Would you be mad at your mother if she lost the gift that you just gave her?
By Azaerus
@Azaerus (820)
Philippines
August 11, 2009 5:17am CST
I started a discussion before about a mother who is kind a teenager when she acts. I mentioned there that the mother of my friend sometimes goes home very very late and drunk.
Well,despite the mothers attitude,my friend still manages to earn money for the gift that he will give his mum for her birthday. My friend did everything to earn money just to buy that one special mp3 music player his mum really wants.
Yesterday,my friend and I met and he told me that the mp3 music player that he just gave his mum was lost. And what hurt him most is that the mother even kept it as secret and told him nothing for a whole week about it. When i asked him how he found out about that,he said that his mum confessed everything about it yesterday morning.And when I asked him how it got lost here's what he said,his mum went home drunk some night last week or the week after sometimes like that and said that the last time she saw her mp3 music player was in the taxi when she was on her way home.
I mean hey,I think that my friend has every right to be mad because being drunk isn't a valid reason why you manage to lose something very precious. My friend worked hard for that money and earned it just to buy that gift.
Now my friend is really confuse,he thinks that his mother really don't care about him and his other siblings,he feels like his mum just don't care at all.
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4 responses
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
13 Aug 09
First of all, I agree that the reason itself would make ME mad if someone had lost a gift that I've worked so hard to get. It's a hard lesson to learn; perhaps in future your friend could just wish her happy birthday and give her a card. It still shows that he cares. Tell your friend not to be so hard on himself, he's done great as a son.
What matters most is that he and his siblings continue to care for their mom and hope she would kick her drinking habit and open her eyes wide, and see for herself how hard her children have been working to support her.
Cheers!
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@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
13 Aug 09
Thanks for the messsage,it really has nice thought in it. My friend really is one great son huh?hehehe
Anyways we're hoping for the same that the mother will quit her drinking habbit any time soon. She's going to be a grandma in one month,maybe the baby will change her attitude or the way she acts.
@skye86 (57)
• India
11 Aug 09
your friend has every right to be mad on his mother. But he must not take this incident as an indication that his mother does not care about him. Maybe she too feels sorry about the whole affair but is unable to say so. Sometimes our family members drift apart right in front of our eyes. They no longer can share their feelings that easily. I don't know why that happens but it seems to be the case with your friend's mother. Tell him not to loose heart but try to reach out to her and bridge the gap instead.
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
Yeah I guess the anger within my friend won't last long,he loves his mother so much eventhough she's like that he still respects her. But I understand very much why he is feeling angry towards his mum,if I were in his situation I would get mad to,ofcourse.
But I guess it will take him few more days before he recovers from all of this. He's a bit emotional when dealing with his family.
@joezon50 (378)
• Hong Kong
13 Sep 09
I am working too and i really understand your friends
feeling.I know the effort that he used just to buy hes
mom a present.I also buy my mother a gift and i notice
that everything i give to her was all in proper place,
she's been keeping it use again everytime she goes out.
I wish your friend's mother notice the kindness that your
friend given to her.
@rahulda (92)
• India
11 Aug 09
I would certainly be angry at her. I would not show that just like she did not say she lost the device. But my anger depends on her past behavior, If she never lost a thing before and this is her first, It should be okay to forgive her. I would be a little upset. Tell her u would get a new device. If she has done it for the nth time, I would ask her to pay back the price of the device. Finally, get her another one.