Is it love?

I believe that too much of loving is dangerous.. If it is not balance it might turn to a tradegy. For me it's not love. I call that selfishness because if you really love that person you will never forget the word "respect". Being angry is not a valid reason to hurt someone physically. Just to express his anger. Everything can be fix in a nice way. Maybe your bestfriend is just afraid thats why she is still attached with that guy. Better for a girl to talk to his boyfriend and if ever that incident repeated I think its time for break up because you are just attached about your past but Im sure she's not happy anymore. Relationship with love alone will never go stronger. I have basis in this advice. It as tested and cause a good advice. Better if you can say further the situation.

that is not love..., now you must go away..... in other place, there is some has wait u..

Love does not hurt. If someone intentionally says or does things to hurt someone, I highly doubt that they really lovre that person. In my experience, it is simply a way to attempt to control the person. Having been through this myself in the past, I can tell you that there is really nothing that another person can say to make your friend understand this; it is something she will probably have to learn on her own. MY family and friends always told me that the way I was treated just wasn't right, yet, he would apologize and tell me that he loved me, and I would forgive him and stay. It took a long time for me to realize it on my own, but once I did, I became a much stronger person. Today, I am a much better person than I was then. I am stronger and smarter, and no longer afraid to speak my mind or put my foot down. I will not allow myself to be treated badly again. All you can do is be a friend. Be there to listen, and when your friend finally finds the truth herself, be there to help pick up the pieces and rebuild the confidence that she is surely losing in herself.

Hurting your partner physically or verbally is a mistake. It should not be tolerated. If that is happening to your friend, I suggest you better tell it to someone who is still responsible for her like her parents. Being the partner of somebody does not give you the right to hurt him/her verbally, much more physically.

Um, NO! I went through it and it is not love. Tell her to turn and run and never look back except to call the cops. Let her know if she doesn't call the cops then you will. I would listen to my bestfriend, but my bestfriend at the time was his bestfriend. But he stuck up for me and saved me. I wish there was more I could say except for good luck to you and your friend. If your friend gets mad andsays she never wants to see you again after you or her calls the cops, let it go and tiem will pass and then get in contact with her.

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Hell..is the first word that comes to my mind,besides other word which I could write here,when I hear people physically abusing or hurting their partner.This is not love at all.If I love someone I would never ever hurt her,not even in my wildest dreams. Yeah,but,verbal hurting is ok to some extent,when someone is in a bad mood over his job or other matters,he doesn.,t know what the hell he's speaking.So,in some situations its ok.. So,you must tell your friend,that her boyfriend doesn,t love her and she will get a lot of good guys better than him.. Earth is a beautiful place to live and is full of good peoples with golden hearts.So,say her to leave hell...and welcome her to earth.

That is not love, love is caring and peace , not hurting. But love is blind, people who in love, especially who in love in the deepest wouldn't care about what they got from the one they loved.

This is not love this has happened to me too my gf didnt love me but she was still with me fr other reasons ..........so , it could be a similar case the best advice u can give her is to get over the guy coz she probably loves him but this realtionship will be troublesome in the future.........

No it's not and you should tell your friend to get a counsellor and get out of the situation.

I'd say: "Get out of there!" - the problem is that maybe your best friend is afraid that if she runs away from him there's nobody to turn to, and she might not be able to get another partner. Please advise her to leave or else things would just get worse. It's not possible to abuse a woman yet say that you love her. There are other far better men around; she needs to get to know them. Drag her out from there, and help introduce her to someone better. Tell your best friend that she has to leave him no matter what - and report to the police or the relevant authorities.

ithink that this character is called possessiveness .this thing never reduces once it gets into someone's head.Its better to leave such a person as it can mean that u might have to quit your own freedom if u continue your relationship in the future.

When you are involved in it, you think that it is love. You deny everything that people tell you about it. I know this because I was once in the exact same situation and nothing that anybody said to me could convince me that it wasn't love. In that situation, I would just try to get a time to spend one on one with my friend and just let them talk. Don't lead the discussion in any way, just let them talk. She might just realize after putting all of her feelings out in the open that what she is experiencing is not love but attention, and not the right kind of attention at that.

Definitely its not LOVE.. coz I believe that if you relly love the person you should give not only your utmost love but that includes respect, trust and value the person... so if there's a physical or vebal abuse I think she should stop seeing that man,, coz in their situation now gf/bf and still he's not respecting her what more she will expect if she marrying that guy.... and what if if theyre havin kids... and their kids seeing their fights... wow its really painful on their childrens part.. their are so many mens around,,, that will give her a tru love,, respect and trust...

I would say its abuse and not love. Sadly, there are people who will convince themselves that their abuser really loves them and accept their behaviour. Sometimes they are afraid to walk away either because they lose their self-esteem and feel that no-one else will ever love them or because they fear the reprisals. You have advised her but only she can make the decision. Either way, I'm sure she'll value your friendship and support. I wish her well.

It is not the right kind of love if it is hurtful like that. Women often feel like they cannot let go in abusive relationships a lot, but it needs to end or the abuse won't stop, no matter how many times he says "I love you, forgive me!" I would tell my best friend the same thing, and hopefully she would make the right choice to leave him, it's a hard thing to discus with someone who is very attached in this situation, but you have to be honest and speak from the heart, she will most likely appreciate it if you are best friends. I wish you and her the best of luck, I hope that she leaves him.