Can you wait in vain?
@incredibleDNA (1742)
Philippines
August 23, 2009 10:41pm CST
My friend and I have just talked about her boy friend. The boy friend is not working but helps with their business and my friend is really really eager to get married and have kids. But the problem is, the guy is really not that stable financially.
If you are the girl and you got a stable job, and do want to be married and have kids; yet your boyfriend does not have a job, are you willing to wait in vain?
4 responses
@vcha_23 (110)
• Philippines
24 Aug 09
she should ask her boyfriend what does he really want to do with his life and what are his plans and what will he do to make his dreams real.
@incredibleDNA (1742)
• Philippines
26 Aug 09
she keeps on asking her guy, but she's always getting the same answer. the guy is always telling her that he has plans for both of them and those plans will be put into action pretty soon. but my friend has been hearing this for 5 years already.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
24 Aug 09
If I am looking at this issue as a thrid person, I will say like a philosopher or pshycatrist it is not a wise decision to marry the boy since he doesn't have a good or stable job. But, if I put myself in the shoes of your friend, I will marry him if I really love him so much and I have a stable job and if I am ready to wait for him to get a stable job and if I am sure that I can run the family with my job.
@incredibleDNA (1742)
• Philippines
26 Aug 09
Yes, my friend feels that way. My friend is still trying to wait for his guy to get a good job for him to marry my friend. But my friend is so worry about her age, she's just 25 yet she thinks that she should get married and have kids soon.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
24 Aug 09
No one can tell what the future will bring, but house husbands are not to unusual these days and can work out very well. Love is hard to come by.
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
24 Aug 09
They key to this problem is communication. Ask that boyfriend if he wants to get married, and tell him you can't wait forever as you have the right to settle down and have a family too. He can't be selfish and keep you while depriving you of a chance to start a family. This, he has to be clear. You might be able to wait a few years - my friend waited 10 years before getting married - but it depends on your age, and whether you're willing to wait.
