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Hi antiquelady. I understand how you feel because my mom felt the same when I went to college about 20 years ago. She cried as it was the first time that one of her children had to be far away - 800 km from home. The only consolation for her is that I could take an 11-hour bus ride home a few times a year. It happened again 3 years later when I was sent to work over 1,000 km away but by then she was quite okay though surprised that I was bold enough to go that far to an unknown place all on my own. I had no relatives nor friends there. So my point is that things like this happen, we feel sad about it but as you said, it's for the good of the person you love. With the internet, you could at least communicate or even see each other online :) Life still goes on as usual. You could still meet them once a year - perhaps at Christmas? Hey, take care ok? :)

Ah...I really can feel your sadness lady. Your beloved grandson will be far away from you and you won't be able to see me as often as you wish to. But you can't do much about it as it is a promotional transfer and it is for the good of his family. Maybe they can come down once in a while to see you. Just pray that all is well with your son and family.

I'm so sorry to hear that, AL. It's particularly hard that you'll miss your grandson. I have a daughter living over 4,000kms away, and another living 3,000kms away - neither of them have children yet, but I miss them a lot and look forward to when they come to visit. In the meantime, the internet is lovely, as we can email and send photographs and keep in touch much easier than writing letters. Life sure is full of curve-balls - but just think, you'll have somewhere new and interesting to go for holidays!

In this economy it is all about finding a good job and keeping it, so if someone has to relocate with there family with out their entire family it might be ok because they are making the money to survive the hard times. At least you know they will be in a good place and doing what they need to do. It might night be of course what you want, but sometimes it is for the best.

hi antiquelady, i also felt that thing before because my brother moved out with his kids, and i missed them until now.. we can't see everyday, i think only on occasion day we can see each other.. it's just on the first or one week adjustment, after it you can adjust being away from them.. you can do net with cam on the pc, it's a big help.. good luck anyways..!!

Moving kills everyone, my aunt is moving soon and taking her babies, my cousins, with her. I am crushed by it. I have been keeping myself busy and keeping my mind off of them going away. It keeps coming up, but i do not let it get to me. Music helps so much, so does reading. You could also rearrange rooms in your home, or clean everywhere. Cooking new things, dressing up, writing, and blogging has helped me. You can do things you enjoy. (Maybe a night out with some friends.) You could watch favorite movies or old ones you can not get enough of. Good luck with everything. Keep a smile.(:

Oh....MY GOODNESS...my dear girl! That is truly devastating news! FOR YOU! We bring up our children to be proud of them...and that is what your son has made you, and congratulations....but I am SO SORRY that the good news, comes with such heartbreaking news! Will that be a long ways from you? What are your options, here, my dear friend? YES..that is a true CURVE BALL...great news, backhanded with heartbreaking news! I truly wished I could take some of the pain away! We are here, standing strong for you! Cheers!

well, if he moving for good then let him good and you have to accept it. I know it hard to take it and also I hate to see family move away too, but it is for their own good. You can visit them or they can visit you... it takes time for you to get over this but I hope you will soon. He will be missing you too.

im sorry antique. I do have grown children . I have grandchildren. I really can't imagine them not being close by.

So I take it that Memphis is too far away for regular visits? Yeah, that's really sad. I guess you can write and call and send pictures and so on, but nothing's as good as really being there. I hope you at least get to visit back and forth on vacations and whatever. In this economy it's hard to turn down a good promotion though...

Ah, the home of Elvis and some of the best BBQ I've ever eaten. My husband's sister used to live right outside of Memphis and loved it. She introduced me to some of the best BBQ I've ever eaten down there and we took a tour of Graceland. My parents and my husband's parents both know how you feel. My husband is from Texas and his parents still live there. My parents are also out of town, but not nearly that far off. We send tons of pictures to both my parents and my husband's parents and it's very hard not being able for them to see their granddaughter as much as we'd like. Just make sure your son takes tons of pictures and lots of videos of your grandkid. I know it won't make up for it but it'll help.

oH NOOOOOOOOO!!!!! antiquelady, I am sooo sorry. Believe me, I know how you feel. But, you can't overlook the earning opportunities for your son. Not to mention Ryan's future and especailly at this time with our economy so bad. Not many get a great new promotion when we are in a recession. I know your heart is broken, but since I don't know where you live and how far it would be to go and visit, maybe it's not a hopeless case for you see the whole family from time to time? Please don't be too broken hearted. there are lots of good things to be considered here. The Lord won't let you do without your family, Ryan:) any more than has to be !! Chin up ! things could be worse. There is the phone:) there are buses, airplanes to go and see your family. HA! Could be for the best, that way you could have Ryan for weeks at a time , right? Ok, now, once again, chin up, SMILE :) Hugs, quita88

Thank you for sharing here.

That day you feel very bad.but,when your son get progress in our job.that time you feel proud of him.so always happy.don't feel like heartbroken.

That can be disappointing, but they will probably be back to visit and you can probably go there to visit. Tell them to make lots of videos!

What a blow.I feel for you it would upset me if my kids moved a long way from home.There is always the good old web cam so you can talk to them and see them.It is wonderful your son has a new job with better prospects ,it will mean a better life for his family.It is still a blow ,you can go and visit them in the holidays.Take care.

I may never know the feeling of being away from a grandchild but i do have nieces and nephews that live with their parents far away from me and i miss them. The sweet and funny times i had with them when they were still babies...when they were learning to walk and talk are all the memories i have. I have seen so little of them while they were growing up now that i am six to eight hours bus ride away from them (depends on the traffic situation). This is life, my dear Aunt Jo. Sometimes we get thrown with curve balls and we just have to live with it hoping that something better if not the best sprouts out from the disappointments and heartbreaks. I can feel the love you have for your grandson in your discussions and i know Ryan will always remember the good times you had together and will always be looking forward to be with you again.

I can understand why you are so upset, I would be heartbroken as well. The good thing is that Memphis is not that far away from you, and hopefully they will visit quite often. Also, you can drive there (or take the bus). We live about 20 minutes or so from my parents, so my children can see their grandparents pretty often and now that we are moving, they are right down the street, however, when we used to live in Seattle we couldn't see them except for every couple of years, and that was really hard of them and me. At least you aren't that far from your son and his family...you will just have to go and visit Graceland a bunch now :-)

i have already told you i hope he don't move you need him here more than he needs the money don't you think? of couse the job is important.i know how it feels for your son to be far away and you can't see him when you want to we will help you though it if it happens

Its but natural for mothers that they have their heart broken when their loved ones go away from them.Sometimes life has something better in store .So try to be patient and hope for the best.