Why Do People Care What Other People Think Of Them

What a discussion! I was amazed when I saw this and I am sure you are a male. You will know why I was surprised when you read the next few lines. I called my husband and read out this discusson topic and he asked me immediately[as such I was smiling in surprise] 'Oh ! Have I written this?' --So you are not alone thinking this way. But let me tell you one thing and the reason why people worry about what other people think about them--mostly it would be females and even in the case of males who think this way-- the fact is that they are social creatures and are conscious of their image. THey may have anything within their minds but they are also fettered by the so called norms that society has thrust upon them.THese people may say a number of things but they would also get their own way [in many cases].They would utter these nice words because they aRE 'POLITICALLY' correct.It may be that you are also like my husband [ slight loners ]and you do not need to talk and mingle with too many people .You won't get in the way of others but you cannot tolerate meaningless talk.Women and some others are made in different ways and they need to be accepted in society to carry on their conversations and mingling with others.They also need company[this is froma personal point of view thta women need company and they need to tak]That is why we behave this way.

For me, it is simply that because people live in society. I imagine if I live alone in the forest and no one would see me or interact with me, I would never care about what people would think about me. No one would care of what I would wear, never care about what I would say, because no one actually around me. But when you are in the society, especially if you are a member of a community you would care a lot about what people, especially people in the same community, would think about you.

Hey, Well many people in the world don't want to be perceived as a 'loser' and that is why they care about what other people think. Some people live for others, rather than living for themselves which is in a way wrong. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!

I try not to, but it not easy. I need help from people and if I don't care or don't bother, they will alienated me and do not want to help me. There are things I will listen and bother, but if I think they are wrong, I will just ignore. If i consistently obey, it hurt me. Recently I found out that my co-worker actually make fun of the way I'm walk, and I'm hurt. But then I think, this thing will not bring me down, in fact, that person just lose his opportunity for me to help him as he is in deep problem, This act has shown to me that he has no respect for people and I should not help this kind of person.

I think it is natural for people to notice what others think about them as since we all have to relate to other in society. I don't think it is a bad thing in itself because it helps us to know how to treat other people and be sensitive to their feelings. Where it becomes a problem is when we allow what other people think to govern how we act all the time or what we think about ourselves. We have to love our own selves enough to still be who we are even if others do not like us as long as what we do does not intentionally hurt them.

Hi Artguy, Ever heard about the saying "no man is an island"? Indeed, nobody can live alone (except perhaps for hermits). People care about what others say because whether we like it or not we are a part of a society and every society has a set of socially accepted norms wherein each member is expected to behave in order to have a civil and sane environment. When one is mindful of what others say about him/her, it's because he feeds a certain need, and that's the need to belong, to be a part of. We try our best to blend in the society, yet it is important to be true to ourselves and be what or who we truly are. We care about what others say because they are a part of our lives, and we care about them, and we don't want to hurt them or cause them pain because of our misdoings.

hi artguy I used to as A child but as An Adult I realized that most people are so into themselves they could care less about anyone else. that being the case, why worry what they thought of me as long as I respected myself and my parents and friends respected and liked me.I try to be a kind, loving compassionate person And live by the golden rule,do unto others as you would have them do unto you. this really does work. I sometimes do mAke allowances for someone who is crabby if they 'are ill As I spent most of my adult life working as a nurses aid.

I used to care/worry about what people used to think off me when i was a lot younger,but now as i have got older i just do not care as long as i and my family are ok that is all that really matters to me.The way i look at it is that while they are talking about me they are leaving others alone.

People who care about what other people think of them are just regular people. They want to get a mate and want to think about what to wear, what to do not to embarass themselves, etc. But seriously, if we all didn't care, why would clothes be bought? Why can't we all just wear uniforms? Well clothes represent your own style and they hope that the girl he likes would like it too. Some people don't care about it that much, but in this world, it's all ego and your "reputation". Like for example, you come to school with a white tee shirt with food coloring all over from your noodles you ate for breakfast or something. If someone found out, it would be embarassing and this is one of the reasons why we care. If we all didn't care, then embarassment would never happen I guess.

Actually,we live in civilized society.From very begining we have seen the comparision and hence we have embossed in our minds that who is what and why.Typically,we don't care of those whome we don't know.But about concerned or surrounded people everybody will have some eagerness about their image.

Great post, and yes I care what people think about me, if more people cared about what others though they would think twice before they say or do stupid things, what is wrong with people having a good opinion about the man/woman you are, I watch people all the time say and do some of the dumbest things imaginable all because they could care less what people think of them, so at work do you not care what your boss or co-workers think of you? I feel if more cared what others thought of them things would be a little better, so many people have that I don't care attitude I care and will always care, they don't know I care they just know I am different from the rest and guest why that is, I care.