do you carry bad emotions around with you?

When I'm angry, I ended up crying so much. It will affect me for a few moments, but then I have to let it go. I don't want to be a person who amke it worst, so I just keep it to myself. ANger brings nothing good. Tried to face it, and if not, try to avoid it, like what I did. I know I'm not brave enough to face, so I let the matter cool first, and then I will take necessary measure to face it. Sometimes, time can heal it.

i got depressed over something before which took me more than a year to accept. it was some very bad time for me and my daughter but even if she was only a teen, she understood and was very supportive of me and am so grateful for her for loving me so much. now i am fine and am doing great and i have a very wonderful relationship with my daughter. ann

I have been through this before and dealing with it now. I just do what I can each day to handle it the best I can.

Anger is a natural emotion and in families, the older the members get, the more anger issues there are, part of being part of a family I guess.

I am one to carry a lot of resentment towards my parents and I am working on changing my thoughts because it does more harm than good to hold on to such negative anger and ultimately will not change what happened in the past. My parents were quite emotionally abusive to my sister and me and to this day they still do not see the harm they caused. It is useless talking it out with them because they are always right, just ask them! I am thankful I have my sister and we share our thoughts in regards to our childhood. If I didn’t have a sibling I would be a lot more damaged and dysfunctional; just sharing and expressing anger in a positive way can go a long way towards healing.

hi savypat! Oftentimes I have to carry bad emotions caused by arguments with my husband. I always had the feeling that he never cares for me as he always decide things by his own without consulting me. I would usually seek for my friends consoling words, but when I've started with my lot I find it more comfortable releasing my pent-up emotions by way of sharing/relating my experiences here. Thanks to my co-mylotters!

Some families live with bad emotions and these get carried to the next generation. We should all learn to control our emotions and not be carried away by bad feelings.

Yes, anger is common. I don't feel that anger itself is harmful, but how you deal with it can be. Not dealing with it is equally as harmful as dealing with it in a destructive way, so don't be fooled and think that ignoring it or shoving it down makes someone any better than someone punching a hole in a wall because of it lol. The other problem with anger and other negative emotions is that not everybody is equally equipped to handle/deal with them. Some people can take it in stride, other people fall apart. I try to be positive about things when I can, but I have learned through experience that if something always ends up badly with certain situations, I have to do what I can to mitigate the damage rather than be positive. With other things, it's the attitudes or behaviors or reactions from other people that I have seen in the past that cause me to be suspicious rather than positive. I guess sometimes it comes down to self preservation - you know, the whole 'do unto others BEFORE they do unto you' outlook. Believe it or not, sometimes this is the best way to protect yourself if experience has shown it to be true repeatedly. I mean it's better to find out 9 times out of 10 you sidestepped a problem by being proactive (and thinking this way) and only one time you didn't need to, vs trusting or believing things will be fine and getting screwed 9 out of 10 times. You have to judge your odds before you decide.

i understand your feeling.my family had some trouble last two weeks,i felt badly at that time.but i tried to solve the problems as i could.i called 10 different people in one day. kept talking again and again with them.it was really tired,but i was happy that it is ok now.believe that every bad things will go.

to patch up u need to keep ur ego aside , & then anger will automatically reduce . i always keep quite when i am angry . i always try to be happy & make others happy

Hi Pat, I can surely empathize with your family. Carrying negative emotions around with us can make them become as heavy as a huge stone. I now visualize (and this may sound odd lol) literally picturing what a bad emotion looks like (anger usually looks like a fire to me, and fear is a huge blob of Jello), and then throwing it down to the floor in front of me. I observe it, and then will it to grow smaller and smaller. That usually either makes me laugh, or...it helps me gain perspective enough to address the matter calmly. I wish your family well!

I don't do it.I am stable internally and externally and I am able to handle the situations quite well.Have a nice day

Yes, sometime when in bad time, my emotion carry bad around but this present not again. Know If I feel bad time, I try to write about that feel. Slow and slowly, bad time its done. So, my advice, try a post when your feel bad time

i dont like doing that ... i just get whats on my mind even if it hurts people..

One definition of depression is "anger turned inward" and we all know that depression is on the rise. Yes, I do get angry, from time to time. Less now than I used to. It seems to me that my anger greatly diminished as I lost people who were important to me. I think it is a terrible way to gain insight, but for some people it takes having someone die.

i have gone threw this and am still going through a phase like this with my family. i won't go into exact details about the problems. i would try not to keep things bottled up in your mind if its really bothering you as it can make it worse. it would be good to have at least someone to talk to. i find it hard to forgive after being so upset and angry about such things. hopefully the anger and bitterness can cool off after so long and you all can begin to at least make some progress on repairing the hurt. hopefully i can do the same as well. either way i know i'll be ok in the long run as theirs plenty for me to do with enjoying life as well as accomplishing goals.

Hi, Pat! I work very hard on pushing negatives away. Sometimes, I just cry it out, but most of the time I meditate, get calmed down, and take the necessary steps to get things back on track. It is NOT easy, but it almost always works!

Honestly I don't carry bad emotions around with me but I'll ensure you that they do follow me. I have a lot of luck and it's not good either.. always bad! Have a nice night

I've been thru a lot in my life with anger and emotions! On and off thru out the days. Doesn't everybody go thru this, too? I would think so. I also go thru a lot of love and happiness thru out my days. To me, bad times are what bad times are to you. Life is how you see it and what color of hue you decide to paint your life in. I hope times get better for you savypat, keep your head up!

I do carry bad emotions with me for a long time...Iam really a negative thinker,sometimes I thought of is God really hearing my por rayers???My family is having problems ever since I was young and as a part of that family I always think of ways for them to solve problems....