Do all your friends have their notifyer on?
By mipen2006
@mipen2006 (5528)
Australia
August 13, 2009 7:24pm CST
I wonder sometimes, if a lot of my friends have their notifiers turned off. I respond to all my email notifications if I feel I can contribute something useful. However, I notice many friends I am responding to never respond to my discussions, even some simple ones that can be answered if your command of English is not great. This makes me wonder if a lot of myLotters never turn their notiyiers on. What do you think?
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@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
14 Aug 09
when i get a new friend thats the first thing i always do, i notify them on. so i can see at my email what discussion tehy started with and i will have to chance to response on their discussion. i feel the same way with you. i also wonder why they dont respond on the discussion that i started. it is always a big puzzle to me why. what i do is i delete them lol. i alwasy clean my friend page every 6 months. sorry to do that but i feel betrayed to not see them on my page while i do my responsibility as a friend to them. thats the reason why they are on our friends list so we can help each other. but i find that i am on a one way street. maybe they turn the notify on but they dont open their email 
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
14 Aug 09
Now that's a very good and detailed response roniroxas. What I can't understand is why thay don't do that simple opperation at the time of adding new friends. What criteria do you use when you cull your friends list. Mine is long overdue for a review. Thank you for responding.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
14 Aug 09
the criteria is if i know that they are super active but still does not join in my discussion then that really breaks my heart. i respond to their discussion as long i know what they were talking about. but it really breaks my heart to see them not on my page specially when my discussion are very simple ones. i clean my friends list every 6 months but i still know who are not that active but still communicate with me on emails and that i dont delete. i have a few close friends here at mylot.
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
14 Aug 09
I have added a few friends recently, most from India, I think, and have responded to most of their discussions. However, only a handful have reciprocated. I may have to atsrt culling. Thanks for the information.
@VKXY62 (1605)
• Australia
16 Aug 09
Hello mipen,
mine is, it's your own posts, that get me in here sometimes.
I don't come in every day, or every week, but the mail box always gets looked at sooner or later.
My own email is chockers with rubbsih I don't want, I need to go and turn off some of those places that send me stuff, but have the opt out.
Do you know how to find mylot alerts once they have been read?
I wanted to look at one again. Can't find em' anywhere.
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
16 Aug 09
G'day VKXY62, yeah all the junk and spam mail that fills our inboxes ai a real problem, but mine at least has dropped right off recently. I was getting 15-20 phishing a day, but now only the occassional one. Sorry I can't help with alerts that have been read, can you send a message to the administraoors? Thanks for the reply.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
16 Aug 09
There could be many reasons why your friends never respond back to your discussions that you might have started here. Sometimes it could be because they don't have their notifications turned on, while other times it might be they are not in here that often to find the time to respond back, or have no interest in the type of discussion you have started, or might no longer be active in here as well. I personally have a lot of friends in my friends list and I know it takes time to respond back to everyone, but I find it more worth it to try.
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
16 Aug 09
I understand what you're saying KrauseHome, and you're quite right, but this discussion was initiated by then number of, mainly new, friend's discussions, some not too brilliant mind you, that I have answered, but they have never responded to mine. I thought, as many weren't native English speakers, the discussions may have been too complicated for them, so I started some really easy ones to test my theory. For example: "Would you rather shower in the morning or evening?" Still no responses from these new members. The only conclusion I can reasonably arrive at is that they haven't turned their notifier on. Thank you for shaaring.
@polachicago (18716)
• United States
14 Aug 09
I have notifier on only for few old friends. I am not happy, because I have notification on for LittleMel and is not working...so I have to search if she start any discussion...
I am answering to my old friends discussions first and other as such as I can...
I am answering to my old friends discussions first and other as such as I can...1 person likes this
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
14 Aug 09
You have always been loyal to me pola, and I thank you for that. It's been a long time now.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
14 Aug 09
I have the same feeling a about quite a few of my friends. I have 239 friends and although I appreciate that they are not all going to be active at the same time, I only receive 10 to 15 email notifications per day.
Someone informed me that if your friend does not have ‘notify’ on you will not be advised of his or her discussions and of course he or she will be unaware of your replies.
A lot of people don’t want to fill their in box with notifications and are happy just to surf the site looking for discussions which is fine but it is easy to miss a lot of things that way, I think. Because I did not want my in box cluttered I opened an email account just for things like MyLot where I also happen to receive a great deal of spam but at least my personal email address is junk free and uncluttered.
I always keep my notifications on for all my friends because I would hate to miss something interesting!
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
14 Aug 09
Hi paula, you can always delete the emails when you are notified. I do to some who start a lot of one line question discussions. All mine are on, and I read every email, but there are some I choose not to answer. Thanks for your response.
@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
14 Aug 09
All of my friends set their notifier off, i usually answer their discussion sometimes, and some of them reply, and other are not.
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
14 Aug 09
To be fair, it should be a two way street, that way everyone would benefit. Thanks for the reply precoiusgem.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
14 Aug 09
It has to do with them having enough time. Most people, that is us, are either working, doing other things, housework, etc. So we have a hard time reading the email from our outside friends let alone from the myLot friends. Besides that, I did have notify on for many of my friends and found that many of the discussions I could not answer, but in my case, with my husband being disabled, and I writing more on my novel, I usually go to the friends started since when I had notify on many of the friend discussions I wanted to answer got lost in the shuffle by those who were newcomers and asked boring questions. I suppose that happened to yours.
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
14 Aug 09
Hello suspensful, that sounds like a reasonable explanation, and I see what you mean about not having time. I guess for me I address them as soon as I open my inbox, but I'm not really busy. Thank you for your comment, and also for broadening my image of other myLotters.
@dlr297 (5409)
• United States
14 Aug 09
I can not answer for any one else, but i have all my notifiers on. I enjoy getting notified when a new discussion is started by someone on my friends list. I only respond to the ones that i think that i can add something to, and i pass on the ones that i have no interest in.
I do not start many discussions so i do not know how many responses i would get if i started some everyday.
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
14 Aug 09
That's the way I feel, although this month I have started more than usual, but I've got an objective in mind, so it's an exception to the rule. Thanks for responding dlr.
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
14 Aug 09
its good you called our attention. i checked all my friends on my list and i made sure all notifiers are on. but what if your have friends have forgotten to turn it on after adding you on the list? maybe now is the time to send them notices and messages and kinda explain a little, this is especially to those new to mylot. that's what i think.
ann
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
14 Aug 09
I think many new members don't read the small print under their friend's list that tells them how the notifyer works. Thanks for your input, tigeraunt.
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
14 Aug 09
Yes, after I approve a friend request and vice-versa, I turn the notifier on, it's because I want to know the new topics they started, and be able to respond when I have something to say about it. However, I respond only to those that I can relate to or have something contribute to. In as much as I want to participate in all my friends' discussions, there are topics that I have no knowledge of, so I leave them to those who are in the know, and I just move on to the next one where my thoughts can be more relevant.
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
14 Aug 09
I agree doryvien, I like to address all the discussions before moving to the general myLot population. That's what friends are for. Thank you for responding.
