After you get married, do you continue living with your parent?
@ayukawasouhiko (384)
Japan
August 5, 2009 4:59am CST
Hi, dear mylot friends.
I have attended my friend's wedding last time, their parents look very happy, I wish they all families alwasy so happy and healthy.
I heard my friend said that he and his wife wanted to continue living with his parent, their house is big, their rooms is quite far from each other in order to they couldn't hear each other. my friend and his wife don't have enough money to hire or buy new house,they prefer to live in the big house all thier lives and take care of old parent well.
Will you live with your parent still after you get married?
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35 responses
@yolanda19191 (1934)
• China
5 Aug 09
i think i will. but not like ur friend to live in the parents house.
i'll do my best to buy a house, maybe first need to hire, and then pick up my parents from the countryside to the big city living with us. so that we can take care of them. they are older and older now, while i'm working far from them, now, i miss my parents so much.
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@nikolausriki88 (176)
• Indonesia
6 Aug 09
yea you are right guys, buy a house and living with our family is good dream
@ayukawasouhiko (384)
• Japan
6 Aug 09
yolanda19191, i appreciate you, you are the pride of your parent, i wish your parent always happy and health!
nikolausriki88, thank you share my page, welcome you enjoy my new page!
@yolanda19191 (1934)
• China
6 Aug 09
hi, ayukawasouhiko
tks for ur praise. but i believe every child is the pride of the parent. certainly u a too.
i dreamed my father yesterday evening, and now missing them so much.
@minhminh0604 (342)
• United States
6 Aug 09
It does not matter much to me.
If I and my husband can afford a new house, we will move out.
If we can not, we can stay with the parents.
After saving some more money, we will move out.
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@ayukawasouhiko (384)
• Japan
7 Aug 09
hi, if you have enough money, you can build new house for your family happily. enjoy mylot!^^
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
6 Aug 09
no i don't actually... i and my hubby straight away rent our own house after we get married because we just want our freedom, privacy and independence... so we just want to live by ourselves without the interference from parents or in-laws... i think it is better this way as nobody will interfere with our relationship... take care and have a nice day...
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@ayukawasouhiko (384)
• Japan
7 Aug 09
Yes,thanks for good reply. no one disturbs your life belong to your two? ^^
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
6 Aug 09
I would love to have my own house. Of course I love my parents but after I get married then I want to have my own place so I can do whatever I want without watch out for anyone at all. I can walk naked in my home or sleep all day without hearing any word, or argue with my husband without bother my parents too.
I can visit them as much as I want
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@ayukawasouhiko (384)
• Japan
7 Aug 09
Thank you for good opinion. You could own a good house and it is your,don't worry that your parent watch what are you doing when you live with them, just anything is your.
@cwong77 (2010)
• Malaysia
5 Aug 09
I have yet to be married even I have a child, and now I am living with my parents. In a circumstances like your friend, I don't think they should move out since they have a parents to take care, and also the house is big enough for all of them. It's never easy to stay or lived together, however I find if you can lived with older generation, it will be more benefit than bad. If I ever marry, I think I would like to live with either my or my hubs parents. 
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@ayukawasouhiko (384)
• Japan
7 Aug 09
Thank you share my page, you are right. if your parent and husband's parent live in such big house together, it is not bad, they can make friends and help each other well, there are many common languages among them, they seldom care about your lives.(laugh)
@grace118224 (1038)
• China
5 Aug 09
Yes now i'm living with my parents-in-law. Well to be honest if i had enough money i will certainly move out . I want to have our own house indeed. It's good to live together with them but sometimes we just want more freedom . We can cook whatever delicious food we want We can watch TV in the late night without disturbing anyone else...
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@ayukawasouhiko (384)
• Japan
7 Aug 09
Yes, friend,living with parent-in-law is a little troubling, parent-in-law prefer their kid than son/daughter-in-law, you make the better effort to make them satisfied. well, i wish you and your spouse will have a common house belong to yourself.(laugh)
@finidinwa (497)
• United States
2 Sep 09
I should have save very much to live alone so i would prefer liviving alone
@ayukawasouhiko (384)
• Japan
5 Aug 09
Thank you share my page, everything is not very important, so long as you are joyful ^^
@SeishiroX (1093)
• Philippines
5 Aug 09
I plan to save up and get my own house. I want to get off my parents' walls so I can have some privacy and freedom, because I hate it when parents meddle in affairs and privacy of their children. Cheers~
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@ayukawasouhiko (384)
• Japan
5 Aug 09
Your freedom is very good, anyone doesn't like his/her parent interfere his/her private affair, unless old parent need their son or daught go back to take care of them, somtime take care of old parent is inconvenient to son or daughter's private time and affair,but old parent just hope their son or daughter can accompany them at least when they leave the world. Really old parent don't want to disturb kid's life, later on all things are kid's life.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
5 Aug 09
Yes!I am married and living with my parents in the same house for more than 12 years.It has both the advantages and disadvantages.But we have to take everything.I am the youngest one in my family and I have to stay with my parents to take care of them.Their advices are proven to be helpful and I don't want to miss them.Even though I will build a big house in the near future for all of our convenience,I will take my parents with me.Cheers!
@ayukawasouhiko (384)
• Japan
5 Aug 09
Thanks for you share my page, I admire you have the other brothers and sisters I am only a son of parent, although my parent don't say to me in my face " you should find a girlfriend", i think they always desire I get a girlfriend and live in my another house.
Well,you don't worry about your private affair, your brothers and sisters some have gone out with girlfriend, some have got married, leave you to take care of your parent, they don't care about whether you have a girlfriend.(laugh)
@nikolausriki88 (176)
• Indonesia
6 Aug 09
every one have a dream..and i have a dream i will buy a house by my own money.i will living with my wife and child. but if my parent want, i will be happy if they are living together with me in my house...
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
6 Aug 09
very well said .. live in your house and not you in their house
@ayukawasouhiko (384)
• Japan
5 Aug 09
Yes, you and your husband have a common house and baby that is a thing the happiest during your lives, your all parents wish you have a happy family!
@submerryn (1304)
• Malaysia
6 Aug 09
If I have my way, I'll stay on our own. I am married and I am staying on our own. I prefer to start a family independently. I dont know why, but I just prefer it this way. If I were to stay with MY parents, my husband might not feel comfortable. If I were to stay with HIS parents, I might not feel comfortable too. The saying of once you are married to the man, you are married to his family as well doesnt go well with me. I prefer us to be independent on our own and only meet up occasionally so that things are greater! 
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 09
I agree with Merryn. I just like to live on our own and prefer to start a family. Once in a while to have family gathering will have more HAPPY time than staying together with either my parents or his parents. If money is not the issue, if both the young couples have financial independently, they can start a own live to not staying with the family.
@JamesKYTan (1605)
• Malaysia
2 Sep 09
Hi ayukawasouhiko,
I am married for 17 years already. My mum is staying
in my hometown which is 4 hours drive. At the moment
my wife's mother is staying with us. That's means
my mother-in-law is staying with me. It is good that
she can stay with us because I am always outstation
working. My son is very happy when there are more
people around. My sister-in-law also stays with us!
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
7 Aug 09
Greetings, my friend..
It's great to see a mylotter from Japan, I think you are the only one in my friend list right now hailing from there.. awesome.. ;)
As for your topic discussion, I think that it's best to live separate from parents because when spouses squabble or have certain disagreements, parents can interfere without them realizing it.
Other reasons might be privacy and there are just not much independence in that sense. It would be cool to have parents living a few blocks away only, or just upstairs in another apartment..
@daliaj (5674)
• India
6 Aug 09
I am married and I no longer live with parents. I left my parent's house when I got job and shifted to a city. I would like to live with my parents or my parents in law if I get a chance, but my husband doesn't want to go for that. I would like to have a mother in law who sits at home and cook good food for me helping me to work.
@haiershen (1080)
• China
21 Aug 09
i'm not married yet, if even i will, i would not like to live with my parents, i want to have my own house,though our young couple live style isn't same as my partens, for example, we always sleeping after 10:00 pm, but my partents often sleeping before 9:00, so perhaps there warm sleeping would be interrupt by us.and it is hard to sleeping again for them. of course,we will take care of our partents all the times. good luck and have a nice day!
@murtuza89 (513)
• India
11 Aug 09
I am not married yet, I am single. But I have decided that I will stay with my parents after I am married. I will marry a girl who is family minded and who is ready to stay with my family.
I think a joint family life is far more better than a nuclear family.
Also I have certain responsibilities towards my parents which i have to fulfill. I have to take care of them in their old age.
So I strictly believe in staying with my parents.
@catherina1982 (135)
• Philippines
7 Aug 09
well for me if im married i want to live with my parents but first thing i can do is to consult this situation to my husband.. if he agree or not!
@mickly08 (769)
• China
7 Aug 09
I am afraid I am living with my parent after I get married .At least it is not convience for both ,your parents ,your wife and you . Everyone has different habits and custom .I mean many things are quite different . It is esay to get other embrassed .I don't think it is a good idea .
