Is it possible to be aware of being sub-consciously disturbed?

Malaysia
August 16, 2009 11:56am CST
I was just wondering... They say that someone who is capable of questioning their sanity is obviously not insane. What if someone was abused when young (just something light, not even terribly scarring) but got out of it thinking they are fine, but wondering sometimes if they aren't because there are certain things about themselves that aren't 'normal'? Is that possible at all?? I mean, like, for example, a girl is fondled by her cousin twice (not heavily) when she was young, but the fondling was just playful and they both grew up to be friends or whatever. Despite the fact that she grew up fine (her cousin, too), would the fondling affect her? Would finding out the fact that their fondling wasn't as innocent as they thought cause any harm to her mentality? And would her questioning if she was bothered by it be a possible sign that she was? I mean, she knows, but she doesn't care. Would the 'abuse' still be, well, abusive? Just wondering, really. I've an affinity for questions like this. =D. CAN someone be consciously aware of a sub-conscious fear? ~K~
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sritrinity
@sritrinity (629)
• India
16 Aug 09
I think that type of fondling just makes us alittle more wise, that lust is something which exists and can rear it's head at any time Regard 'not being as innocent as they thought"..would cause some discomfort/shame even but mistakes happen when people are young, it's a growing phase and lust is a natural part of our body and existence, the thing is to understand that, and not give oneself a hard time, but find a method which can help control one's lust so as not to carried away again. When people are young all sorts of things go on and at the age we don't have enough of a developed consciousness to decipher what where and why, so it's only heading into such situations that bring home to us the futility of being in charge of your senses rather than the other way around. When people are young they are carefree and don't think so much when they jump. But with age perspectives change. Also I'm not sure what you exactly mean by 'as innocent as they thought'...you will need to elaborate on that one. Abuse is always abusive...but there are degrees of abuse....some worse than others...the thing is to realize is not to be victimized by it and use it as a learning experience. Yes i think it is possible to be consciously aware of subconscious fear...if one questions oneself at the time....if we look inside....it can be tangibly felt. I believe some fear is always healthy....a healthy amount...keeps on our toes....and alert.....abit of adrenaline.....it's needed in this day and age when we meet people....as we get to know these people then are fear recedes. You know also different people react to things so differently...it bothers some and others not....and sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn't... But I think the thing is to forgive, learn, and just be aware that lust makes people do funny things...and people can be a bit wayward perhaps immature to the implications... Anyway I'm sorry if this has been a lame answer, it was abit difficult not knowing all the facts etc.
sritrinity
@sritrinity (629)
• India
16 Aug 09
sorry, I used the wrong word..cross 'futility' out put 'importance' there instead.
sritrinity
@sritrinity (629)
• India
17 Aug 09
2) If the abuse is just something that it being imitated by young ones because of 'its what they think people do'....then it's kind of innocent....the INTENTION is not exactly cruel.....i think the key thing is intention here....one has to look at the intention behind the abuse......so some people abuse because they want to manipulate, dominate, intimidate, possess, harm etc.....there's malice in it....and they fully know what the implications are. But kids....don't really know what they're doing....it's just kind of fun, an experiment and in the case you said above kind of pretending to be adult....there's no malice in it....the intention is quite light hearted/innocent in comparison. 4) It's definitely possible to be conscious of the subconscious at deeper reflection. This is what counselling is all about. I've had some counselling in my day, and the thing is to consciously look at what you are doing and why.....you identify the trigger.......and then re address the reaction.....and then make a conscious effort to break out of the pattern....well at least be aware of why you are feeling what you are.....it's the first step.....then one can change their reaction to the trigger. This is also what meditation helps to do. I remember as a kid (we used to meditate alot) it's one of things that would happen automatically...you kind of enter into a more relaxed space where you can be in on the cusp of the subconscious and the conscious....so you're conscious enough to remember what you are 'seeing'....and be in the subconscious enough to see 'what it's saying' "Your subconscious or reptilian mind can INFORM the conscious mind of the things such as hunger and fear." see http//wiki,answers.com/Q/How_does_the_conscious_and_subconscious_mind_work_together also see http//www.eruptingmind.com/reptilian-brain-road-rage/ Hope this helps abit
Talravean
@Talravean (46)
• Malaysia
17 Aug 09
4- Yes, actually, that's very helpful. =D. And even though I don't really trust wikipedia, sometimes it's a resourceful site from people all over. And this makes sense, kinda... I get it. Bing consciously aware of something subconscious, I mean. Thanks, sri! =D. Also, I myself have never had counseling before, and what you said about it is quite interesting... ~K~