I Won..I Won...My Husband Got Busted By The Judge!!!!!
By dfinster
@dfinster (3528)
United States
July 24, 2009 5:14pm CST
Well, those of you who have been following my situation with my divorce here know what a hard time my soon to be ex was giving me in court. He lies, cheats and steals to hold on to his precious money. Well at our court appearance, the judge comletely believed me and my attorney. He has a $1,500 a month mortgage on the house that I did not want. He works at a job that pays over 40 thousand a year and has his own cash business where he makes over $25 grand a year in cash. He never has wanted for anything. But I have. I couldn't even have food in the house because I had no idea where the accounts were and had no access to any of them.
It's totally true that what a person gives they get back 10 fold and I hope this is just the beginning for him. He lied about me having access to the accounts. The judged could plainly see my name was on none of the account and that I had no idea they existed and when he said he couldn't pay me maintenece the judge busted him about his cash only business for which he had no valid answers. He then told the judge he only made like $1,700/month but planned on keeping the house and mortgage and the judge then knew that he was making big cash on the side and wouldn't let his lawyer even finish what he was saying. The judge then went on to say that since I had documentation for every cent I have used since the separation and he couldn't account for his money he would be doubling my maintence payments because he knew my ex wasn't being truthful about the cash he was making on the side. When my ex said there wasn't enough side business because of the economy and he had no work I then had my lawyer pull out a witness statement from a person I knew who was having him install an extremely expensive bathroom for. They were paying him over $40/hr cash and the job was being done at the time we were in court and my ex said he had absolutely no work. He got caught in everything and now his credibility is shot with the judge.
I have waited for so long to show everyone I was telling the truth about him and it all came out and this is just the beginning of what is to come for him and all his lies and abuse. Lesson learned here???? The truth simply set me free and what goes around comes around:)
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23 responses
@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
Congratulations! I'm so glad to hear that you won the case over your husband. I hope now, you can live peacefully and that he will pay all what's left to you to pay. I wish to hear good news in the latter days from you. You deserve this.
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@momtrying2makeit (3270)
• United States
25 Jul 09
Yeah no it is time for the party to begin. No more worries I guess from your end and please keep us updated:)
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@dfinster (3528)
• United States
26 Jul 09
I had all I could do in that courtroom not to get up and start dancing.....but I was cool as a cucumber..NOT! LOL! I thought I was gonna bust if I didn't get out of there quickly so I could celebrate. Thanks for all of you support here with all of this stuff Polly.
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
24 Jul 09
Good for you! So many times I've witnessed bad people getting away with everything and it's a nice change to see someone get their comeuppance. Karma always prevails and this appears to be yet more proog of that. The truth DOES set us free and I hope that from this point forward you can let go of the past and move on with your life positively and with forgiveness in your heart. 
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lol.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
25 Jul 09
Congratulations, Dfinster! This rings so true as to how my won ex-husband was and how difficult he made our divorce. You're right, though, all the truths came out and I won my maintenance and settlement. It pays to be honest!
Karen2 people like this
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
25 Jul 09
Thank God that in your case justice delayed was not justice denied! Though I may not have responded to all your discussions on this topic coz I felt I had nothing special to contribute, I know what you have been through. Your hubby came out as a distinctly spoilt and stupid child who would go to any length just to keep a toy! He couldn’t even see that his lies were so thin, everybody could see thru them!!! Anyways, congrats on a very well deserved victory and I hope all turns out well for you.
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@lisado (1227)
• United States
25 Jul 09
I haven't seen your other posts about your divorce, but I'm very glad you have a victory this round! What are the child support laws like in your state? I know that a lot of them have laws where if someone gets a certain amount, or more, behind they can be put in jail for it. I'd get a hold of the judge and let him know about the child support being in arrears and have them garnish it out of his check. As long as you know where he works (if he quits this job) they can tranfer the paperwork with him. A friend of mine went thru this a few years ago and because the guy was so far behind they also made him pay extra (they took it out of his check so he had no choice) to help catch it up. Why someone would try to cheat their way out of having to help support their kids is beyond me. He was 50% involved in creating the kids, do he should have to help support and take care of them. You knw that if it was the other way around (if he got custody) he'd have his hand out for support. 
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@dfinster (3528)
• United States
25 Jul 09
This isn't for child support. This is for alimony and property. I contributed for so many years and feels he could keep it all and I should just walk away with nothing. But my money is being taken off of his check. I never had access to the accounts and was denied use of any of the money we had so now things are starting to even out.
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
25 Jul 09
Congratulations!! for winning the case. Some people believe they can cheat or lie forever, I'm so glad someone stops him. That cash customer that you found, how nice that they told you what you need to know. true that business is slow due to the economy, but that happens to everyone and they don't necessarily cheat their way out of it. you're right, everything returns to us tenfold, good and bad deeds. I've seen this happens my entire life. business or individual. nothing and nobody is free from law of the universe: what comes around, goes around.
I'm happy for you. I hope things start to get better for you from now on.
@dfinster (3528)
• United States
26 Jul 09
Things really have started to get better. I love the new apartment that I have. My friends are all coming around again and for the first time in as long as I can remember I'm just so happy with myself. I have a feeling of being content that I almost forgot was possible.
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@sid556 (30959)
• United States
25 Jul 09
Good for you. My ex never got caught in this game and I am so glad to see that the system worked for someone. This is great because it's all on record and now his credibility is shot for any further court dealings you may have.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
25 Jul 09
Way to go girl...congratulations!! I'm so glad that things went well for you in court and that that dog of an ex is having his sad, sad day. I hope you'll be seeking a wage garnishment from his regular job so that your money comes in regularly and without any additional problems. It's great when honesty and good triumphs over evil.
@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
25 Jul 09
I am so glad he is getting just what he deserves! I think KARMA will eventually come back to haunt everyone I am just glad that for right now it is haunting him Big Time! Congratulations on your settlement. Remember to continue to be vigilant and write everything down expense wise and keep your eye on him. Never can tell when he may try to take you back to court again.
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@dfinster (3528)
• United States
25 Jul 09
I'm writing everything down because it still isn't final. We are arguing over property that he has hidden and tried to liquidate against the court order so he doesn't have to pay me. I'm watching things like a hawk but he is incredibly sneaky so I never know what he will try next.
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@momtrying2makeit (3270)
• United States
25 Jul 09
Whoa it seems like you got what you wanted. I hate to see people go to court I wish people could work things outside of the court room sometimes but I understand that is not always the case. I am happy to see that you are sharing this info here and I say happy mylotting to you. I hope for the best as well.! :)
I hope for the best as well.! :)2 people like this
@ravirai8616561 (824)
• India
25 Jul 09
i am feeling great for u as u are finally got rid of your anxietys.may god help u to win all odds in ur life and u reach the top of pinnacle u wanna reach.have a good year i would say.
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@dfinster (3528)
• United States
2 Aug 09
My classes start again in October on like the 6th or the 7th. I would have been in school now if he hadn't screwed it up by not giving me the mail that had my paperwork and disconnecting the internet when I lived at the house with him. But that's alright because I got everything taken care of now and will be able to start on time without having to stress out about getting all my paperwork done on time. Plus since I will be getting it in early I will be getting a huge check back for living exprnses somewhere around the third week after the quarter starts so that's a great thing to look forward to.
@trickiwoo (2702)
• United States
25 Jul 09
I'm glad to hear it! It's always refreshing to us honest people when liars and cheaters get caught in their lies! I know a couple who was going through a divorce and she was lying about him being abusive to make him look bad so that she would get everything in the divorce. But she just kept lying and lying and pretty soon the judge caught on her tricks! It is nice to see that good people really do win in the real world!
@dfinster (3528)
• United States
25 Jul 09
That woman sounds like my ex. I can't remember the last time when I thought he was telling the truth and wasn't just outright lying and he does it to everyone including his friends. He's insecure and needs to lie to make himself look better. I just am relieved that finally someone could see the truth and that I could prove what was going on. Thanks for you support:)
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
25 Jul 09
I had not read any of your discussions on your problems but i'm very glad u won. Congraulations. U are so right what goes around does come around.
@Citychic (4067)
• United States
6 Aug 09
I won, I won!!!
hey there dfinster, lols, I thought you had hit the lottery but all is good anyhow because I loved your story. I have always believed that line that what goes around comes around. I've got one over there that's doing the same thing as yours. He want to hold on to all the accounts. Give me little info. as possible. But not to worry some day I know he will get his too. Happy mylot and have a great life without that looser.
@happyness3 (394)
• United States
24 Jul 09
Yay for you dfinster!! I had to go through an ugly court battle once for custody of my kids. My husband went so far as to actually quit his 40k per year job and take a minimum wage job so he wouldn't have to pay childsupport. Now he lives with his mom and works at a job where he gets paid under the table. I just got $75 in child support, the first I had gotten in almost a year! Whatever, I was just happy that I have my children, which is all I needed to win the case. So, I share in your happyness at winning against that mean man!
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@dfinster (3528)
• United States
25 Jul 09
He threatened me that he would quit his job, but now the court knows about all of that and his cash business. He is the one who opened his mouth about keeping the house and when the court saw how much it was and that he planned to keep it they knew what he was saying made no sense financially and caught him in his own lies about the cash business. It's nice to know that sometimes honesty does win out. It restores my faith in mankind:)
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