Destiny?!

well, i don't know..it depends on the person whether he wants to wait for the one he loves or he makes his own destiny and choose it for him. sometimes both actually worked. for me, am just waiting for that person, if she comes by the way.

I had been in love before with a man that started out as my friend. Things were very good between us and I thought that we to would end up getting married and living happily ever after. That didn't happen unfortunately. I have, after many years met this man. We met over 3 years ago and began dating about 1-1/2 years ago and have since moved in together. I have found that I have fallen in love with him but unfortunately he is to afraid to let himself get close to any woman as he has been burned by too many other women in his past. When I first slipped up and told him I had fallen in love with him, well, let's just say that everything changed from that day forward. He told me at that time that he didn't feel the same way for me. It hurt. I had thought from his actions and things he had said to me that he had possibly fallen in love with me also. I may be a fool according to some, ok many, people; but I do love this man. He has all of the qualities I have every looked for in a partner, but after that day I have wondered if this relationship will ever go any further or if I am just wasting my time. I do feel that he was part of my destiny but don't know what I should do. He has stated that he has trust issues with regards to women as they have cheated on him in the past. He states that he trusts me with his children, his money, his property & his life, but doesn't trust me completely. He says that he is afraid that, in a vulnerable state that there is that chance that I could cheat on him. I am a very faithful, loving, caring, honest & trusting individual so cheating is not even a thought in my mind. How do I make him see this? I have been with him through thick and thin and believe me he has definately come with some major baggage, yet I have always been there for him and been right there beside him through everything. Should I just keep letting things go day by day and hope that someday he will realize how important I am to him or finally let his guard down and let himself love me or should I end the relationship before it goes any further for my sake, his sake and the sake of our individual children? I am just at a loss at to what to do. Any help or suggestions with this would be greatly appreciated. Thank you to all who read and respond.

If you have gone to school or collages , applying the educations in work place may be your destiny. If you have not listened teachers,lectures,educators from others, and you have learned cooking self. Then if you will think of destiny , it will give you pain. It is good to think that , I am not the right man to know about destiny. All educations may not be suitable for me. I will believe only those education, which I can apply in my day to day life. Thanks

Well, 1st of all... in relationship, you really don't know what is your destiny.. Only destiny knows when it going to catch you. It happened with me number of time, when i met some girl and thought of same. But i knew until its not the end, i can't be sure. And same thing happened.. I marry to a girl to whom i never met before, never seen in my life.. and from no where she become my final destiny.. and now my this chapter is closed.. i don't care how many girls try to come close to me, i find many beautiful girls around me.. good friends.. when you close the chapter, then nothing can change your mind.. It called destiny achieved and chapter closed :) now i have time to concentrate on other things like my career, my family etc.. .

If you are not fated to be together then it is not your destiny. You may have to kiss many toads before you meet your prince charming!

I think it can be, I was with someone that I thought would be with me forever, i took him for granted and got a little too comfortable and lost him, the fact that you two found your way back to each other could be called destiny in my opinion,I wish the two of you the best, don't take each other for granted keep the relationship exiting, you will be fine.

I think there is someone for everyone and it is not always who we think it is. We need to realize that who we are and how we love is because of what we have went through in our life. Maybe the old relationship was to prepare you for the joy you have now. We need to know what love isn't to know what love is when we find it.

When I was a young child I was not in the most loving environment. So I wasn't very happy overall as a child. Sometimes then I would have the same dream over the years where I was getting on an elevator (strange dream because in the rural area where I grew up there were no elevators in stores then or any of the small office buildings in town). All these people in the dream would get off the elevator except one. It was a man, I always thought of him as "that younger man" in the dream. He wouldn't step out of the elevator, but I always had such a good feeling about him I always loved that simple dream, even though I could never understand why I had it or what it could mean. I had that dream off and on until I was about ten years old, then it stopped around then I think. Years later, when I was around 22 or so, I thought I was madly in love with this guy, and I thought he was madly in love with me. We talked about getting married and one day he asked me to go help him pick out living room furniture for a new house he was thinking of buying. I was on cloud 9, until I found out a week later that he was engaged to someone else and he was buying the house, and the furniture, for her. Long story short, a couple of years later I met another man but I refused to go out with him at first because he was four years younger than me. So we just became good friends for a year or so. Then one day, his new date stood him up, so we went out to dinner. He then said he was tired of dating others he didn't really care for, that he'd always wanted to date me and asked if I wouldn't just give him a chance. So we went out on a few dates and I started liking him more and more...and now we've been married 31 years and counting. I always think he must have been that "younger man" I used to dream about when I was a little girl, the elevator dream that always left me with such a good feeling. So yea, I believe in destiny. Oh, as for the weasel who had me help him pick out furniture, that marriage of his lasted about 2 years and he's since been married several times. Last I heard he's single again. I'm glad I didn't end up being one of his many wives along the way after all.

I think rather we reach destiny ,destiny reach us appropriately.Actually life is a journey where we have many stations to halt and to meet many people we hate or adore we learn many lessons from each one of them."there is a saying Love the one who adore us than we do" .

I definitely believe that things happen for a reason. I think that each person could be compatible with more than one other person but that through experiences and change our potential partners change. I believe that God won't give us something we can't handle, and if men and women are supposed to be together then there sure is someone for everyone, but like everything with God when you'll meet only he knows.

i guess i cant really answer that question... some time yes some times no somethings just dont work out so i guess yes and no

Yes.. Its destiny. You lost him because something was better was waiting for you.. god bless.. :D :D