i NEED you because i LOVE you OR i LOVE you because i NEED you?
By koalapenguin
@koalapenguin (2707)
Philippines
July 28, 2009 8:03am CST
I am actually confused with these lines. Do you love someone because you need them? Or you need someone because you love them?
My understanding of these sentences are quite complicated. Could you explain some of your thoughts on this one? thanks guys!
1 person likes this
12 responses
@travelingtheworld (98)
• United States
28 Jul 09
There's not a lot of difference if you think about it, but the slight difference that set these two apart really is the major factor. If you need someone because you love them, it's natural to want them to be with you if you love them. That makes sense. But if you love them because you need them, it becomes a little different in meaning. You can say that you need their body and thats why you love them. Or you need their helping you make decisions or taking actions and that's why you love them then the concept of love is mistaken. The latter isn't really loving someone, it's loving what they can do for you or make you feel. It's a more selfish reason to love someone that way. However, if you just love them for themselves, then naturally you'll want them to be with you.
@koalapenguin (2707)
• Philippines
29 Jul 09
Clearly, loving someone because you need them is selfish. While the other statement implies that Love is the reason for needing anyone. Am i right? thanks.
@vzerocool (76)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
Its better the first one.Its more appropriate to say to someone that you need them coz you love them.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
1 Aug 09
Good discussion here. I like the idea of love. It is an awesome feeling to be loved. To love and to be loved, the need to love and be loved, I truly adore all these terms.
I think generally, all of us needs some love at some point and we need to project some of those as well. It goes both ways.
But would love to experience it again someday.. hopefully yeah.. @koalapenguin (2707)
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
Love-ly response zed.
It seems like you're in love.
It seems like you're in love. 1 person likes this
@ChrysanTflower (1607)
• Indonesia
28 Jul 09
Ah, I ever heard this statement in chicken soup or some romance book^^,, Both of them can be used. I think 'i(let's pretend it's 'he' who speak) love you(her) because i need you' is not showing true love. he love her only because he need her, ex : he need her money so he love her because of money. If there's no money (things that he need) then it means he doesn't love her anymore. Furthermore, it's sound selfish, love someone because we need him/her for our own advantage. Other example for 'i love you because i need you' : there's a girl who make relationship with a man and say she love him because she needs him to take care of her, doing her homework or help her family in money. I love you because i need you to...(help me, give me money, etc. fill the blank with any words).
I think a true love statement is 'I need you because I love you'
Simply because he love her, he need her^^,,
@koalapenguin (2707)
• Philippines
29 Jul 09
thanks chrysant! i liked what you thought of these statements!
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
28 Jul 09
I love you because I NEED YOU sounds very selfish. The focus of this sentence is "because I NEED YOU" - why do i love you? Because I need you. That probably means that if I don't need you, then I don't love you.
The first sentence doesn't quite make sense to me :)
@koalapenguin (2707)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
I'm sorry if you think that the sentence has no sense at all.
Thanks for the response though. 
Thanks for the response though. @kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
28 Jul 09
Hi koalapenguin, hope you didn't get the wrong impression about my response. The word "need" is rather tricky though it seems ok at a glanace. I need you because I love you? It would be better to say "I care for you because I love you", don't you think so? Then it sounds romantic. Even if someone who loves you say "I need you." without the second part, it sounds far more romantic than combining it with "...because I love you" - that's my point of view - that's why it seems "senseless" to me :)
@koalapenguin (2707)
• Philippines
29 Jul 09
When you say you need someone, does it not sound romantic to you? Care is a nice word too but i think when it comes to LOVE, every word can be used, i guess..
@adellene (57)
•
29 Jul 09
heya:) Nice one.:) I always choose "I need you because I LOVE you"
because It means to me that, I Need the person because I love him. BEcause all i need is him and the love i want from him. and the materials he is having. Lolx Omg i cant type what i want to type. Omg.:) ihihihih
@ChrysanTflower (1607)
• Indonesia
17 Aug 09
Seems like we have the same thinking of this statement Good luck with your love-life!
Good luck with your love-life!
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
29 Jul 09
Hi Dear!
You need not get confused. Both have same meaning. Like if you cut a fruit with a knife, either you put the knife on the fruit or fruit is kept on the knife, both will produce the same result. We love somebody, because we need him/her, we always want others' company and attention, therefore, our needs force us to love someone and it is true for other fellow also.
Good question!!!!
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
29 Jul 09
I need you because I love you , meaning the love is higher than needing. You already love this person and you need him or her to fulfill or make love happen. I love you because I need you , meaning needs is your outmost importance. You just force to love or loving him or her because you need him or her.
@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
29 Jul 09
hmm. and so we ask the one million question.. I think this line is already so used, that the meaning got all lost...
It's as simple as do you only want to be with the person because you need something from him? like material things, or a friend, or companion?
Or do you love him even though you really don't get anything from him, emotionally, financially or any other thing.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
the first one would be so ideal......but not so realistic nowadays..... i wish i could say "i need you because I love you"....
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
you see... there's just so many people nowadays that don't believe in love anymore... but the need...it's always there......
i know a lot of people still do.....
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
29 Jul 09
i like the words i need u bcoz i love u than i love u bcoz i need u... its so easy to find someone who can help u but hard to look for someone who really loves u... besides if u stay with someone u love makes ur life complete.. than by those who stay only bcoz u need the person...
