what does it mean to be happy???????

Hey, Well I don't really know what it means to be happy, mainly because my life has never really been happy ever. I have never been truly happy, so I can't tell you what it means. Hopefully I will one day be happy. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!

Hello gcoudret!!! Well about what is happiness, it is the state of mind when you are not thinking about the problems you have in your life and instead focused in very good things, that you really like it. I felt sorry to hear you story, I know how much problem it creates in our mind with such things. The world around us is the reflection of our own mind. The more we think that our life is sad, frustrated and damned, the more it is true. And the more you learn to enjoy, feel free from frustrated thoughts, the more you can be happy. In order to be really happy, a person needs the basic needs that means food, cloth and shelter, and then most importantly a healthy mind. and others are not really necessary, Instead they can bring problems. Feeling happy at any situation is the art of mind. We are not still perfect, but if we learn to perfect this mind, then we can be happy at any situation. Now in your current situation, what I can suggest you is that, always think in such a way that, "the problem in your life is soon going away. And the happiness is coming up soon." You may perhaps keep on some music over earphones, and just meditate on being happy in imagination. Just feel that you are really having it in reality. Your mood will slowly come to the happy mood, and slowly you will start looking the things in the different way. Never let the bad feelings come up at any state. Bad feelings are always the hampering thing, that bring more and more frustrations. It does no any good both for the present and for the future. I don't know whether you know about this stuff or not, but I would definitely like you to suggest you to log on to you tube. And use the key words like " the universe the secret". Watch those videos, it tells more about what I mentioned in the above story. I don't know how much will you believe in the video, but it is definite that after watching that video you will fear to bring about the negative feelings in you. Because it shows how the thougts affect our realities.... happy mylotting...And wish you good luck for the good future...

happy means it has no words to ecpress that feelings, like that happiness will be happend so anyway whatever the problem may be be happy ever

happy means it has no words to express that feelings, like that happiness will be happened. anyway what ever the problem it may be we should happy in our life

oh just do what you wish to do . Life is short and you have been somewhat unhappy for about 20 years !!! Live with your loving kids if possible. Find a good job by trying your best . Have a good mood every day by ignoring him . Can this help ?

Wow, what a long descriptive you did, and I guess what I was going to write was definitely posted by you. Haha, funny but it's true.

short an best description according to me is - if you are tension free and you have all the things which you want then you are HAPPY.

In order to be happy you need to leave him and you CAN do it. I know it seems scary and it is but it can be done. He is abusing you. This is not fair to your kids nor to you. Your kids deserve a happy mom! There is a world of help out there for you. First you need to contact your local woman's crisis & don't tell him you are doing it. Does he work? There must be a time when you can call or slip out. Once they know what is going on they will work with you on a plan to get away from him safely. Don't worry about the job right now. There is help for you financially also as well as job training. If you can't find a way to do this around him....enlist in the kid's help. Write a letter and have one of them deliver it. They will walk you thru the legal process of putting a restraining order on him and everything. You really need to do this. As scary as it is, it will also be exciting because you will see this coming to an end and your life moving forward. Don't stress over the 20 years he has already stolen but please don't let him take another 20. I left an abusive husband years ago. It is tough but not nearly as tough as putting up with it and no regrets at all. Please do it. {{{{HUGS))))

Better get out of that terribly disturbing life now. Act now before it's too late. You can have gainful employment anywhere. Don't be afraid because there will always be a way out from that miserable life. it's a matter of guts and willpower. Be with your daughter for the meantime and start from there. Act now.

First of all, happiness is a choice. If you continue to wallow in the misery of your life then you'll never be happy. It's good that you have identified the things that make you miserable. Then do positive actions to change that. make a decision to end your misery now! Either you try to change your husband (which is I think really hard at this point), you change the way you see the situation (change your mindset) or you try to change the situation yourself by leaving and finally living your life as you see fit. You deserve to be happy after all those years of misery. But remember, only you have the power to make yourself happy. Happiness should not emanate from other people, it should come first from within. Do things that make you happy - a favorite hobby that you are passionate about. Go on vacation, go to a spa, -reinvent and rediscover yourself. They say positivity attracts positive things. That's the law of attraction. If you want to be happy, then be happy. You will soon attract happiness. :)

i think that is better to makes good things to help to other people rather to be happy, i think the su´prise in the people face gives some kind of satisfaction, i think that hapiness is that satisfaction.

for me, its just, you are happy if you dont have the things you want, but still, you are happy..:D

I guess one of the biggest reason to be happy is love. If you have family around you to support you and to share your life with. I mean having a very close bond with your kids is great. I think what I noticed is that you just have to move on from your past and live life. Try to do things that you haven't done before. Sometimes life does have its ups and downs it is your job because only you can help YOU to be happy again. With your current situation, you just have to stay positive and don't let it break you down. I hope this helps and it made sense...good luck!

sounds like this guys a control freek and you need to get outa there no matter what the cost job or no job an you need to leave when hes not around if you get a chance because hes not going to react kindly to you packing your things and leaving infact he could get violent with you if i was you i would pack the kids and anything of value that u need to help you survive...aquire what money you can credit cards etc if you have one an get outa there ...if not for your sake for your kids and either goto a relatives place or start a new life from scratch even if it means abit of hardship for a few months...better than being unhappy...im sure you cant be anymore unhappy than you already are?...

Oh you poor thing...i think you have to remember you are given one life and it is so short, time is going so fast, personally I think he sounds dangerous. is there not places to go for women in your country for refuge until you find your way,....but again i stress this person is dangerous if he is doing these things...you have a right to be happy and this person is not allowing you to be..I wish you well my friend...I hope in some way things work out for you...but be very careful..

..oh.. you've been into terrible experience.. I admire your patience having stayed with your husband for 20 years.. that's very long years of suffering.. Have you ever tried going to a marriage counseling session with him?.. because maybe there is something wrong that he sees in you that's why he can't trust you.. I'm sorry to say this.. that is only a possibility.. have you ever tried showing him that you loved him in the first place and have you ever assured him that you will never cheat on him? Have you ever tried talking to him and telling him how you feel about what he is doing?.. He's just so afraid that he's gonna lose you.. Maybe you could try letting him feel that you love him and you care for him.. But if you already decided to get out from that house, then you go.. Try to find yourself and your happiness.. just remember that it is your choice to be happy.. If you want to be happy, then smile.. You're just ruining your days by thinking of your bad husband.. try to associate with other people.. When you wake up in the morning, face the mirror, smile and tell yourself to be happy because it's a new day.. that will do good to you.. I have tried doing that also and its effective.. My day is ruined if I let other people ruin it.. So what I do is, even if people around me are not doing good, I just smile.. Again, it is your choice to be happy..

It sounds like the first thing you have to do is get out of that house... I know online jobs sound like they're the solution to all your problems, but they're hard to find. You might want to search around for some jobs in your area. Even if it's something less enjoyable (fast food jobs are the easiest to get), it doesn't have to be a long term job, just a place to start. Getting one less desireable job could be a stepping stone to finding a better job and managing to get out on your own. I have found that these jobs aren't always as horrible as they're made out to be, either... you just need to concentrate on the positive. Maybe you'll enjoy talking to your coworkers, or dealing with customers, or serving people... you never know until you try. And happiness will come with time. It's inside you somewhere, waiting to be rekindled. You just need to find something positive to focus on, and it will come... happiness has nothing to do with the outside world, it's all in how you percieve things. Once you are able to take control of your own life again, you will start to find happiness again. I don't know if this is an option, but maybe talk to your oldest daughter, see if you can stay with her for a while? You might not make enough money right off the bat to live on your own, but you could make enough to help pay for food and bills if you were living with someone else.