Relationships ........losing ground

Everyone needs a relationship of some sort... and they will go to any lenght to get it. People can live alone without a mate... but they need to know that they can grab the phone to call someone... friend or family. It is not the moral values which have slipped. It is the expectations which have increased. There is now so much pressure on relationships... particulary from those women who want equality... that many people prefer to remain single than having to deal with those pressures everyday of their life. We do live in a materialistic world where we put money before people and relationships. But those who choose that path do get burn along the way and find themselves with no friends.

I do agree w/you. People are way to self centered nowadays. Friendship means so much to me. I hope i never get to the point of it not.

More than ego, it’s the rat race to keep up with the Jones that is getting more and more young people these days and a false show of solvency….most people I see around me these days are always carrying and using so many latest mobiles and gadgets and credit cards and shopping around…I wonder from where they get so much money and at what cost! We all know the cost of course…no time for the extended family or friends, no time to look around and appreciate life, no time to sit back and relax with just a book. Its no wonder that we are comparing ourselves with our relatives and friends and instead of a feeling of goodwill, there is always unhealthy competition that is ruining relationships.

That is an interesting point. We all have egos. Some are larger than others. Some are so filled with self-importance that they forget to see the rest of us.

Yes, you are right. People no longer value others. They marry and promise God and their spouses that they'll stay together then they divorce. The Bible tell us this is a sign of the end times. It's our own fault, though. We embraced the people that told us to "fulfill" ourselves by leaving our children in daycare as we mothers went to work and left our kids to be raised by others. It's no wonder that our selfishness has brought us to this point.

Well Putting it other way ,the dynamics of our society has changed.There are various reasons like our schooling system-teaches us competition , instead its should be cooperation.Our financial education -teaches us to work for money Instead it should teach us making money work for us. The reason is we work harder ,face competition to earn money then pay taxes and with little savings ,then our family grows here we need more money ,so we work even harder.The result is less time to share with our loved ones . Well these are my personal views.I don't disagree others. Happy myloting

I do feel this way. It seems people don't care if they hurt people as long as they are pleasing themselves.

I would not say that no value is given to friendships or relationships.Personally ,I fweel that the circles have become shorter. Earlier, some thirty forty years back a family itself constituted a larger circle and nowadays the size of the circle has become smaller. As ar as friends are concerned this depends on the individual, the understanding they have with their friends and the equal 'give and take' attitude. people are wary of getting exploited these days because it is getting more and more competitive and tough to survive in thsi world.

Yes. I think alot of people have lost all due respect to being with and loving just one person and committing the rest of their lives to one person. Alot of them treat it as if it is just a phase.

I have to agree with you on this issue..It seems as time goes on people get further & further apart.I do not know if you are a religious person but the Bible speaks about this , saying in the last days mes love will wax cold..So i do agree

yes i see it happening around the world, but for me...i am stciked to the older values. Love to me today is also giving ..not expecting and making him/her happy as much as i can. Love is never to be the thing that is asked for, you have to give it without expectations and you will get it in return.

The feelings of human beings must, if a person do not have these feelings that he did not all, cherish all you are now, I wish you happiness.

I have wonderful and caring friends but I have observed that people are too casual and callous in their day to day dealings and do not have as much respect as they should.

I don't see it that way. Well maybe for other people out there yes, but in my close group of friends, our friendships and relationships with eachother and others are what keeps us going, keeps us happy, keeps us alive. None of us are wealthy...or overly fixiated on becoming so even, we are just happy to be keeping our heads above water, having a roof over our heads, food on the table and family and friends to love and spend time with. I am not trying to say we don't want to better our lives, but none of us are so pre-occupied with being the best that our egos get in the way of our friendships. My friendships nd relationships with others are the most important things in my life.

Hello my friend sukumar794 Ji, Whatever you have said , is true 100%. Ethicval values have no rooms tehse days. Between both spouse, tehre is a contract instead of obligation between both. Both are different in nature and want to do of their own. After child takes birth and a woman gets mother-hood, She too needs and expects from her children. Mother is purely selfless relation, but at times this too looks like a contract. It is because we have lot many amusements in life. people hardly care for relations. They break with one to join hands with another for small physical benifits. May God bless You and have a great time.

Definitely feel we have lost respect for each other as human beings. My husband was recently fired from his job of four years and had outstanding performance appraisals. He made one mistake, a minor one at that and they treated him like a common criminal.