Do you feel that your responses are reflection of your real personality?

I feel that it all depends on the discussion at hand as to whether a good glimpse of my true self is offered. If it's something I am passionate about I will be strong in my words, but with trying to be as nice about it as possible. Other times it's something I am interested in, to the point of saying I am passionate, but it's also not something that I am offended by, and therefore while my true personality comes out, you get to see the softer side! On that note, I do try to avoid discussions that can cause confrontations.

hello there! i think yes, my posts, discussions and comments reflects who am i in real life...coz most of the time, i answer based on my experience or my friend's experiences...i usually talks about my opinion and how i really feel about the topic. usually when i am answering on discussions, i feel like i am really talking to the person who starts the discussion and as much as possible, i want to be realistic and sincere all the time...and actually, i don't respond on discussions that i can't relate.

Hi Deepak, I think I am a classic case of split personality…a self-contradictory character though I am working on this in the positive direction. What I mean to say is that I am very good at analyzing situations and people and doling out free advise but when it comes to me, I am at a complete loss as to what should be the best course of action. So whatever I say here on mylot is as a neutral observer, a rather clinical observation of situations and people. the moment it becomes personal, you will see me wilting under pressure. But, I must admit that mylot has been a huge help to me on this…the variety of response and suggestions and sharing of common problems that I see here, has made me understand how people deal with different situations and I have tried to emulate them or rather construe my own actions from their suggestions. So you can very well understand that there is indeed a difference, albeit unintentional, between what I write here and what I do in my own life.

Hey dpk! I think you already know my answer!I think you know with me you get the real me in every single work that I type! I am what I write! My response come straight from the heart! Sometimes they're serious, sometimes funny, sometimes caring, sometimes crazy, but no matter what they reflect the way I am in my real life! I try to be a good person in my real life and to me mylot is the same thing! The friends I have made here are very special to me and mean a great deal so I would never try to deceive them by being someone other than myself!

Hi dpk, well if I see a topic I want to respond to I just type what I think at that moment and don't analyse it. I would say my posts reflect my honesty, I have my own opinions and am not afraid to express them but value honesty. I have to be in the mood to answer anything to do with religion as my views will be in the minority so I'm aware it is going to provoke responses which challenge me to prove what I think which is a bit late in the day as my views were formed at an early age and I'm not going to change them now, but these particular topics seem to not allow for the slightest banter or humour which I feel I probably express in much of what I write. Unless we stick to one liners of course we are going to reveal something of our personalities and if we do respond a lot it would be a bit difficult to keep up an invented persona. Now that would be an interesting challenge.

I always try to give open, honest answers to discussions that i respond to, how else are we going to help others and give advice or opinions if they are wanting them, if we are not presenting a true "picture" of what we beleive. And besides, i find it hard to lie about such things, and what would be the point in not telling what we actually think anyways? I am genreally a very open person and will give my thoughts freely in the "real" world if asked as well, so i have no problem doing it on line. In fact, online might even be easier, because if you do disagree with someone, at least you are not doing it on a face to face basis where if they don't like what you are saying that can throw a drink in your face! I am sometimes more candid on certian subjects though, and that is because of one reason only. I signed up on Mylot through a referal from my boyfriend who is very active on here. Granted, he and i don't very often wind up in the same discussions, as his passion is politics, and mine is more people and day to day life oriented, but i am sure he occasionally browses through my responses and discussions, as i do his. This only affects my answers in that when i respond to discussions asking for relationship advice, or any personal matter that might involve me telling a story involving him, i don't want him to be upset that i might be sharing personal information about his life here, if it is not something he wants out there for all to see. If he wasn't a fellow mylot member, i would probably be more candid when it comes to these types of posts, as then the judgment would be only on me, and not on him also.

Yes. I never put on anther face here in Mylot. And most of my close friends here like you know me what kind of person I am with my discussions and responses here as I know what kind of person are you. You are a soft gentle man with a very cool and controlled attitude. You are not provoked easily. You love your family and like to lead a peaceful happy life without involving yourself in unwanted adventures. You are not an extrovert. How far I am right Deepak and what do you think of me by my discussions and responses?

Words that come out from you certainly reflects part if not all of your personality. You cannot be pretentious as it is written by you and no one else. Only people who are good mind readers can read you through the words you write. Say if you are a humorous person, it is reflected in the words that you use, there sure be a tint of humor in your writings. If you are a serious minded person every words you write will sound to be serious. If a person is sarcastic, he will also write sarcastically. I think after having been here for a long time, we more or less be able to know each other quite well through our writings. It is not surprising that words can draw people to each other, as has happened here.

When I started going online and interacting with people back in '95 or so, I decided to do so as myself. No false pretenses, no talking myself up or making myself out to be what I'm not. Just me. That's how I've done everything online since then, including myLot. I just don't see the point of pretending to be something or someone else. In a forum like this, I think it's especially important to post honestly particularly when you're being asked for an opinion. I just started a thread about Wii games. I'm curious as to what people think about the different games out there because I'm thinking about getting more than the 3 I have. I don't want someone to spout reviews from the top gamer magazines. I want to know what games people actually like playing and why they like playing it. And that's what a lot of the topics here are -- people looking for opinions on different subjects. They don't want someone else's opinion in your words -- they want your opinion. Does that make sense?

I would like to think that they are! I recall once responding to a discussion about parents and the question was something along the lines of “would you take in your parents when they are old?’. There were many replies and most said of course, it is a son or daughter’s duty to take care of their parents...Me, well I did not feel that way because I don’t have a good relationship with my folks. I remember hesitating and wondering how honest I should be in case others thought badly of me. In the end I responded honestly, said no and explained my reasons. That was the start of honest posts. People did not hate me for my opinion even if they didn’t agree and that is how it should be. Post what you feel and think, not just what you think others want to hear, as long as it is not hurtful to anyone of course.

That's right! When I respond or post a discussion, what I write really reveals what my real personality is, sometimes I respond to a discussion and wrote like I am scared of stuff and like a wimp... I got replied back and said you are such a wimp or something like that... but it is really personality that I'm easy to get scared :-p I think when we write about our views, it is directly state our characters like strong? weak? or don'tknow what they are doing etc, it is very straight forward :-)

I believe the responses that we do here is part of how we are real life in terms of our personality. I honestly can say that I have been responding to discussions that I have been thru and yes I put a bit of who I am in almost all of my comments because that is how you relay to the person who is reading your sentiments on a particular subject. Whatever we write we somewhat relay a part of who we are unless you are somewhat someone who loves to write and who can separate his/her personal feelings aside to write something.

Hi dpk, I believe one's responses can tell so much about his personality. I for one won't respond to a post that doesn't interest me, but I generously give my thoughts (with a lot of information) to those discussions that I can really relate to. When I do this, I am aware that I am giving away a part of me, that I'm allowing myLot community to have a peek at something that is personal to me. Here we give our preferences, our views and opinions, our experiences, even our culture - I can't think of anything more real than this, unless the one responding is deliberately faking it. I've seen many who've shown their real feelings when they respond, even when it means downgrading or losing their star - and that alone is a good indication of the real person behind each post.

Yep i do feel its true. As whatever discussions that we take part, or whatever discussions we do start, we do it as it does intrests us... There's not all topics we respond to, we respond if its something related to us, in every day to day life, about which we know.. So its true that if you read all the responses of any user, you do know about them a lot..

Yes. This is the real me. Everything I write is true.I Hate liars.I have no patience for them.When I respond to a post I tell a true story and I hope it helps or answers the question.When I start a post,I am either seeking an answer to a question or venting and hoping there are others who feel the same way.

Hello Deepak, how are you? I somehow believe that people get to be more open in writing. That is one reason why some use letters and text messages when they are unable to verbally express it. With writing, we are able to put across things that we can't normally say. Even shy people get the chance to openly communicate their feelings and sentiments through mylotting, and I guess that is their real personalities, in many ways. Have a great day! Weng

Yes, i do. Everything i say or post here on mylot reveals my true self. As you have mentioned, your behavior here is your real behavior. When i respond or comment back on comments made to me by fellow mylotters, it is my true self talking. I think, most of us here do or feel that way. In a way we share our inner self to our friends on here.

Oh yes..I do think that responses reflect who we are. I think that our discussions do as well. Most of my discussions are about things that I wonder or think of. It can really tell someone a lot about who I am. My responses are honest to my personality too. I respond just how I feel about subject matter. This is who we are.

I believe whatever on the mylot must be a reflection of the member. It is impossible to say something not of oneself. Of my friends, I can figure out a relatively concrete being, including background, hobbies, family, personality, etc.

Hi Deepak...very interesting question. Yes, I do feel that I am my "real" self and that my personality shows through in my online communications. I have found, too, that others seem to reflect their own unique personalities online. :) Karen