Fear of pregnancy?

hi junkbondtrader no I think you should not worry about 'getting pregnAnt as you dont sound much like good mother'material actually hAving bavies isnt allthat bad but if you think you would look repulsive to your mate because your body willchange'thenyou Are pretty shallow And image caring. A good mom is not shallow and she'does not think of her bloody looks all day.she loves having children and being a family.you dont fear the p;ain you fear not looking picture perfect .most intelligent men Are far from being 'repulsed by a womans changing body only a shallow man who just marries for Arm candy would up upset.

This is my own opinion. I think if you have so much scare with pregnancy, perhaps you should go to find a psychiatrist. If you let this problem, or this afraid feeling remains in your mind, i'm afraid it could become a traumatic to yourself, especially emotionally traumatic. And it's really bad for you and your future husband. So since you both have marriage plan, you should prepare it with your best and don't dissapointing anyone especially your family and your new family. Happy mylotting.

you shouldnt have kids!

I myself do not have a fear of pregnancy. I mean yea, the thoughts of it can be scary because your body does go through a lot of changes and it is painful, but in the end it will all be worth it. If you're really unsure about having children and it really does scare you , I definitely think this is something you should share with your significant other.

I've been pregnant 3 times and I have 2 children from those pregnancies. At first I was afraid of being pregnant for fear that putting on weight and watching my body change would be a big turnoff for my husband. However, once I was pregnant with my daughter, I found that all of my fears were irrational. I felt very attractive to myself while I was pregnant and my husband found me to be very attractive as well. For me it was the fact that there was another life within me growing and developing. For my husband, it was that my normally curvy body became more so while I was pregnant. So, no, you are not weird for being afraid of pregnancy. But, if you are ever pregnant you may find that you will be pleasantly surprised.

I feel the same way you do. I don't particularly find myself attractive now. If I ever got pregnant I'd be mortified. I don't think my body can handle those types of changes, my body doesn't adjust well. My boyfriend and I have spoken of what my options are if I did get pregnant. If he didn't say he wanted to know if I got pregnant I'm sure I wouldn't tell him that it happened at all. Thankfully I am on birth control and I take it religiously so I don't expect any surprises.

I have been married for two years now and my husband and I have been thinking about having a child next year. I openly told my husband about my fear of labor and giving birth. I think being afraid is normal that's why i can say that mothers are one of the most courageous people in the world. And the joy of being able to be a vessel of life is something that you we will always cherish. Even though I am afraid, I am also positive that a child would make our marriage life complete and just like what my husband said, it would be his greatest gift from me. My husband is very understanding though, telling me he would wait until i become ready for pregnancy. I am happy and i'm going for it.

i'm male and i fear pregnancy although many women i know want to be pregnant! even if they are not married! maybe it's the instinctive desire for children.

I can be sure about one thing that not everyone would become less attractive when or after she is pregnant. Many womem recover very well and they look like just very young girls after the delivery. So i think what you are worring about is not necessary. Besides when you have delivered a baby and see his or her face you will feel all are worthy , really. Babies are so cute that you can forget anything.

hi junkbond... i am a mother... and since i have been through pregnancy...i turly believe it is best to get pregnant when you feel you are really ready for it... there are fears that comes along with being pregnant...and the physical changes are real... but these are the things you have to accept if you are pregnant...and if your partner truly loves you he won't change even if you gain a little weight, or look a little bloated... do it when you are really up to it... it's has to be your choice......

it's a natural thing to be scared, the idea about giving birth is pretty scary but not until you are put in that situation. i just gave birth last january and i was pretty scared too at first when i found out that i was pregnant because of the idea i have in giving birth which is feeling so much pain but when i was nearing 9 months of pregnancy it all changed. i was getting more and more excited up until i gave birth. the excitement overcome my fear of feeling the pain. i don't even remember feeling pain at all, it was all excitement and happiness. bout the weight gained during pregnancy and all the changes in your body it will eventually go back to pre-pregnancy state. you just have to control your diet and follow your ob's advise. ^_^

I don't find pregnancy scary at all but I can understand where you are coming from. The only thing that really scares me is the idea of going into labor and dealing with the actual giving birth part. But what may help you deal with this fear is instead of just thinking about all of the weight you would be gaining, try and see it has something beautiful. Because carrying a baby is beautiful. If you think about it, you wouldn't be gaining weight because you are unhealthy or eating horribly, it would be because you would have a baby being created inside of you. And as for what your partner would think, if he really truly loved you, he would most likely find you still just as beautiful. I know my boyfriend and I have discussed the possibility of me becoming pregnant and he's told me before that he would start holding me more from behind, just so he could wrap his arms around my waste to feel my stomach. So I think guys find their partners even more beautiful while pregnant. I hope that helped a bit. But I'm sure their are plenty of women who feel the same way you do.