can someone help

well, I suggest isolating the kitten and slowly introducing them, but you said you really didn't have a way to do so - its still the best way to do it, to keep them apart for a week, even if you have to put the baby in the bathroom, and then slowly reintroduce them - while there might be some seeming fighting, so long as its just batting at one another, its just the way they get acquainted.

Are you sure the kitten isn't just playing? Sometimes kittens can play rough, which bulds up their talents for when they get older. If your kitten really is attacking the other cat then I think you need to just set some rules. Flick the kitten's nose when it tries to attack, let it know that's not going to work. You need to start teaching the kitten now before things get worse. I wouldn't sugest taking it back to the shelter, not when there's other options. Start teaching the kitten now by flicking the nose, this causes pain and lets them no that it's something they shouldn't be doing, shooing away the kitten by stomping your foot on the ground when you see she's ready to attack, roll up a magaziene and slap it against your hand when she's going to do something bad, and even a squirt bottle works wonders when training. These things might seem a bit mean to do to some poor kitten, but the truth is, these are effective training methods that even I have used to train my cats when they were young, even my dogs. When I brought my kitten into the house, my older cat didn't seem to like him either. She would hiss and stay away from him, if he came up close then she would swat at him and hiss once more as if to say, 'This is my house, get out". This is normal. Think of it as someone strange coming into your house uninvited by you. How would you react? I don't know about you but I would act the same way. Telling them to get out. As time went by, she got used to the kitten and the kitten got used to her not trying to fight him. She started to raise him as if he was her own. Now, that he's older he fights with her from time to time, and she sets him in line. She will smack him if he does something that she doesn't like, so now she's training him for me. Normally, you would need to find out the kitten's past.. then go from there. When bringing a new kitten into the house, or any animal, normally you would put that cat into a crate or something and introduce them slowly, let them get the scent of one another. Just use the training methods and I can asure you everything will calm down. This will take time, but you just need to be patient.

It sounds like the kitten is just acting like a normal kitten should. They are very playful and love to attack! You may want to give them more time to settle in, but I think you should expect this kind of behavior until the kitten reaches the teen years :) Good luck!

My sister is in the same position as she recently got a kitten and she already has an older cat. The kitten is driving her old cat crazy because it keeps jumping out on him and chasing his tail. He hisses at the kitten but it takes no notice. As the prevous poster says, it's just being a kitten. Kittens like to play rough and tumble games and your older cat is not interested. If possible, try to keep them separate, but in any event, things will settle down eventually, though it might take up to a year. But again, as the previous poster says, please don't take the kitten to the shelter just for being a kitten.

I would give it longer to see how they do. If they don't like each other, chances are, the older one will just steer clear of the younger one. Kittens are little weirdos until they settle into their surroundings. The older cat may decide one day to stand her ground and stop letting the kitten bully her. Unless you are seeing knock-out, drag-down fights, complete with blood and tufts of hair missing, I wouldn't worry about it. Let them work it out on their own. Cats are good at that.

I'm sorry to hear about your dilemma,umm I was wondering is your older cat declawed and can you get the kitten declawed. Also your older cat doesn't have the energy as a kitten. So that may be part of the problem,maybe you should have thought about getting a younger cat but not so young. Sometimes older cats can be a little possessive over certain domains in the house too. Just a few thoughts for you, sorry you're having such a bad experience. Hope things turn around for you.

I think that the kitten will most likely eventually stop doing this. Animals always try to show who's more dominant. It certainly is strange to hear that the younger one who is the newest to the house as well would be the one trying to establish dominance, but I doubt that it is something to worry about.

I can relate to this. It was like this a few years ago when I got a kitten (second cat). for a while it seemed the older cat was afraid of the kitten but when it started getting older they got really close and would wash each other, lay together, etc... You need to keep an eye on things though. After all it's not your older cat you need to worry about, it's the kitten. Your older cat is probably confused with the new situation and is worried about being replace or what you'll do if it defends itself. so instead of defending itself it hides. But if cornered and angry that cat could possible hurt or kill the kitten. It's quite likely that the kitten is just trying to play (instinctively) and your older cat doesn't want to upset you. After a few months my cats were not only affectionate they played with each other. If need be, separate them in rooms if it gets bad but it's a gradual process, one week isn't long enough.

the help that seperate two kind,the spirit and the matter,what did i say like this,becuse i have experience something about it,i heared this story from my friends,there is a handicaped man who somebody have feeling about him,but when somebody hope to give something to help him,but he never receive anybody's help and he think that this hurt his esteem.finally she told me he need the spirit help and encourage him to live depending himself,not matter's help,this make him hate the passion to him.so i think that giving someone help,spirit encouragement is more help for them.

Well being as I just got a new kitten as well and already had an older cat (2 years) i know what you are dealing with. But fortunately for me i've had them together for a few months now and everything is going well. My best answer for you is to try and find something called feliway. it is a scent that only the cats can smell it will help them to be a little more calm. It is natural and will not hurt them in anyway you just plug it into a wall outlet like a glade plugin. i never even noticed it after i plugged it in. and the cats went from clawing and hissing to liking eachother somewhat. It was not perfect right away but it did help. I will however agree with some of the other respondants kittens have a great memory. because it started out with my older cat hissing at the kitten. then the kitten was unsure of the older cat because of her previous behavior and she began hissing and puffing up her hair. then i got the feliway and the chilled out a bit. Then slowly they began playing (sometimes the playing does look like fighting but as long as there is no blood or screaming or anything its ok) and its been uphill from there. they sleep next to eachother, they eat next to eachother. By the way that is a good way to get them socialized a little better is to have them eat together. If they can ease into that it helps because animals gain trust over food. Now my cats are eating out of eachothers bowl and drinking from the same fountain. It does take time stick with it and give them what they need food love and patience it will all fall into place. It takes different amounts of time for them to adjust depending on their personalities (i guess i just got lucky). Also play with them together sometimes that little bit of distraction helps them forget they are uncomfortable because cats tend to focus on play (which to them is more like honing their hunting skills). I hope this helps sorry it was so long just thought i'd share my story since ours were so alike.

Thanks for your comment.

When I got a new kitten and had an older cat, the older cat HATED the newer kitten for about a week or so and got used to the kitten, but they have their days where they will hiss at each other still and the new kitten who is more entergetic will sometimes attack the older cat wanting someone to play with. Other than the new kitten being frisky I have no ideas as to what it could be.

It is hard to deal with.....Divide them at the two different place.