do you forgive people who hurt you?

yes,someone hurt me too and at that point of time i got very angry and thought of taking revenge but then i thought in some or the other even we hurt and if they think of doing the same with us then??so i thought that if the person has really realised his mistake and ashamed then why to stretch it more because it will even make me bad,so i do forgive...

ofcourse i will forgive him/her, because if i forgive it will make him/her relize his/her attitude. beside that, i dont like have enemy, i love peace.

Sometimes forgiving is hard and takes a lot of prayer. Two thoughts on forgiveness. One - if you take the word forgive apart you have for and give. For as in the forefront. Forgiveness should be something that is at your forefront ready to chusion the hurts like a sponge. Give as in a gift or something you give away. The more you give the easier it is to do so. The more you forgive the easier it is to do so. Two - A guest speaker at a woman's church function once told a story of adopting a boy from an orphanage in Romania. He spoke very little English and had a hard time grasping the concept of forgiveness. He understood the word give as in a gift or trade. In the orphanage he stood up for the younger boys and beat up on the bullies. He had to learn that hitting someone was not always the right thing to do. The boy was enrolled in school and soon learned the meaning of forgiveness. When asked how he liked his first day of school he began to cry. He told how he was using the seat on strings (swing set) and another boy wanted to use the seat on strings. The teacher had told him the rules, everyone must wait their turn and share. Knowing he still had time on his turn he told the boy to wait. The other boy yelled at him and spit in his face. He told his mother "I give him, I give him hard and let him have the seat on the strings" He had given the other boy the gift of not beating him up. He had given away his turn on the "seat with strings" It hurt and was not fair but still he decided to "give". He was happy that it was his choice to "give" when he xcould have easily defended his right to use the swing. Sometimes is is hard to "give" but we grow in spirit and character when we choose to do so. To answer the question, yes I have had to forgive someone and had a hard time forgetting. Not dwelling on the hurt and not talking about it as a hurt helped. I stopped sharing the story of what the person did. Since the wrong was forgiven there was no need to remind myself or others about it. If I dwell on it I can bring up the hurt all over again but that is like opening a wound after it has healed and why would anyone go opening up a wound that is healed? Give - forgive - give...

To be honest, I've never been hurt that badly. The hurts I have experienced are easily forgiven.

It depends. To me, most of things can be forgiven but there are still some things can't. And I believe a sentence just like most people - "Forgiving doesn't mean forgetting". You can forgive them, and you can still regard them as your friends. But, never never forget what they have done. Maybe they won't do again. But you'd better remember some important things for the sake of yourself and your family.

truly, that i am person that need a time to forgive someone. but i always and try the best to forgive someone who ever hurt me.

Yes. Or maybe no or not fully. I have been hurt very badly by some people but because they are close to my husband and I don't want to hurt him I had to forgive them. Well, perhaps not fully because I still feel a little hurt everytime I think of what they did and how they hurt me. I think if it still hurts it had not been forgiven yet. Perhaps my mind says I have forgiven but my heart says no deep inside.

Yes, I remember very vividly in college there was this one classmate who humiliated me in front of the whole class and I became a laughing stock of the whole class. I was so furious and humiliated that I just stormed out of the classroom as I could not take it anymore. That classmate probably realized the seriousness of his actions, because later that afternoon he came and personally apologized to me. Good thing is that by that time I have calmed down a lot, so I accepted his apology and forgave him. I have also forgotten the incident and never try to think about it (until when you started this discussion! ). But all in all, forgiving and forgetting really makes life easier for both parties....I really can't imagine carrying the hurt and unforgiveness in me; it would really be pulling me down emotionally....

I think yes. I don't mind forgiving and be nice, but I can never be closed to that person anymore. Like you mentioned, it much better to forgive so that we can live a beautiful life of no worries and no heartaches. It hard at the beginning, but later on it become easier.

Hello friend, Yup! we need to forgive someone who hurts us to be free from the past. If we cannot forgive and forget. We are always be a victim of our past. Even do we felt so much pain and almost curse the world for what happen to us. We need to still stood and forgiveness is the ways for us to move on. How is it hurt. my friend? have a great day!

I usually forgive the next day, it's the forgetting part that is tough. But as time goes, the memory starts to fade, and you no longer have to relive the hurt.

Of course, when they're not around anymore i don't mind forgiving them. but forgetting is another thing because i tend to remember it from time to time.but i have forgiven them now.

It's hard for us to forgive if somebody did hurt you badly . i won't forgive him easily and i will stay away from him in the rest of my life . i don't like this kind of persons who would do harm to others and i never forget what they have done to me . Well of course if he did want to say sorry and want to compensate i will consider after i judge whether he is serious or not.

I think forgiving helps you move on with your life. But I usually don't associate myself with them anymore. I just dont want that guilt feeling and just move on with my life. I have forgiven an ex of mine who I found out and caught her in the act. I haven't necesseraliy told her that I forgave her but in my head why bother keep thinking and feel upset for what she'd done to me. If I was to see her again I would say Hi but I wouldnt ignore her, its just not me.

Yes of course. But forgiving doesn't mean forgetting. For me, forgetting what the person has done is way harder than forgiving that person. You forgive someone, but at the back of your mind and heart you still find that you haven't entirely forgetten what that person has done to you. Just my 2 cents..

I once heard a quote about anger and forgiveness: "Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intend of throwing it at someone else, you are the one who gets burned" and I try to remember those words when I find it hard to forgive. I would say that I am able to forgive people in most cases, but there are a few exceptions. If someone broke into my house, I would probably be able to forgive him or her for stealing or breaking my things, but if the person hurt my pets in any way, I would become furious, and I don't think that I would ever be able to forgive him/her.

I am a person who forgives very quick, but never forgets or take time to forgt things. I think this is a very bad habit. The problem is I keep thinking about the bad thing somebody have done to me again and again almost daily and it will result in hating that person forever. It should not happen. It is great it you can forgive and forget quickly.

Of course, i will forgive them because i think the hert let me develop and learn more!

that's kinds difficult to answer...i guess it depends on what he did.........then i would weigh it out

i think its easier to just forgive them because when somebody hurts you, then you being hurt is something that they want. and when they hurt you unintentionally then its also better to forgive. actually- what else is there to do? hurt back?- this way this hurting one and other circle is never going to stop. Forgive but remember-this is how i see it.