Husband as a Homemaker - what's your view?

No, I rather be the one to stay at home to take care of the kids and do all the household chores. I based my answer on the personality I and my husband have. My husband had accepted the fact that he is really bad when it comes to managing the house and he prefers to provide the financial needs of the family. And I on the other hand has master the responsiblity around the house. But this doesn't mean that I disagree with you. I think it really depends on the personality of the person. Honestly, I admire you for being open in taking the role of a stay at home parent. This makes me think that you are gifted to do multitasking. I personally believe that being a stay at home parent needs a lot of focus since it needs a lot of things to accomplish in a day. This is a nice topic.

I Had raised this topic long back. Yes it would be fun if hubbys work at home. But with women given added freedom, i wonder how many men will have a peaceful time in the kitchen. I am told in Russia most women work in office while men work. SO this idea is not totally alein

How funny that you posted this today! I was flipping through the channels on tv this morning and there was nothing on. I ended up watching The Househusbands because I couldn't find anything else on! In these situations it seemed like the men resented being home and having to take care of things. The wives had to give them specific lists of what needed to be done and then check on them throughout the day to see if they were doing it. I don't know about you, but my husband never gives me a list of things to do. I just run errands and do what I need to around the house without being told to. I totally support a man that stays home if that is what the family wants to do. I think they can be excellent, caring parents for children. Men seem to play with children more so it would probably work out really well for the kids to have Dad at home. I'm just not sure they would be able to keep up with all the errand running and cleaning that needed to be done.

I am a woman and I do gladly accept a man who can handle the household chores anytime! What a breakthrough for me if I can be able to find such a man.. lol.. nowadays when it comes to building a marriage, there is no more "who is the man of the house" like our grandmothers' days. Both ladies and men alike, both are equally educated so if one opt to do manage the house, why not? I will gladly encourage him to...

I think they are not trained for it from childhood, as girls are, so they will do a shoddy job. U might find some dirty linen hidden somewhere which might be found accidentally by one of ur friends, and worse, children of ur friends. But seriously, I dont think it is all that wrong. If it is partnership, why not interchange the duties if need be. There are instances when some elderly person needs to be lifted and placed on wheel chair and stuff like that. If such is the situation, men would be better equipped to handle them. I am open to both. Sharing the duties at home would still remain the best option instead of confining anybody to become a homemaker.

I don't see anything wrong with it. Some women like it this way, as they like to have a career. One of my good friends' parents is in this type of situation. Her father is the homemaker while her mother works and brings in an income. In some cases the husband can't work. Maybe from a bad injury or disability and so the wife works. It's not right if the woman is forced into it, but if it's what they both want or how the work it out then I see no problem with it.

I don't really think that there is a problem if the husband stays at home, while the wife goes to work. Sure, for the moment, I'm the one staying at home with our daughter, while my husband goes to work, as that was the way it worked out in our case. However, if my husband wanted to stay at home, while I went to work, I wouldn't mind that. I don't see the problem either way.

Actually i just had this conversation with my fiance. I told him the economy is getting bad and i want to see what his opinion was on this. I have been working as a file clerk for two years. My fiance has been laid off for a year. I told him if he couldn't get a job soon that i would get a second job and let him be a stay at home dad. I will have to let you'll know how that goes. It makes me nervous though.

I don't want my husband to be a homemaker. If I want somebody to help me at home, I would rather appoint a servant. My husband is a very hard working person who is working as a lecturer with a university and also doing his research at same time. He is working for around 16 hours a day. I don't want also his work to go waste by sitting at home and taking care of the house and children.

Husband as a Homemaker is not suitable to the man. If he works as homemaker, then his wife is in totally losing the criteria of development of the family . I am not agreed with you.

I don't mind my partner choose to work at home but not stay at home and being the 'housewife'. The role of breadwinner can be divided but not totally under me alone. I can't support the family with my puny salary. Besides, I come from a place where a man should work, not to be supported. So it's hard for me to accept something like that.

I won't mind if I become the breadwinner and my husband stays at home to look after the kids. But I wouldn't want to be a stay-at-home mom. I still don't have kids, and when I finally have kids I would still want to work because I believe that it is essential to my freedom as a woman. It would be better if me and my husband would practice shared parenting. That way, both of us could still work and both of us get to take care of the kids.

I am a woman and I don't see how it should make any difference whether it is the husband or the wife who stays at home - especially when there are kids that need constant care. It goes against the traditional image, but things are changing so rapidly now that people are changing and learning to adapt as well. At a point of time, it could only be the woman who stayed home. But now, that is not necessarily the case. I have quite a few friends whose husbands either work from home or stay home to look after the children. In many cases, this is because the wife has a chance to bring in more money than the husband ever would - because of her education ro experience. So, whatever works, I guess.

I would have no problem with this, in fact it has temporarily been the arrangement as my other half was out of work for a couple of months making me the sole earner. He was fantastic, he did all the cleaning, made me breakafast in bed some days, made my lunch for work and had dinner ready when I got home. I would also come home to a candlelit bubble bath on some days, it was lovely! He has now found work so things are back to normal and we share the chores. I miss some of the pampering but he is quite traditional at heart and hated not earning himself, so is much happier to be back at work.

it's not a big deal to me my husband used to have his own house before he got married so he is capable of housechores and repairs if I can earn more than enough to pay bills why should he work? he should help me instead pick up the kids etc

being a homemaker, it's has not been label just for woman.. I have a few friends that are staying at home dad, or hubs.. these group of man is such a caring bunch that they will be able to cook, care and clean the house while enjoying the fatherhood with the children. IN the other hand, my friend works, and the reason they come to this conclusion is, the wife has a better pay job, and they wanted someone, either the hub or wife to be at home to care for the child. And I would say all this are based on the mentality of the society and nothing wrong for being a hub staying at home.. if this is a way of getting things in the best of world, why not..

To be a home maker is not a bad thing at all. It would actually depend on what you do for your family and what drives you as a person. My godmother's husband is a Homemaker. He is the one who stays with the kids while my godmother does the hard work. Because she has already made a stable income that can supply for the demand of her family. My uncle, however, does some internet or computer-based job so that he could also earn money. Their relationship is stable and happy and no worries at all. I guess, the thing that hinders most men to not accept the "Homemaker" title would be their ego. Men with big ego would always prefer to be better than women. Though i am not saying that Homemaker men has no ego at all but they accept the fact that their wives are better or they can excel in other ways. I guess these men are more flexible and open-minded. Another example i could give is a friend of mine who lives in Guam. We brought up a conversation about this stuff months ago. He actually told me that he would prefer being the homemaker rather than spending his time outside and work. His statement actually surprised me but i guess, it would really depend on ourselves on what things we prefer.

To be honest, I have no idea how I exactly feel on this issue, I guess I am kind of double sided. I would love my husband to be home and spend a lot of time with the kids and get a big responsiblity over them, instead of it mostly being me, BUT I would feel really weird with me being the full time working parent and him not working what so ever to pay the bills lol.

i think its not important that who do the housework.its important that who have time to do it.the best way is to do it together

I find it admirable to see husbands who are doing their share of family chores. Wife needs all the help she can get. You have to look at the forte of each person. If the wife is more successful in having a career and the husband is more patient with the kids, prefers to tidy up and cook, then by all means - SWITCH PLACES. It takes 2 to tango!