Am i too restrictive as a girlfriend?

You did think a lot for boyfriend. i think you are right to speak out your opinion. There is no wrong or right about such things as you mentioned . Just have a good discussion between you. You are really a good person indeed because you care much about other's feeling. Your boyfriend will be appreciated it.

its obvious for a girl to be too restrictive as a girl friend. even I do not allow my boy friend to do such things.

Oh geeezz... You guys don't have to be rude here. I mean, she is still young to realize some things about relationship. The good thing about her is that she is guilty about what she did to her boyfriend. We have to respect her not liking tatts and piercings. I have 3 tattoos. What she said here that she really dislikes tatts and prc did not affect me at all because I respect her. abbyprinngles, I think you have to loosen up a little bit.

i think you're just vocal in your likes and dislikes. just the fact that he followed you is enough to let you know that he agrees or maybe respects this voicing out of yours. if you still think he is hurt but fails to see it because he's good in hiding it there are still things you can do to make up for this thwarting of his want.

Since he didn't have a problem with what you had to say he must not have a problem with it. It sounds like more he respected your feelings about it. He could have probably had it done anyway but he didn't. I think it says a lot. My hubby won't let me cut my hair. He loves long hair. I don't think it is restrictive or controlling. I think it is just his preference. I don't see anything wrong with what you did and it doesn't sound like your boyfriend does either.

I think that you told him what you felt about it and he agreed not to do it.That happens a lot in relationships just give it time if you did the right thing it is going to be okay if not it`s not the end of the world am sure you guys will work it out.

I think every human has a right to make his own decision, be it a husband, father, brother, your sibling or your boyfriend..If you don't like such things, it would be best to advice them and tel them how you feel about it..Being restrictive can draw him further away from you as it screams CONTROL! Nobody wishes to be controlled and it can be really annoying...I think you should placidly tell him your viewpoint and suggest he do what he thinks best. Good Luck!

See - Let Me Tell you -- If your boyfriend Loves you he will do Everything You Say .. He did What you said .. He loves you too much I think .. You also should think about his likes And dislikes .. If he enjoys Getting his Ears Pierced .. You must be the First One to ask him to go Ahead and get it Pierced Fast .. Why - Because You do care for him as he does .. Thank You ..

Well.... I kind of see it as 'it's his body' and it's also his form of self expression. If he is old enough to do it without having to ask permission from parents, then I don't see why you would stand in his way. I don't have any tattoos and only my ears are double pierced, but I truly enjoy seeing what other people do and I have nothing against tattoos, piercings etc as long as they were chosen by the person themselves and not forced on them. My husband has this saying.... about whatever you decide to do, make sure that you'll still be happy with that decision ten years later. If so, then feel free, if you can legally make the decision. I say if you want something, wait a week. If you still really want it, then combined with the ten year thing, why not? Also, in light of kids, it's better to wait until you're old enough to do something without parental consent. I've told both my older kids that if they want to do piercings and tattoos, that I have no problem with it - as long as they waited to do it until they were past the age where they had to ask me for consent (other than ears) AND that they paid for such piercing or tattoo all on their own, and they were also responsible for care and anything else, such as repiercing, tattoo removal, etc etc. The older kids are almost 20 and 18 so I really don't have any problem with what they choose as long as I'm not paying for it - it is their bodies you know. Just food for thought - have you ever wanted to do something or have something that your boyfriend wasn't in favor of? How did or would that make you feel? The aim should not be to control someone you are in a relationship with. That causes resentment. If whatever it is isn't going to hurt either of you or another person, what is the big deal? You love HIM, right?

When you are in a relationship, if you are axtious to push your partner to give up some habits long lived, first you have to set a better example to him/her! but way not eought, you also need to help him/her get through that together as a common goal! Pure critism and scorn will just trigger even more fire. For one time, i finally fliped out about my gf imposing her living ideology to me against my willingness. And by that she didn't take my advice to her into heart either! so later i realized that we could not just throw pieces of notes telling people to do and not to do, we got be there with him/her to achieve it togetehr.

We all have dreams and it is important that we support each other in our dreams. In my opinion, if what he wants to do does not in any way hurts you, him or anyone else, you should let him pursue what he wants. Piercing is fad. It will pass. Discussing the topic is another useful tool and it will also help you understand him more.

Since he did not say anything about it, then i guess it's safe to say that it's okay with him that you disapproved. Better yet, it's never to late to talk things over with him. Maybe you could explain to him why you didn't want it, and on the other hand he could say why he wanted a piercing.

I think that relationship is always about two people working together for each others need. Both should concern about each others feelings. Any decision made within the relationship should be made as a couple. However, it is rare to see a young couple thinking like that. Imagine if you wanted to do something he does not like. How would he take it?

If that the worst thing he could ask.That's no biggie really!!Just make sure he pierces the correct one!(left one) =)

Ya, I don't think we really have the right to make those kinds of choices for others. I think you would feel better if you told him what you told us here. From what you say, he is probably ok with it and thoughts probably meant a lot to him.

Well,I think you should talk further with your boyfriend.Let him know that you really care about him and tell him your attitude towards piercing.You can tell him why you don't want him to do that more thoughtfully and maybe it will help.Perhaps your boyfriend will be very understanding and you two can work this matter out.It will improve your relationship through this process.Personally I don't like guys wearing piercings or tattcos either.

do you really think its your place to tell him what he can or can not do? i would never think of telling mine that he can't get a piercing or tattoo because i don't like it. you seem a bit controlling and probably should lighten u a bit.

i understand why you said what you did, but thats a different argument. personally, i believe there is no harm in giving your opinion towards a decision that your partner is making. however, making it an instruction, is wrong. i feel that if you had told your boyfriend that you don't like the idea of him getting a piercing, then he would oblige and not get one as a tattoo/piercing is a aesthetic thing and you are the only one he should care about impressing. I'm not sure from what you have said, really how you did portrayyour opinion, but i hope this helps.

hi abbypringles , you see none of the boys are silly for such a thigns..especially when moving with girls they would be very soft.. so dont worry i wont hurt him.. with regards, sans

I think it's important to voice your opinions and feelings in a relationship. However, it's also important to compromise and to allow him to do what he wishes with his body. But there is absolutely nothing wrong with discussing these things. Maybe, in the future, instead of forbidding something, or 'telling' him not to do something, just explain why you don't like it, tell him that is how you feel and ask him to consider your feelings but that ultimately it is his decision and that you will respect that too. Sometimes, your partner doesn't mind hearing "no" just as long as they know that you respect their rights to make their own decisions. You honestly don't sound restrictive at all. If you were, you wouldn't be concerned about his feelings in this matter! Good luck!