What are the qualifications of a person for you to be considered bestfriend?
By underdogy
@underdogy (700)
Thailand
August 16, 2009 1:11pm CST
We have not so close and too close friends. I just wonder about people having best friend. Do you look for qualifications? If yes, what are those? If no, why?
6 responses
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
i do not look for any qualification but i pick up a good friend not a bad company.i still do not have a best friend right now but i consider my bf to be my bestfriend too because of many qualities he had.
@underdogy (700)
• Thailand
16 Sep 09
Of course--picking up friends is our choice..May it be bad or good friends, but still a choice. I just wonder who are in their right mind to choose bad company? hehe.
Indeed..our partner can be our bestfriend. Since most of the time you are together--you just not starting to get to know your partner as partner--but as a friend as well.
@kriscie_crazy (12)
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
There are no such qualifications in finding or having your best friend. It doesn't matter how long you knew each other. Just as long as you get a long with each other well and that you share a lot of things in common well i guess that would be a consideration. But sometimes, this can be deceiving so better ask yourself if that certain person would be fit enough to be your best friend. It is only you who can answer that.
@underdogy (700)
• Thailand
21 Aug 09
What if you feel that this particular person fits to be your best friend yet he doesn't feel the same towards you? How would you feel? For me it's okay, I didn't ask him to be my best friend anyway, right? What's your idea on that?
@kriscie_crazy (12)
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
Well that's a complicated one. but then again, just like you, it'll be okey with me. you're right i didn't ask him/her to my best friend. It just happened... after all, you can't blame anyone. Perhaps you just have to consider the things that might be best for both of you.... I mean, it'll be very awkward knowing that the person that you taught is your best friend doesn't treat you like one. Now it's complicated...ei?
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
16 Aug 09
It's not qualification i guess.It's the chemistry and feelings that matters most.
We don't choose a person to be our bestfriend in random.We had long time friend that never become our bestfriend,but,there are is a person that just come in our lives for not so long ago,but,we had this feeling of comfort,that we feel at ease to say everything in our minds.
There is this undefined feeling that we can't explain why we become close to this person eventhu we just known him/her.
We can say i want a friend who is honest,understanding,broad minded,caring,and so on and on,but "WE" ourselves cannot be as honest and understanding or broad minded and caring like him/her.
Each individual being had lots of differences,and we had our bestfriend's characters that is different from us.And i think that makes the relationship between bestfriends makes it stronger.
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
17 Aug 09
True, we shouldn't choose a friend by looking at his qualification. It's unfair to say that a person who holds a degree is a better friend than one who completes high school. Anyone regardless of race, family background, social economic status and qualification can be our friends. As long as you could get along with them, they'll always be your friend.
@underdogy (700)
• Thailand
10 Jan 10
Exactly..I couldn't agree more with you two. Anyhow, so sorry for the late reply. Was a newbie before that i didn't comment back after getting a comment from my posted discussion. I appreciate your shared idea here. Indeed, that people should not look for any qualification or whatever of some sort to a friend. No matter how bad a person is, that doesn't mean they can never be a good friend.
@shantha_45 (332)
• India
16 Aug 09
Hello mylotter.
I dont think we can have many best friends.
One good friend is equal to many acquaintances.
In my idea a best friend is one who will be
with you through ups and downs. One who is
ready to support you without you having to ask for it.
Mainly the mental wavelength between the two
maintains good friendship and makes it
everlasting
@anuthebeginner (17)
• India
17 Aug 09
Hi underdogy,
Basically there are no such rules. It is the feelings that we feel someone very close to us. It is the situations that make best friends. If we think she/he wil be my best friend on a moarning, it cant be. first of all we have to minkle with them, know their goods and false,etc then gradually they become our best friends if you be able to adjust with them. we will expect something from our friends, but it is not compulsory. someone will think they want to be happy with their friends, like that...
But of course a friend is one who knows your tear even when you are walking in heavy rain..
Think you will get such a nice friend very soon.
@underdogy (700)
• Thailand
10 Jan 10
" a friend is the one who knows your tear even when you are walking in heavy rain"--This line moved me. Like isn't strong a word so love would surely fit. I love this line really. How can a person identify your tear when you walk in heavy rain? Perhaps apart from family, friends or best friend can also identify it. Of course we are not taking it literally. I appreciate this line.. Why i was so late in commenting back? haha
@Cheiyen (317)
• Philippines
9 Jan 10
Personally, I consider someone my bestfriend because our friendship has been tested all through the years. They're not a lot. Your lucky to have one or two. Sometimes people who claim you as their bestfriend are not really the one you consider bestfriend because you don't view your friendship in the same way.
However, I had a sad experience with someone who calls me her bestfriend. She loaned me some money and it was the reason why we're not talking anymore. I wonder how could she lie to me and our other friend she also called bestfriend. I know nobody is perfect but I believe that a BESTFRIEND is with you no matter what happens.
@underdogy (700)
• Thailand
10 Jan 10
That's a sad story. I wonder who that was (the self proclaimed bestfriend of yours) LOL.. I agree with you that real friends or bestfriends for that matter can be counted. Lucky are the people who have one or two. Peoples view about anything under the sun can be the opposite of yours. It takes one to know one as the saying goes. . In your case, it was one sided because she considered you as her bestfriend probably because she was into something LOL. Perhaps it was about the money? I guess the only thing we can guarantee is that bestfriend will surely go beyond and above to help us, protect us and be the best person we could possibly be without expecting anything in return. Happy mylotting Ate Cheiyen. I hope to see you here more often. Nice place to hang out, very informative aside from the fact that we can get help from people from different walks of life.
