Why do we isolate ourselves?

Before you judge us for being who we are, take the time to consider why we isolate ourselves. I know I can not speak for everyone on this but for my sake I can. I'm discusted with the way sociaty has become, always following someone elses footsteps and never truely being themselves. We are taught to live within sociaty and to ignore our pain with happiness. It is the pain I've felt that tells me that something is wrong with the world. And to just be happy again and ignore that is just wrong. Even though you want to have people feel good and live a good life, some of us want to live a different way. We want to find the answers ourselves, anyone who tells me that I should be happy aparently is satisfied with the way the world is. Ignoring the fact that people are dieing everyday, that people are being raped, robed, beat up. Some of us want to help others by stoping these kind of things, not ignoreing it for our own self. Im not saying everyone of us is like this, but think tiwce before you judge an isolated one so quickly. Also some of us don't want anyones help, some want to have a reason to live, to say that they have accomplished something in their life. Read up on the personality types and then you will understand others more.

This subject definitely hits a nerve with me... When I was young, all the kids used to play outside in their yard, or in the yards of their neighbors. We used to play kick ball, hide n'go seek, tag, all sorts of games. The parents used to visit with one another, sometimes while they were hanging up their clothes on the line outside, or they would stop in for a cup of coffee....or a simple wave of the hand while they were sitting outside in the yard; we used to have barbecues with the neighbors, 2 or 3 times a year. When I drive around now, very rarely do we see kids playing in their yard, and in a neighborhood of entirely single homes, nobody really knows anyone, except for a wave of their hand when they ride by. I would love to know the reason, why this as all changed. Is it because both parents are now working full time, and their kids are off to day care centers, which really wouldn't answer why you wouldn't see the kids once they were home at night. Is it because children are now so into computers that they no longer know how to have fun outside. Is it because the kids are so into sports activities, that they aren't even home at all, and the parents are attending their games, or driving them to and from their practices? But this still doesn't answer why families can't enjoy the company of their neighbors once in awhile, sit outside and enjoy the summer nights...Now all you see is well kept manicured lawns, all for show, and no one to enjoy the pleasure of these yards. I think it is very said.

It is true. I don't know why people want to hide away from others. Maybe because everyone leads a fast paced life, imagine, we are all forced to get up at 6, prepare our breakfast, getting tired after work. I think there are people dont even want to talk to their family, they cannot be expected to spend time to talk to their neighors. The pressure from work and life make them wouldn't do what you just said. It happends in my country, but when I moved to Australia, it becomes a different story. People smiles at you and say hello, the neigbours are quite close to eachother. Australia has a slow life pace compare to other countries, it is the why people can have the mood to be willing to have that connection.

Those of us who learn from our own understanding, tend to isolate ourselves. Do not try to reach out to us unless we are wanting what you want also. Everyone has their own reason for doing such a thing, mine is that I believe sociaty is curupt. I want to find answers myself, and I don't want to harm others or myself. It is best I find my own answers, I dont wana feel happiness if it means i have to ignore the answers to my pain. We thrive on saddness, it helps us learn. Although I will admit, some dont want sadness and others dont want to learn. Before you say someone needs to be happy, consider the pain we have suffered for so many years.

I often wonder about this. I know that in the area in which I live, I have a hard time finding people that can relate to me. I don't however feel I have a problem relating to others. I often feel misunderstood by others. Also, for one reason or another, either because I have been hurt severely or some other reason I cannot define, I sometimes believe I have lost interest in others. I have given up extending warm welcomes to others who do not return the favor. I wish it was some other way. I am still working on it....

It is really difficult to isolate yourself, if there is no reason. If the stituation comes, then I will find ways to learn how to deal with it. I had done this in a mission and survive without regrets. T think I can still do it.

Not talking to a strange can be justified as the world has a lot of nut cases. Opening up to them is a risk that can be avoided. We hear of so many horror stories of people being friendly and being taken advantage of. This one reasons we subconsciously suppress our outgoing nature and are reserved in our interaction with others. Fear of commitment and involvement is also a factor. I agree with you about "happiness being contagious", but I exercise a lot of caution before I take a nodding acquaintance one step closer. Am I being too cautious? Yes!, but then be safe than be sorry! Cheers!