Parting Ways

Singapore
August 12, 2009 2:37am CST
Of late, I am sure most of us are aware that there are some quarters who are using short text messages to part with their other halves. I do not know about you, but I just regard this an act of simply being irresponsible, insensitive and most of all ungracious. I am just so against this. Just what is it with them anyway? Even if both parties could not come to terms with one another, I feel that the both of them have for in them, to come face to face with each other and part ways. Relationships need both parties to work out, so it's only natural that both parties come together for a parting when things do not work out. I am simply against these parting short text messages and for a while I have anticipated the consequences. Not being insensitive here, but I just feel appropriate to bring up this article where a young girl who was dumped by her boyfriend's text message actually took her LIFE! I hope the some of you who are pro-short message parting here, will consider and not be like this pathetic individual who could not even be reached on his mobile which is empty on battery and no more credits in his mobile. For crying out loud, just as we are loving in a relationship, we must also be when we are parting! Even more, if I may add here. Still rooting for parting via short text messages? Ref: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1205856/Teen-hanged-boyfriend-dumped-text.html
4 responses
SurveyPrincess09
@SurveyPrincess09 (338)
• United States
12 Aug 09
Hello Skysuccess! I agree with you 100%. Texting is okay but not for braking up or serious conversations that can change you life. I text with my boyfriend everyday, but things like : Have a nice day, hugs and kisses, it's raining pretty bad out there, be careful driving..etc. One reason I don't think texting or instant messaging is good for it is that a lot of times when you type thinks and the other party reads it, a lot of times it comes out something else at the other end and the other person takes it the wrong way. You can't hear the tone of voice in a message. Take care and happy mylotting! :)
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skysuccess
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
13 Aug 09
Hi SurveyPrincess09, I am glad to have you on my side of the bank here. It just tells me how you perceive a relationship and the way you treat fellow human beings. I do not know what is going through these people's minds and I can tell you that I would not fancy my friends and myself to be associated with such trivial and cowardly characters. Such acts, in my opinion, will never win any genuine friendship or the much needed mutuality or amicability at the end of the day. What is on the minds of these characters here? Has so much education taken away their sense of tactful personal touch? I just wonder.
SurveyPrincess09
@SurveyPrincess09 (338)
• United States
13 Aug 09
I guess the more advanced we get the less people want to think for themselfs. That's what we are teaching the young generation. When I was in school, do you think we were allowed to use a calculator on a math test? NO WAY! And in stores the registers did not tell the cashier how much change to give back. Now, our kids are getting so comfortable with all the high tech that if God forbit all the computers in the world crash, they will be in trouble. :( Scary! Have an awesome day my friend and happy mylotting! :) Olivia ~
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scarletwitch12
@scarletwitch12 (562)
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
When my ex and I broke up, we were text messaging back and forth and we finally realized that there was nothing more we could do but break up. It was via instant message. But we agreed to meet the next day so we could talk about the break up in person. And although there were a lot of bitter emotions, as alll break ups tend to have with it, we were able to part as friends. I agree with you that dumping someone as crudely as that is beyond disgusting! People should have the decency to talk to you properly when they feel the relationship is doomed.
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skysuccess
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
13 Aug 09
scarletwitch12, Wow! I really marveled how you actually text back and forth when you broke up with your ex. It must have been excruciating and cumbersome - isn't it? I just cannot imagine what would have happened if either one of you had an empty battery situation. Did the other half ask for it or you? Why not talk over the phone? I do not know about you, but I can tell you that it would be quite a feat for me to text back and forth on such a serious note. Especially, when I have incoming calls to pick up and outgoing calls to make. You are really extraordinary here. Well, like you - I totally agree with you that both parties should sit down and talk it out at the end of the day. No matter what other may say or do. Relationships are always delicate and being impersonal when things do not work out is just literally insensitive. Thanks for your response here.
scarletwitch12
@scarletwitch12 (562)
• Philippines
14 Aug 09
It wasn't a walk in the park let me tell you. It was a long time coming and there were a lot of things that we just couldn't sort out in the relationship. I was always away so we communicate over the phone. We did talk a little. But then we figured it was best that after we texted back and forth, we still talked about it in person. Just because we broke up it doesn't mean we didn't cared anymore so we had a long, mature talk about it. He still texts and calls me. We remained friends because until the very end, we never stopped respecting each other.
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doryvien
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
13 Aug 09
Hi Sky, To dump someone over the text line is insulting and insensitive, let alone hurtful. It is a cowardly act - not being able to face the other half to explain why such decision has been reached. Just the thought of being "disposed of" is bad enough, and to be told via a text message is adding insult to the injury. But come to think of it, if the person most important you does this, he is sending a very clear message - aside from the fact that he doesn't want to have anything to do with you anymore - the more important message there is that he has no b@llz, and as such if you continue having a relationship with him you know that he won't stand up for you and be by your side when the going gets tough (what can you expect when he can't even face you with a major decision such as breaking up). Better get rid of him this early if that's the case.
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skysuccess
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
13 Aug 09
doryvien, Really! How I just wished that this young girl could at least have that mere 1% of your concluding thoughts here. I am sure the outcome would have been less tragic and that she could have been alive today. Yes, it is cowardly, insulting and insensitive! My exact sentiments here. But what is more appalling is the fact that her pathetic boyfriend could be both out of battery and credit with his cellphone!! How in the world could he ever have the cheek and audacity to come up with such a way to break up a relationship here? I am just baffled beyond words. I hope he lives with this conscience and regret for the rest of his living hours. Glad you agreed here.
cwong77
@cwong77 (2010)
• Malaysia
12 Aug 09
Yes, it's such irresponsible to do things when it fail and choose to hide away with it.. I wonder do the courting all start with SMS too! Goodness gracious, I mean any party who wish to end the relationship should come clean, than having so much of anxiety for the other person.. and please, be respect and responsible.. dying for not knowing the reason is plain 'dumb'!
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skysuccess
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
13 Aug 09
cwong77, One thing I am sure of here, I am not going to be very willing to start a relationship with some mere short text message. Sorry, but I feel that the other party needs to do her homework and understand the terms - sincerity and personal touch. I am glad you saw the validity at my side and hope mankind will improve henceforth! Have a nice day.