I'm NOT angry.........just concerned.

I barely go to facebook, or is it the other one, I don't know, I barely go there

I hear you! I have all of my children and some grandchildren of Facebook and I wouldn't necessarily want them reading things that I have put on mylot either

I am not on Facebook I stay clear lol, to many People there I do not want to see ( one the Ex) My Children are on there and I know they like it, but they also keep in touch there with their Auntie and Cousins all their School Mates that have gone different ways, I agree that this sort of thing should not be posted unless it is by you If someone should ask tell them in private not announce it all over the Site

Hell no I wouldnt! Am there too but mostly with my family in another state and they arent on much so I am not eitehr. wasnt on there anytime really till I found that they were there last June past. I will stick to MYLOT!

I only have one friend from myLot on FB...and like you, I do prefer to keep them separate. I'd be horrified if my family found out something about me that I'd prefer them not to know yet (my mom was fond of sharing stories about me before I was ready to share with the rest of the family). I prefer the anonymity of myLot to Facebook too...I can get a lot of stuff off my chest and out of my craw here that I can't do on FB. What happened to you is a violation of trust. Good luck sweets and I hope you feel better!

I signed up on facebook awhile back, but couldn't really warm up to it so haven't been back lol. I wouldn't like it either, if someone put my personal business on facebook either, but I'm sure it was with good intentions though and yes, I know, the road to hell is paved with good intentions LOL. I'm on myspace sometimes and so is hubby and when he used to work second shift and weekends, that was our way to communicate while I was home and he was working. One time we had a bad argument before he left for work and we continued it on myspace for all the world to see LOL. Not a smart thing to do, but anger makes you do weird things. But then we made up on myspace too LMAO.

It's funny but... I manage and moderate online communities for a living and I have for ten years now. I don't have a myspace, I don't have a facebook, I don't do twitter... and NOT because I don't know how LOL I'm simply a very private person and I have no interest in putting my personal stuff out there for public consumption in any way that's truly identifiable. My whole family is on facebook and they don't understand why I won't create an account. I hear all the time how it's great for finding old friends and such. The way I see it is - the people I want to stay friends with, I do. I haven't lost contact with any of my friends that mean the world to me. We email. Occasional phone calls or lunches or maybe a BBQ with our families, etc. If I want someone in my life, they are already there LOL I had a very negative experience when Classmates was a fledgling site. A guy that I had had a great deal of trouble with as a teen got on our particular high school's forum and started posting to people that he was looking for me. Well, a friend of my sister's, who is known to be a real gossip and likes to get in the middle of everyone's business, told him how to contact me. I woke up one morning to find an email in my inbox that felt like a knife to my gut. I managed to get away from it (and him) but I was furious that someone would give out my personal contact information without asking me first if it was ok. I would never do that to someone else :( I don't have a single referral here at myLot (yet? lol) and I've had an account for over three years. The reason is that I really enjoy the discussions and I like to post freely about my thoughts, opinions and even personal issues where I'd like a little feedback. If I ask my family and friends to join, then I know my participation here would drastically change because there would be things I wouldn't post about or even ask since I know they would reading them. I simply don't like how that makes me feel. I'm not antisocial - really I'm not! LOL - but I like to decide how, when, where and why information about me is shared. So, to get to the end of a convoluted response, no I would absolutely not want family finding out something about me online that I haven't already told them.

Hope you're feeling better sparks. I use FB mostly to play games and catch up with ole school friends and family :) haven't been in mylot because of it.. I wouldn't want my family finding out from others whats going on with me - I would prefer to tell them myself, more privately actually and not announced to everyone.

glad you are back...alive & well. I don't blame you for being a bit ticked. I'm sure whoever did this was doing it to put everyone's worries to rest. Still, it should have been left up to you as to what if anything that you wanted to make public. I don't know about your family but mine would be furious to find out about me on the net rather than from me directly.

Yeah, I think there are many things you can post on here that should not be shared on another forum. It hink sharing personal information is probably something that is better not done. I guess there are many sad and personal things that could be discussed online that should not go beyond the confines of the particular fourm you are discussing. I'm really sorry that you had that situation and Ihope it will not be repeated.

Yeah, I wouldn't want them to. And a lot of fambly members are over there...

GAH! I too keep certain things separate because I also have family on facebook, including my parents, my siblings, cousins, and other relatives. I also have friends on there that I have had most of my life, we're talking people I met when I was five! I don't necessarily need them seeing some of the stuff I talk and rant about here lol. I don't mind the good natured bantering that goes back and forth on the wall between various friends of mine from here and there but yeah, if I suffered some sort of injury, accident, or whatever and I talked about it here but you saw no mention of it on my facebook, I would think you'd know not to spill the beans. I'm also pretty clear about my religious views here... and I tend to be outspoken there as well, but a lot of my friends and family ARE religious, so I choose to not expose them to the worst of my rants. I don't want to HURT them, I simply don't agree so I usually choose to bow out gracefully or change the subject when it comes down to it. I don't feel that way HERE where people are sharing opinions and they aren't really designed to hurt somebody, nor do opinions really hurt anyway. So... bottom line, no I would not want family and friends 'finding out' something that I had chosen to keep from them for MY OWN REASONS via someone from mylot who is also my friend on facebook taking something I wrote here and posting it there. That nearly seems like a betrayal even if it wasn't intentional. The best guideline would be 'ask first!', right?

well, that was tacky for them to do that. we have an old saying here about people that want to tell everything, 'they didn't let their coat tail till they told that'.alot of people are like that but it has never been my favorite trait in people. i am on facebook but do very little on it. i think mylot is alot more to my liking. by telling something like that it could be very shocking to family & friends.

yeah i agree with you . Sometimes we just want to keep some screts from our family members.

Hi sparks, Sorry to hear, about the stuff you been going through. I do have a habit of telling mylot members stuff I don't even tell my family,well I did till my mom became a member in February. I don't have a Facebook account but was thinking of gettng one but every time I am about to, I hear about stuff that makes me take more time in deciding. I have a MySpace account but hardly sign in there unless someone has wrote me or left a comment. Sometimes it is hard keeping things separately from other sites when you have friends in both places since it does have the tendency to carry over in both sites.Well, good luck in the future and hope things get straightened out..takecare.

I know exactly what you mean. I am the same way with my lot and other places that I go to. I go to each of them for different reasons and the one here at mylot I take more seriously than any of the others. I too put things here that I don't in others. My family is part of the others. Although my mom is here albeit rarely. I really would not want someone else telling or letting my family know something unless I wanted to tell them.

Hi Sparks! I can see your point and that is why I am not bothering with my account on FB hardly at all. I either open up two seperate accounts there and keep family and offline friends seperate from online friends - but that is impossible now because online has become offline too So I stick here and will just sort FB out later. Then I'll have to do one in Italian anyway so... forget it

Hmmm. Firstly I didn't know that you were in hospital and secondly I'm not sure if we are friends on Facebook. I hope that you are feeling better and sorry that you didn't get a message from me. Wasn't me wot told honest! I have two FB accounts where I keep family and friends separate. I love both groups, but sometimes there are things said by one that I might not feel is suitable consumption by the other. I do get called p1ke on the friends group and I guess that I have to accept that. More people know me by that name than my real one!

I'm not involved in this in any way but from an outsiders view point this seems like an issue you, yourself has created and now your asking people to police it for you! Being an old guy I would want to warn you that this probably isn't going to work, Facebook has a bunch of filters and safe guards to protect your privacy you may want to check them out, I saw this on Rachael Ray the other day and was amazed! Lessons learned! tdemex

Sparks- I would not want nor respect anyone who posted things about me or my family on any social networking site. What I choose to reveal about myself is my business, but if someone else friend or not were to do it I'd be reporting them for TOS violations, and making it very clear to them that I didn't not appreciate it. I'm not sure which troll did this, as I do not have you yet as a friend on Facebook but I know it's not the two friends that I have on there who are on here. They wouldn't do such a thing. I wish you luck though. I did read your other thread notice but am swamped with emails myself and getting there. I would hope that this person who did it would know it was in poor taste, and very disrespectful to you to share your personal information like that. Namaste-Anora