Three weeks, 21 days

First..........there's nothing wrong with brocolli, people just don't like to eat things that look like trees. Second.........rhubarb is God's joke on the human palate. 'Nuff said! Third..........Everyone feels insecure at times or they'd have no feelings at all! Fourth.........Sweetheart, just relax. Easier said than done, I know, but you can do it. You and dj have had the chance to learn about each other, exchange pics, calls, etc. So the ONLY thing left up to chance, is whether or not your endorphins will be attracted to each other. You know....that old chemistry thing that sends young folks into the mating dance. He's not going to freak and peak and leave you at the airport. He's not going to judge you and find you wanting. He knows better than that, and he's crazy about you and probably just as worried about this actual meeting as you are. Remember that. And when the time comes and you see him, just drop everything and RUN don't walk right into his open arms and hang on for dear life. It will bowl you both over and start things off on the right note and the endorphins will just have fall into line and co-operate. Trust me.........it's what I did when I returned home and was met at the airport by my hubs (before we'd even really started dating), and I haven't looked back......So good luck, and remember to RUN not walk into his arms.....

Hahaha firstly thank you for making me smile, even though it is at your despair. But you know everything will be ok! I admire you for going ahead and doing it and I can totally see why you have both chosen to meet up! The self-doubt is natural, we all do it and we all struggle with it. I for example travel to Sweden to play for a team I've never met before, they don't know how good or Bad I am!! So I too am going through the dreaded what if's! But think of all the positives like you say the excitement is always incredible:D I know I won't have helped at all:)

What if...... WHAT IF you meet up, hit it off to an even deeper level like I know you will and then you find that after your time together, you can't even walk properly anymore? And what's really wrong with rhubarb??? Good GOD woman, what the heck is RIGHT with it is more the question here!

I'm going to laugh, okay? The reason why? What ifs are designed to ruin things for people. Second guessing yourself is not a good thing. Self doubt needs to be eliminated. Think about it this way... would you want someone to worry about meeting YOU? Would you ever consider freaking out and leaving HIM at the airport? LOL! Do you think you're going to change your mind? I met my other half online. We've now known each other for 9 years. I didn't really have fears like yours when we finally met, but we'd known each other for 2 years and most of it in a friendship capacity rather than romantic - until the end. So.. no, I don't feel insecure very often. I worry about other people more than I worry about myself, to be honest. I am pretty good at flubbing my way through things, finding a loophole, advantage, someething. If I do feel insecure, I try to talk myself out of it and sooner or later, I don't feel that way any more. A lot of it has to do with being comfortable with your own company. Rhubarb? Well rhubarb-strawberry pie is great. I think the consistency of plain rhubarb is strange, like celery. I don't like the texture of celery. We all like broccoli here.

I kind of know how you feel, though it is best to just calm down or only have the more positive excitement. I met someone online and talked to him for a full year, then he came over from Sweden a year later to the very day and spent a month with me in my home. It was really a great experience, and now we have been together for 2 1/2 years, we travel back and forth now for a month at a time. I probably would have waited for more than 2 months to plan a visit though, you may know them, but you could probably know them more- though if you are confident it can be a really good thing. My Swede will be back in December and stay for a little over a month, so I am very excited and am counting down the days.

Tomorrow will you do a discussion titled "two weeks and six days" or "20 days"? LOL Don't worry, he's not gonna bail on you, you two are gonna have a wonderful time and then come to mylot to tell us all about it. Yes, I have had problems with insecurity in the past and used to be tortured by self doubt. Thankfully I am largely over it now, except for when I pass a mirror and it makes me feel bad about how I look but that's a whole other issue.

Uh - August 20th is another day - Robert Plant turns 61. Are you also buying a stairway to heaven? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r2AqM2jY4fE Not sure what's wrong with broccoli, but to me, rhubarb sounds like uh - Russian currency. Message from the seller of the stairway to heaven: Your head is humming and it wont go In case you dont know, The dark jedi's calling you to join him, Dear lady, can you hear the wind blow, And did you know Your stairway lies on the whispering wind. Now I have a question. Did you pay in rhubarbs? If yes, how many?

Well, let's see... love broccoli... love rhubarb (well, only in pie though LOL and my grandmother made the very best)... now that that's answered -- Been in your shoes, skyhss. I met someone through a random instant message, believe it or not. I still can't believe I answered it (wasn't in the habit of doing so but his screen name made me laugh). We did the constant emails, ims, talked on the phone all night 'til the sun came up (lord I had a stack of prepaid long-distance cards that I could have used to wallpaper my whole house). He was my best friend. He was also in the service so when we started talking about meeting in person, the fact that he was in the US and I was in Canada was the least of the orchestration. We had to deal with could he get leave, when would it be, who would go where... on and on ROFL The nerves were there, just like for you... but you wanna know the kicker? I had never seen his picture. * waits for people to pick the chins up off the floor and finish hurling the "girl! are you STUPID?!" comments LOL * I knew his physical description but the only photo he had was his military ID and Kinko's won't make copies of that LOL He had seen pictures of me but that was it. Funny thing was, when he came through the doors at the airport, I knew it was him instantly (the fact that he had that "stick up his bum" military style walk didn't hurt hee hee). It was - well, weird - at first. I hugged him and he hugged me back but I could feel the tension, as I'm sure he felt mine. But, before we even got to the parking garage, we were joking and laughing and the nerves had settled. I'm actually glad that the internet allows us to get to know someone first without all the physical implications. I believe it makes for a stronger base for the relationship. We were friends before we were lovers... and that matters so much. We had another two vacations together after the first, he moved to be with me when he was finally discharged and we got married. Sum total, we had eight happy years together. Just follow your hearts... it'll be worth it. Best of luck

OMG I so went through ALL of those same thoughts 5 years ago wait no maybe its six now...yup six... when i flew to the states to meet my boyfriend. I was worried i wouldnt recognize him - what if he had given me a fake pic but i had seen him on cam so i wasnt quite as worried, what if my plane was late and he thought i chickened out and he left...or didnt even show... Even worse a few days before i went to meet him i had nightmares about the plane crashing or the customs saying heck no you cant leave canada or we dont want you in the states because you have a student loan you missed a payment on it.... It all worked out though. I really wish now i hadnt stressed soooo much about it. In answer to your questions about being insecurity - yes i do feel insecure and want to hide from the world now...sometimes feel like the world just doesnt want me but I dont tend to get a chance to hide from the world. not sure why some people dont like broccoli - i know I'm technically not supposed to eat it...but i love it - beef, dairy, green veggies, lamb and fish have phyantic acid in and cause my healing process to be even slower and get more infections in cuts. I love rhubarb in cake and jelly but not so much as a fruit. My boyfriend says he used to love to pick it and eat it from the neighbours garden (steal it).

hi shyhss, i have not understand your discussion,are you meeting your mylot friend in next week am i right or not,please explain iam in curiosity about this...have a nice meeting

wow your gonna meet someone online! wow thats big i once did that and found out that we were totally different people and we didn't have as much in common that we thought. its very arkward for the first time because you don't know what to say besides hi its nice to see you. so i think you should do some ice breakers to get to know eachother better do something. i hope everything works out great for you. and keep counting down those days haha. good luck

hmmmmm...just a question btw, since when you two got deep with each other. guess i wasn't paying attention when i still have my old account. wait? wait wait wait..oh i see, two months. i wasn't back yet two months ago.lolzhaha. i...hope that happens to me someday..i doubt mine is pretty much open minded to such talks.advice, stop with the "what if" and instead "im ready"

i don't know how to make advice here. Since you get to know him very well he won't let you down, i think. Of course there are many unexpected things happening every day . Who knows ? just be careful on the other hand . Share your experience here when you come back . good luck.

I think some people are not liking their brocolli because they are too worried about what will happen on 20th August. This despair is making them feel so uncomfortable that they are not able to enjoy so awesome food in front of them. My advise for them will be to take this event as a normal event in their lives and to finish their brocolli this time also as they used to do other times when they were served brocolli. For answer to your second question "Rhubarb leaves contain a poisonous substances like oxalic acid which is a nephrotoxic and corrosive acid". But in your case I think this acid can help you to corrode all your apprehensions about meeting your fellow MyLotter. Just have a little of it and it will corrode all your worries. I think the same feelings of apprehension can be on the other side also. So better is to take some of Rhubarb to the airport in case your fellow MyLotter needs it. Now about your rambling. I think I will let you finish your meal first. Then we can discuss about your story. What do you say.

Because broccoli is green. I never in a million think he'll leave you stranded, he's to nice, you guys gonna have a great time.

hmmm. . . just a warning dont get fooled by others but if you know him well and known him for a very long time. hmm of corse its safe.. but im just warning you! ^^