What is the superstitious beliefs in your country regarding marriage/wedding?
By neelianoscet
@neelianoscet (9615)
Philippines
August 15, 2009 3:03am CST
I know you have superstitious beliefs in your country before marriage and wedding. In my country it is a practice not to allow a bride to wear her dress before wedding or her wedding will be cancel or discontinue. Then, the groom and bride should not travel when their date of wedding is near as some bad luck may happen. I would like to know if their are somehow similarities from the superstitious beliefs which my country believe which should be avoid before wedding or marriages. Kindly give your own country superstitious beliefs which up to know are still practice in your place. Some of the beliefs here are pass from our generations from old ancestors which every family who embrace it are a great believers or it is just a matter of coincidence. I would like to know your own country superstitious beliefs before entering marriages/wedding.
Below are some partial superstitious beliefs in my country before wedding/marriage.
* Brides shouldn’t try on their wedding dress before the wedding day or the wedding will not push through. This beliefs is still practice in my country even it is now a modern age.
* Knives and other sharp and pointed objects are said to be a bad choice for wedding gifts for this will lead to a broken marriage.
* Altar-bound couples are accident-prone and therefore must avoid long drives or traveling before their wedding day for safety.
* Rains during the wedding means prosperity and happiness for the newlyweds.
* A flame extinguished on one of the wedding candles means the one whose candle was extinguished will die ahead of the other.
* Throwing rice confetti at the newlyweds will bring them prosperity all their life.
* The bride should step on the groom’s foot while walking towards the altar if she wants him to agree to her every whim.
* Dropping the wedding ring, the veil, or the arrhae during the ceremony spells unhappiness for the couple.
* The member of the couple stands first after the ceremony, will die ahead of the other.
* A bride who cries during the wedding will bring bad luck to the marriage.
* It is bad omen for the newlywed couple if their parents cry during the wedding.
* Upon entering their new home, the couple should go up the stairs alongside each other so that neither one will dominate the other.
* An unwed girl who follows the footprints of a newlywed couple will marry soon.
* A person who habitually sits at the head of the table during meals will never marry.
source of references;http://en.wikipilipinas.org/index.php?title=Philippine_Beliefs_and_Superstitions
[b]How about you, Do you have superstitious beliefs before wedding in your own country?{b/]
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11 responses
@bingchen (1119)
• China
16 Aug 09
although somebody said the world change quickly and people understand something more clearly,but this thing happened at wedding or marriage,for example,parents can select good day to marry and often find taoist who can tell you the good time to fit for wedding and tell you about their marriage and births fit for and why to
avoid bad thing happen,and so on.this thing often happended in my life,i hope that something can change that thing,but this need more people realize that real life and reality and use science to discover the superstition and let more people know the reality.
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
Yeah, that is true reality differs from superstitious beliefs. Sometimes because of too much thinking of the traditions we could not really think about self planning and have to consult elders in which many young people misunderstood. They want to decide for their own wedding with their own choice to select the day and partner. But, parents and other people middle which is annoying things when both partner is caught in between their parents. Wanting not to hurt their parents or disobey religious rites we follow it.
As were really fear for disobedience on this beliefs may have effects on couple lives. That is why it is retain to makes the couple aware of the consequences of misfortunes may follow them. But, somehow,it is not true as many beliefs lead to confusion and mistrust, when one partner disagree to the agreement as set by their respective families.
@snbutterfly (259)
• United States
16 Aug 09
If you get divorced then you go to hell,
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
ha..ha..ha..that is very funny,but somehow if the husband and wife engaged in adultery and too much infidelity it causes troubles. Thus,, the feeling is like living in hell!
@jezzmay (1845)
• United States
15 Aug 09
The ones I know, are the groom should not
see the bride in her wedding dress before
the wedding this will bring bad luck. The
groom carries the bride in the door of
their home. I do not know what this means.
Have a blessed day.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
That is the same things with the cultures and practices in my country. And, the carrying of the brides is done by the husband to his brides on their way to the honeymoon room.
@thea09 (18305)
• Greece
15 Aug 09
Hi neelianoscet, this is definitely more an old tradtion rather than a superstition or belief but is neverthless true and would make every bride out there squirm in her shoes. Here goes - in Greek tradition the bride would spend her wedding night sharing the bed with her new mother in law. This was meant to show her compliance and acknowledge who was now definitely boss in the house, and it wasn't the groom. Quite the case of marry me, marry my mother, and we'll all live happily as long as mother in law gets her way in everything. True.
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
That is quick way to get closer to a mother in law and that is to make compliments every now and then, not only on the night before the wedding for the rest of the couple lives as this a test of how well she deal with her husband relatives. This is also a practice in my country but constant meddling by the mother in law sometimes contributes to couple misunderstanding especially when the couple lives on the same place with the mother in law around.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
15 Aug 09
there are only few supersitions that i know of. one, you shouldn't see your hubby within three days before the ceremony.second, don't wear your gown before the marriage itself, it's been considered as a complete bad omen..1 person likes this
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
Some beliefs are misleading and tend to confuse every couples who believe on it. Even in this modern age, many still follow it and even consult some feng shui master for their lucky day to get married..It is up for couples to follow it and nothing harm will happen if they try it..
@Talravean (46)
• Malaysia
15 Aug 09
Well, I can only remember one at the moment...
+ Anyone who wanders around while eating (snacking or a meal, whichever) will get married numerous times (polygamy isn't illegal here).
I think it's funny and do it on purpose in front of my grandmother just to see her twitching brow. XD.
~k~
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
That is very funny, as many superstitious beliefs are not really applicable in real life but is retain to added a humor to a wedding/marriages and serves as a guide for couples to become loyal,faithful with each others.
@rameshkumaar57 (5908)
• India
15 Aug 09
Hi there neelianoscet, the most important supeerstitious belief in my country is before marriage or the engagement, both the bride and the bridegrooms horoscope is matched.For this, the horoscopes are exchanged and There are astrologers for this, and both the parents of the bride and the groom go to them, and after these astrologers say that both the horoscopes match, only then the engagements takes place.
Some times,when the horoscopes are exchanged, just by looking at ones horoscope, some people reject the bride or the groom.There are so many like this.Some like throwing rice confetti on the newly weds as well as not giving a knife or a sharp pointed instrument is common in India also.
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
Somehow their are similarities with your cultures with my country beliefs. My parents too share the same horoscopes they are the same in terms of the western zodiac. But, it is not their first things they notice to each other when they decides to be sweetheart and when they decides to get married. It falls like a coincidence. But, some people says if they are both the same signs they are likely more compatible also with their likes and dislikes.
@ongtina (1232)
• Singapore
15 Aug 09
Besides those that you mentioned, there's also the combing of hair of the to-be-married by their own respective parents at their own respective houses the night/morning before the marriage at the SAME arranged auspicious time. To-be-married couples are not to see each other the day before marriage.
The things that are placed in the new wedding room before marriage have small red paper cuttings placed together for good luck. The new basin and spittoon should not remain covered after the wedding night or the new couple will not have offspring.
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
All beliefs are traditional things that are pass by our ancestors and they believe that some rituals are necessary to make a couple live in prosperity. if they fail to follow it, some misfortunes proceed and even the marriage life is affected. in order not to invite bad luck, many couples follow it, and nothing harm will happen to you in case you try to follow the old traditions.
@my_name_is_coco (4333)
• Philippines
15 Aug 09
I only think of two popular beliefs.one is don't give a bride a pearl accessory (earrings,necklace,bracelet).pearls look like tears and it will make the bride unhappy and cry all throughout the marriage.second is when a single woman catches the bride's bouquet.she will get married next.
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
The next things you mention, many ladies in my country believe on that bouquet throwing and many participate to join to catch it, and in some funny scenario all the ladies grab it that the bouquet is destroy. That is why when my Uncle got married the bouquet is split into many pieces and all the ladies got one bouquet and they all happy..They believe that if you never got it, in every wedding attended by single ladies they are bound to live as a spinster and even the grooms have the girdle thrown and then whoever male catch it they are going to choose the available single ladies to wear it..
@pushkin69 (546)
•
15 Aug 09
hello there. Your discussion about marriage superstitions shows so many things being unlucky and controlling that it must be an incredibly difficult and stressful time if you believe in them. You must be constantly worried about not doing anything to affect the balance and harmony in the relationship! Lucky for me I dont believe in superstitions as I cried all through my wedding as did my partner, and my mum!
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
It is really funny but this really the beliefs of the earlier ancestors in my country. Some are no longer applicable in this modern times. But, the remaining few family still believes on it. they think of it as some precaution and as a guide but not really have it to rule your mind. Some are funny but have relevant explanation in some cases.
@rudynahcapone (50)
• United States
15 Aug 09
You don't engage yourself intimately with your partner unless you are married already. Pre-marital intimacy is a huge deal but I think that notion has vanished gradually as young people are more exposed to the negative energies of life. In weddings, releasing white doves is a promise of propsperity and peace. For a bride to "have something new, old, blue and borrowed" is still being practiced in Philippine weddings. For the groom to see the bride wearing her wedding dress before the ceremony is a sign of bad luck. It has become part of our culture and I think the rest of world believes that.
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