How did you meet your partner?
@LovingLife139 (1504)
United States
July 25, 2009 11:57pm CST
I thought it would be very interesting and enlightening to share our stories of when we met our significant others and why the moment was so special. My story is still a conversation starter, and here it is:
I met the man who is now my husband when I was 16 and he was 21 (before anyone gets too weirded out, let me continue, haha). My mom and I were shopping at a drugstore and buying lots of clearanced Easter stuffed animals for my mom to give to poor children. We went to check out at the register, and I connected immediately with the cashier (he looked like he was 18). I remember not knowing his name, but suddenly feeling as if getting to know him was a necessary thing to do in order to continue living. It felt intense.
By the time we were up at the register, I couldn't take my eyes off him, and my mom started putting the stuffed animals on the counter, face-down. I started turning them around so they were face up, and I remember the cashier looked at me as if I was crazy. I just blurted, "They need to see and breathe" as if that explained everything. He stared back at me and said, "Watch out...PETA might come and get you," referring to the animal rights group, as if I'd get in trouble for suffocating stuffed animals.
I left in a daze, and my mom encouraged me to call the store and give him my number. I did about a half hour later, and waited 6 minutes and 47 seconds for him to come to the phone. When he did, I said, "Hi, Tim? It's Rosie." He was so confused and had no idea who I was, so I clarified, "The stuffed animal girl." He replied, "Ooh," as if that explained everything! :) I sighed as if deeply upset, and said, "I just wanted to let you know...one of the stuffed animals suffocated." He exclaimed, "It was decapitated?!" I began laughing and said, "NO, it suffocated in the plastic bag you put it in." He offered to buy me a new one, and I said, "No, you don't have to do that. But would you like my number instead?" He took my number, and the next day I saw him...he still gave me a replacement stuffed animal. :) The rest is history, and stuffed animals are still our inside joke to this day.
What's your story? Or if you have fun or cute stories of past relationships, let's hear those as well. :)
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@fruitcakeliz (2638)
• United States
26 Jul 09
Your story is so cute! I love it!
Mine isn't nearly as exciting, but could be considered interesting none the less.
I actually met my boyfriend on an online dating site *pausing so everyone reading this can roll their eyes and decide whether or not to even continue reading*..I was bored (and lonely), and i wasn't even neccisarily even looking to find someone in a romantic way at all, just for an opportunity to meet sme new people to chat with and talk to. So i built a profile on a free dating site (which i highly reccomend and will gladly give the address to anyone who would like to check it out..just message me)
Soon i started getting messages from guys. Most of these messages went ignored, as they were obviously just looking to get to know someone lone enough to hook up with them. I did however meet a few people who were very interesting to talk with, and struck up email correspondences with them. One guy in particular was VERY intersting to talk to. After about a week of messaging back and forth (and me eagerly awaiting every day an email in my inbox saying that i had recieved a new message from him) we moved our conversations to MSN messanger and spent a lot of time talking back and forth, staying up way too late somenights!
After a couple of weeks of this, we finaly set a date for him to come to maine and visit me. My friend was having her 21st birthday, and i was oging to be going out with her and a bunch of friends to a bar for some drinks to celebrate, then back to her house for a more private party. So i invited him to come up and go with me. I was so very very very nervous in the days leading up to his visit. But then he arrived. What if we meet and we don't have anythign to talk about? What is we don't like eachother in "real" life? But then he showed up and all that nervousness just dissipated. We Sat down and talked like we were old friends for hours, went out to dinner and then met up with my friend for her birthday, having a great time.
We decided we had to get together again soon, and we did. With in less than a week he was able to come back and stay up for a couple of days. Then i was able to go back with him to his home in new hampshire and meet his daughters. We have been dating now for well over a year and I am very much in love with this man. Even though we still live in different states, we generally spend more time together than we do apart. Unfortunately he has been back in new hampshire for almost two weeks now..but he is coming back to maine tomorrow *yay* i can't wait.
I just realized though, i really hope his daughter doesn't sign up on mylot like she has mentioned possibly doing in the past and then wind up reading this post *lol*, as we were afraid of what his daughter (now ages 18 and 21) would think about their father meeting a woman on-line, so we fibbed a little in describing how we met. We told them that he met me while out and about here in maine while he was visiting some friends who live near me (which he does have, and woudln't be un-beleiveable)
@fruitcakeliz (2638)
• United States
26 Jul 09
I also want to add that this was not my first online, long distance relationship. The first one started just as i was getting done with highschool, but we lived much further away, i in nebraska, he in maine. We eventually traveled back and forth a few times to spend time with eachother, then i moved to maine, and after a year of me beign out here got married. Granted that marriage only lasted for 2 and a half years, but i do not beleive us splitting had anything to do with the fact that we met online, just that we grew to become different people over time.
After we split, i decided to remain in maine, as opposed to goig back home to nebraska. If i hadn't, there never would have been the possibility of me meeting my currant boyfriend, so i guess life works in mysterous ways.
@LovingLife139 (1504)
• United States
26 Jul 09
How wonderful that you met and it was just as good as online! Your story shows you can meet people online that you do really fall in love with. I knew about a free online dating site because one of my friends used it...I think I know which one you're speaking of.
I think it's adorable that when you met him you were so nervous. Had you spoken on the phone at all before that? If I had ever met anyone online I'd want to meet them in public and have one of my friends with me...and that's what you did. You were being smart, and it led to a great relationship!
As for the marriage that didn't last, no one can rightly say it was because it had started online. When 50% of marriages don't last, and you know not many people meet others online, you can't blame the internet dating scene at all.
Have you and your boyfriend spoken of anything more permanent yet? I'm excited for you! :)
@fruitcakeliz (2638)
• United States
26 Jul 09
Oh, we have discussed it now and then, but we will have to see what the future brings. I really cannot see myself moving to new hampshire where he is, as i have a very good thing going in my job. If the chain grocery store i worked in had a store near where he was, i would look into transfering in a heartbeat, but unfortunately the closest one is an hour and a half away, which is the same distance in traveling as where i live from him! And we have discussed the possibility of him moving here with me, but that would have to wait a bit. He still has his children living at home with him, though the oldest (21)is moving away in the fall and geting a place with her boyfriend. the younger one (18) just grauated form high shcool this year, and will be going off to college in maryland in the future, but for her first year she is planning to stay at home and commute to a nearby community college to get her basic courses out of the way first, as it will be much cheaper to do this. So, we will see what happens in the fall of 2010 when she actually goes out of state to go to school. I don't know yet. For now, we just see eachother as much as we can. In someways i am happy he doesn't have a set and steady, regular job, as it means he can come and stay with me for a week or so at a time before going back home for a while, yet at the same time i know it puts stress on him to not be working and have a regular income.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
29 Jul 09
I have to say that is probably the cutest story I have heard in a really long time. I met my boyfriend at work. I was holiday help at the Mall and he is an airbrush artist who was set up in my mall. My kiosk was somewhat next to his and I would steal glances at him. While I was working there I had my ipod on and listened to my music instead of that cheesy mall music. After a while I started to dance in my kiosk to help pass the time. One day he was walking past shaking his head and I asked why and he came over and we talked. Then he went back to work and I just smiled. The next day I went over to him and had him make me a shirt for my brother. I gave him my number and he told me to stop flirting and go home as he laughed!
Then the next day he stopped back at my kiosk and told me he was glad I said hi and we made plans to go out and the rest is history for us.
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@LovingLife139 (1504)
• United States
29 Jul 09
At least the feeling was mutual between you two! I bet your brother didn't even need that shirt. Haha. :) How long have you two been together now?
@sonz_doreen (193)
• United Arab Emirates
26 Jul 09
Its so romantic and movie like the way you and your hubbie met..I met mine in an aircraft after speaking to each other over the phone for one year. Never crossed my mind that we will actually get married, but here we are..Thanks for sharing, this is a very interesting topic and you will certainly get loads of feedback from mylot members.
@LovingLife139 (1504)
• United States
26 Jul 09
It was definitely a topic that I hadn't seen before and I was very interested to start! :) It was very movie-like...it was instant attraction which rarely happens between both people the first time they see one another.
Did you see your husband on the airplane because you met him on one, or did you have no idea he was the same man until you started chatting on the airplane? What a different place to meet your future spouse! :)
@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
hello LovingLife139,
Wow! what a story you have there meeting your other half.
Well, as for us we work in the same company and we were both in the production line. We have differnet shift at that time. I was outgoing that time and she was incoming shift. She does operate machines and eventually became the lead girl. I was a technician that time - the operators will call us when the machine has a problem so with the tester.
Actually, they were teasing her friend to me but I don't like her. At first I was hesitant to court her but eventually I did it for she was the one that I like. Took awhile before we're together and then we got married. For now, we have three kids and happily married.
@sanelaze (167)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
Wow, I'm glad things worked out really well for you! I guess there wasn't an instantaneous attraction (at first) between you too. But I suppose working in the same company and seeing her everyday made helped develop the relationship. Same thing with my boyfriend. Although we do not work together, We always hangout. I sure hope things work out well with us.
Anyway, good luck and more blessing for you and your family!
@sanelaze (167)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
I went abroad for a 4-month training program. I made friends with people from different nationalities but I was particularly close to fellow Filipinos who have migrated there. I barely got over my break up with my first boyfriend when i left the country so i wasn't really interested in going into another relationship (serious or not). I went out for a few friendly dates but I usually liked to hang out as friends. I was good friends with him and i never really thought we'd be interested in each other romantically. Plus, he has a history of cheating and I wont be staying there for long. One month before I had to leave, we hung out at my co-participant's hotel room. Eventually, everyone went to sleep except the two of us. We were still messing around with my laptop and before we know it, it was morning already and I had to go to work. We literally stayed up all night together talking and laughing. It was the first night I didn't think about my ex-boyfriend. I didn't cry or feel depressed. I gave him a friendly hug before he left. All day, I felt lighter. I tried not to feel too attached . The coming days became confusing and exciting at the same time. We went on a road trip on my last week in the states. The attraction was undeniable but there was never really a formal talk about it. I had a detour in CA before i left the US and in between my 30-hr flight, I called him up and 'officially' told him that I like him a lot. (As if that wasn't obvious)
I went home to continue my studies. During the first few months, the communication was constant. Eventually, it became seldom. But i always think about him. He made plans of coming to the country for a visit. There was several times when I thought of letting go. I mean he might have forgotten about me already.There was no formal commitment anyway.
A year later, he actually came to the country! After visiting his relatives, he went to Manila to see me. He stayed for several weeks. There was a point when I thought this might be the last time I could be with him. A bitter sweet ending for us. On the contrary, we fell for each other. It was hard to talk about it because of our situation. It was at the airport before he had to leave when he told me he loves me. He was trying to make me say it first. I don't know why I was so scared to say it when I've been practically in- love with him since I left the US.
Right now, its my turn to go to the US. Its so hard to be away from him but I'm trying my best to make this work. I just hope that this is the last time I'd be away from him. It feels terrible leaving him. Seeing him leave is even worse. I dont know if I'd be able to handle it if we get separated again. It's just so hard.
@LovingLife139 (1504)
• United States
26 Jul 09
Reading your response gets me so emotional. I've never had to leave my husband knowing we wouldn't see each other for awhile--we've actually only missed two days of seeing each other since we met nearly five years ago. But I can still feel how hard it must have been to see him go...especially after he told you his true feelings!
As for him "cheating", have you ever spoken to him about this? It might have been different than it seems. Someone might be angry and they might be spreading untrue things, or maybe he was under the impression that a relationship was over. Even if he did cheat, if you believe someone can change, you should follow your heart of that. Good luck with coming to the US to see him. I hope you two have a lot of fun. :)
@sanelaze (167)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
The feeling right before you have to part with your loved one is the worst! Actually I prepared myself for the worst when I went to the airport. I thought we were breaking up for good! I guess we never got around talking about our situation all throughout his stay because we didnt want to waste a single minute talking about and ruin the rest of his stay.
Anyway, at the airport, I was a bit unprepared to pour out my emotions. I mean I have keep a brave face and I really didnt want him to leave feeling bad. Anyway, it was a nice surprise and I wish he said it earlier.
About the cheating, I think when we were still hanging out as friends, we teased him about it. My friends and I know about it because we know the 'ladies' involved. The situation actually turned against him and I think the girl ended up choosing someone else. It all happened way before we met and I think he learned his lesson. I want to give him a chance. I made it clear that if he'd rather date other girls,he can just say so but I dont want to play that game with him. I want someone I'd be able to trust and I dont want to waste my time trying to catch him chase other girls. Simple as that right?
Anyway, thanks. I sure hope things work out with us. Just like with you and your husband.
@Drakenhoffer (25)
• Slovak Republic
26 Jul 09
I met my girlfriend on the hockey match. She nod me when I was on the ice and play. After Match I change my wear and I invite her to coffe. After five months We were together
@LovingLife139 (1504)
• United States
26 Jul 09
How awesome that you'd meet a girl that could challenge you to your own game! Good luck to both of you. :)
@Bloggership (1104)
• Indonesia
29 Jul 09
I meet my wife 9 years ago... The short story is, I was a waiter at a new opening discotheque... 1 month after the discotheque runs good, i saw there is a new waitress and she just looks pretty and innocent/naif/virgin (she is)... So, i introduce my self to her and 3 weeks after that i try to make a best shot by asking her to be my girlfriend (approved)... In less than two month since the first meet, i got her virgin (i'm not proud for that)... I promise to her that i'll be her husband someday to take responsibility for its virginity... Fulfilled...
@divkris (1156)
• India
27 Jul 09
Hey that's a good start and alovely one too :)
Mine was a typically arranged marraiage. So, i met him as a family gettogether ritual wihc happens here in India before both parents agree to get their son/daughter married.
So nothing exciting - but after reading your story i wish my spouse and i had met something like this - it would have been a good start :)
All the best to you and your partner.
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
16 Aug 09
Dear LovingLife,
Both of you are so sweet...
Mine was from 'enemy became family'...lol
When I finish my Upper Six, I came for holiday
in the capital city of Kuala Lumpur and stayed
with my 2nd brother. At the same time I can scout
around for some colleges to further my studies.
My hubby then, was my 2nd brother close friend.
He rented a room at my brother's house. All of us
are from different states. So, my brother teached
me how to cook, one fine day...we bought new 'young'
rice...with the same method and mesurement, the rice
turn out to be too soft (sort of like porridge)..
My husband then, complaining and laugh...'what is this,
rice become porridge..!!lol' and at the same time he
also complained about his cup got some dirt on it..
So much of complaining, no appreciation, no gratitude..
eating at people house for FREE :(...all this is not my
fault, he should wash his own cup, the rice turned to be
porridge because it is 'new young' rice...should put less
water for boiling the rice.
You know what came into my mind at that time ??
This guy is complaining too much, I hope he will marry
someone who can't cook well and yet he can't complain about it!
Let the wife control him...hmmm
At the end of the story : I became his wife...lol
All the best & do drop by to share your views at my latest topic.
@smartone2009 (220)
• United States
27 Jul 09
Lived in the same area but met from myspace 4years back!
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@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
26 Jul 09
I didn't want to get married - I wanted to remain single as I was very frustrated with my life, and I kind of enjoyed being single. Things changed when I met my first girlfriend but it turned really sour. We broke off after 2 years. I shared my relationship blues with my new colleagues. At that time I had just left the previous college where I had worked for 3 years. After some time, a colleague told me about this girl who was nice and gentle, and still available. So, I got her phone number. As she was shy, I didn't meet her face-to-face yet. Instead my first message to her was through Yahoo Messenger (YM), and her reply was "Good night"...obviously I was furious and complained to my colleague about her rudeness.
Te next day, I got a reply from this girl. She apologised as she was about to go to bed when I went online. Well, we continued chatting for over a week via YM. We saw each other's photo too. Then we decided to meet for the first time. I picked her up at her place, she hopped into the car in her red blouse and black pants and sat at the edge of the passenger seat - gee, she was indeed shy, I thought. We had lunch at a Japanese restaurant. It all started from there, and never stopped till we got married a year later in September 2006. You know what's unique? I noticed that the three letters on both our car registration plate sounds like her name ...that really freaked us out :)
Well, before this I had always been telling others: "I don't want you to introduce any girl to me; I want to choose my own because only I know what kind of girl I want." - in the end, it was the introduction that got me hooked to this woman, who's now my wife :)
@LovingLife139 (1504)
• United States
26 Jul 09
Aw, how cute! Instead of being rude when she cut your conversation short, she was just shy. That's why assumptions usually are wrong...you have no idea what the other person's true intentions are. And how polite to come back on and apologize! :)
Is the shyness something you love about her now?
@minhminh0604 (342)
• United States
26 Jul 09
I really do not have a partner till this moment, but I used to date my ex-boyfriend.
Two years ago, I visited Virginia and worked there during the summer.
I and my aunt was wandering in the Vietnamese town, and suddenly he came to me, and talked to me.
First, we talked like a friends, but one year later, we started dating.
There was nothing impressive about our love story, but it was very special for me.
@madamenihao (117)
• China
27 Jul 09
I meet my husband during the work.
I am the sales,and he is the purchaser....He inquiry a very less sample form me.I try to search for him,even the other supplier refuse try for him.^0^
So he thanks me so much in one month later when I am very unhappy with the depatment with my former BF....
The love is began at the suitabel time ,suitable persons.......
We had married on the beginning of this year....
I belive if you try your best for others,you would earn more.
@pangbo217 (42)
• China
27 Jul 09
How interesting story! I met my girlfriend when I was 11, and she was 10 years old. At that time we were both new in junior school, and it was our first day to school. We were in the same class and were deskmates. Although we have known each other for such a long time, she become my significant others till 5 years ago. In our past 11 years, we were in the same junior school, the same high school, and we were in the same city during our college life. That was amazing, you can feel she is around you and know nearly everything about you.