pick the plainest looking checker @ the store *LOL* But when we go to the outlet mall near a naval training facility he'd give me grief over the navy guys floating around... (most looked like they just finished highschool... EW). So ours is a bit of give and take on the situation. I even tease him about his co-workers, especially since many of them have reputations as tr@mps & that includes some of the guys too!

I do not remember but I am wondering what his reaction would be like if you started behaving that same way too. I am not sure if that's something you would want to try, but at least it is worth a shot since talking to him did not work at all. Good luck.

Hello there friend, This is really true and upsetting.I am a housewife myself and i do share your sentiments.Why did our partner can't understand that they are hurting us unintentionally(was that really unintentional?)Gosh...i really hate it when my partner headturn for young girls passing by,and it seems i never exists. And one more thing is,we just keep tongue tied not to start an argument coz,we knew when we started about it,we will be blamed or accused of jealousy for nonsense matter. Well,i guess all we have to do is,to maintain our figure and keep ourself looking fresh as ever Cheers my friend,you are not alone.

mermaidivy, be cool, and stay tune. I can understand your situation how frustrated it can be when you are all dolled up but your hubs just refuse to look at you. Tell this to yourself as to comfort you.. no point arguing if you finds this being a habit of your hubs! It's never easy to abandon bad habits for sure, and what you can do is maybe the next time you caught him doing that, you just have to stand in front of him and let him know your presence. Remember we used to say "the grass is always greener on the other side"? So, in my opinion, if you have spoken to him and it don't works, just do with your action. Alternatively, you may want to doll up again the next time to attract some 'men' attention... :)

As a married woman i totally understand what you felt . The simple way is to keep improve yourself to be better and better to see whether his eyes can only focus on you . And talking to him about this is also extremely important . To let him know how you feel and to get to know what he thinks .