why some people have to go through engagement?

I agree..but we should know when to get engaged and how long to be engaged.

Sorry I have no idea because I straight away got married after falling in love...so no probationary period for me... direct permanent place in his heart...hehe But I feel in arranged marriages engagement is important..because I have seen some marriages do not happen after engagement...they either come to know of the bride / groom's behaviour and reject their marriage...but if this happens it is a big insult for the victim's side.. but many couples in this period go through the romantic phase...where the separation brings them more closer...the bride and the groom talk and meet each other...I think if it is dealt in a decent way then this engagement is not a pain otherwise it is a pain for the couple.

I think it is a declaration of their love for each other and to announce to friends and family of their intentions. The engagement period gives them time to plan for the wedding and any other plans such as the honeymoon. Of course an engagement is not needed and many do opt to just get married by a J.P. and not have any big planned celebration.

For me, besides get to know each other more to be ready, I think engagement is meant to give time to the couple ready financially, especially the man. I think so. What do you say?

hesitation?...it's not hesitation...it's time for knowing each other. Engagement is not necessarily long or short,it's the couples choice.Some engagement becomes long becoz both are still preparing financially,or maybe they are still building a new house before they get married. There are lot of reasons for engagement,and it's not hesitation.If it is hesitation,then,why being engaged?

Engagement in my culture is a very important event. When a couple is engaged, it means they've agreed to get married, and that's why they each wear engagement rings. I wouldn't call it a "probationary period" as it makes engagement look like a cheap way of testing your relationship. You could do that before engagement. Engagement is also an indication that "She/he's already mine, so don't go after her/him."

I've always thought it was just a promise to get married and the period where the couple plans for the wedding. And I think the title fiancee is pretty nice =)

Engagement does not mean your hesitating.. its the first step to getting married. It shows that you love the person and give you time to get the money togethr for a wedding. Plan it properly so its as special as it should be.

I think for many people engagement is just a tradition. We live in the society more or less we should fellow our traditions. Before getting married officially some couple choose to have engagement first. I suppose through this step they might be able to find mental safety with their society. There are a few couple using the period to make the final decision. Personally I don’t accept the management. I think it wastes money and time, it also makes life complicated.