I'm in LOVE with my BEST FRIEND....help!!!

Well, It does sound like he likes you, so you should tell him how you feel. Tell him it's confusing when he acts like your boyfriend, but really isn't... that may make it easier for him to understand. Don't let yourself fall too deep because we don't know for sure...but from your post it does sound like he has a thing for you. If I were you, I would invite him over (or go somewhere alone together) and talk about everything. Warn him in advance that you are wanting to talk, and if you feel comfortable you can even tell him what it is you want to talk about. Then it gives him time to prepare, and your true feelings will be out in the open. Then you both will be able to either put this behind you (probably not) or move forward with your relationship. Do remember that people don't really "ask" each other out anymore...instead we just "start" dating all of a sudden...so he may think you are dating already.

Best friends will definitely become great lovers. You're well adjusted to each other and even feel you're so compatible as no dull moments for you and less things you disagreed upon. You both understand each other as if not, you would not be best friends that long. The feelings of love from friendship is so easy to shift to as you'd been loving each other already as friends. I advise you to wait for him to do the move, he's the guy and am sure he's well aware of your feelings, should he won't at least you remain to be the best friends. My husband and I were best friends when he broke off with his girlfriend, he courted me saying, he overlooked me as he's greatest love, after two years we got married and have a happy family.

you have been friends with him for that long. did you see him do the same to other girls? you said he is a player, but even player falls in love. he is only human being, his ship can't sail away forever. now that you are in love this might be hard to do. but try to withdraw. don't go out with him that much. tell him you are busy or you have a problem you can't tell him about and need some time. do this for as long as you can. then see what happens. don't even tell your friends about what you are doing, so he will really be in the dark. but when your friends come over and talk about him, listen carefully. one of them might tell you something about his reaction all this time you are absent. you could be right, he is a player and his ship is still sailing away. but absence makes the heart grows ponder, let's see how much he misses you and how far he will go to meet you again.

I don't think you should be in love with a player, because some guys just can't control their urgers and feelings when they're around a lot of other girls, does he pay much attention to you? How does he feel about you? If i were you, i'd leave him alone.

I think that's how he does it with girls. be strong mariama. Let him reveal that, just hold on to your feelings there. it will go away in time. unless he admits it himself. you're a girl and should not tell him first. otherwise, you might faced rejection..It's better of being friends for now.

I Know its not easy, but you have to try don't loose this because you only find love once in you life, maybe you two were ment to be, and the only way to find out is to give it a try, I belive your best friend would make your best love coz all the secreat are well kept safe with him, and also he understands you better, well i dont suppose for two years his been hiding the person his really is. At the same time i must warn you to be very careful not to rush thing, you've say his is a player and he might as well play you, and am not sure how you are going to change this HABIT.

i don't see any problem at all since you like him and he likes you. the only problem is if he likes you and you don't like him.

what made you so sure that he does not likes you? i think what other people says made you feel convinced that he cared for you as if you were true lovers and made your feelings towards him bloom. i think he likes you and i think you knew it already. it's just that you were just scared of the fact that you might lose him just because you confessed to him your true feelings. if he's really that open minded i don't think he'll just turn you down after confessing everything especially that your relationship as friends is really that strong... :)

I would really do some serious thinking of how you really feel do you see a chance of him making it work since you said he is a player. There are many things to think about are you ready to lose him if it does not work. You said you slept together so there is already an attraction but there is so much more things. Sometimes a best friend can be the best lover more accepting. I had or have the similiar case I met mine about 14 years ago became real good friends at first there was nothing for I was in another relationship as we were all friends and I was pregnant at the time yet there was an attraction even then. We eventually started talking about 3 years into it. He was a player as was I also in all truth. Yet over the years we have grown we have also fought but as I said we have been doing this for 14 years. I do not know if we will ever get it right but I know for me he is my soul mate as I am his. He has given up many of his old ways and me I finally settled down but even then we have our friendship even when one of us goofs up we look at it with friendship eyes instead of lovers eyes. It takes a lot of work many times I have wanted to give up but I did not. We now have a daughter who is 9 soon to be 10 do I regret it never would I do it again always So do some thinking is this something you want or is it a passing fancy if it is lust get drunk with him a lot until you wear out your lust if it is for real talk to him and take a chance one can never know unless they seek the answers

By the way he acts towards you, I can tell as well as everyone can tell that he likes you too. He maybe denying it right now but I think the reason for that is that he may thought you`ll get hurt or you will feel betrayed when he reveals his own feelings. Maybe you ought to go with the flow for now and let him take the action out of it and maybe you`ll try showing him a little bit of your love so he`ll notice a little of your feelings for him and in turn he would have the guts to tell his feelings for your too. Good luck to you! Hope you`ll be together someday. I like your love story.

I guess you have to tell your bestfriend what you feel for him. He might not have the same feelings you have for him but atleast you know were you stand. and if that's the case just keep your friendship with him and move on with your feeling, maybe then, one worthy guy is just around the corner waiting for you.

Women! they just don't seem to understand. okay! lemme tell u a lil secret bout BOYS and MEN. They are Beings who don't seem to understand the true meaning of "LoVe" its the Physical thing that drives them and i am not ashamed to admit it... Of course Caring and being Possessive is another thing....its like when we get the Physical thing going on we're like the Alpha male of a wolf pack guarding the hot chick or the girl next door...Enough of that!! Frankly though!! i don't think its a good idea to say "yes" "yes" to all his approaches cus that way he'll be on to you for a very long time!!! Guys like them(ladies men) will totally hate to be rejected, i'd love to see the look on his face! let me tell you a story.. I had a best friend who actually was someone i liked alot...but i never got the chance to ask her out or tell her how i felt. We used to hangout a lot, at her place,coffee etc..then after a year or so, I had to go away for my studies, still we stayed in touch, kept calling each other alot, then one fine day she told me that she met someone really special.I said thats cool but still we kept in touch,and if there was a quarrel with his BF i was the first one she'd approach. it was really sickening!!After 2 years I met someone special, really special (still is), and i told me best friend bout her. One fine evening i asked my Best friend if we could spent some time together and while i was about to drop her off at her place, I just asked her if she would have gone out with me and i admited that i had like her alot 3 years ago. She was in tears, and told me that she was waiting for me to approach her and ask her out,cus she felt the same way back then. then I went all blank!! there you go. So its upto you, If you want to risk your friendship..thats okay cus everything GOOD just happens Once in a lifetime and make sure that u get it right the first time.All the best My Dear!!

Sounds like you have 'Teenage date syndrome'. Its not hard to get the correct answer out of him. Just ask him this: What Am I to you? everything will be cleared up. :D

tell your bestfriend your real feelings for him. be honest to him so that he will not get mad to you because maybe he also feel what you feel for him.

Do you know for sure that he doesn’t like you in a romantic way? You said that he has told you so but his actions seem to be saying that he does like you! It sounds as though this is a painful situation for you if he does not reciprocate the way you feel. There is not much you can do about it I guess. You may have to keep your distance from him until you get over what you are feeling if you can. Keep in mind that eventually you will meet someone else that will be available for you. Good luck!

From what you're saying in your paragraph sounds like you have to be careful, especially if he is really a player. Just do what makes you happy.

I think your best friend has a feeling also with you. All the things he does will shown that he is really like you and want his doing in caring for you. Don't worry about that my friend. Because he is also fall in love with you. He is just waiting for the right time to tell that he is in love with and he loves you that much... have a great day!

I think if you really really love your best friend, you should tell him... because you can keep it forever, besides... maybe mouth can lie but the eyes always tell the truth... You should tell him the truth, that you love him, it will effect your frienship (offcourse) but you'll never know is it getting worse or even it'll getting better... Or you could tell him that, "You just can't lie to yourself and wanted to be honest to yourself, that you love him. And that you can accept whether he love you or not, but you just trying to be honest... And if he doesnt feel the same with you, you still wanted to be his bestfriend like before..."

Hi mariama21 What to do,what to do? Well its done sense you said the two of you already hooked up, is he seeing other woman? if so then you know he is not ready to commit, I know guys like this myself most players are just that players, he may have a lot of love/respect for you, only you know how things are between the two of you, if he is not seeing anyone else and actually looks like there may be a chance he is ready to change then by all means go for it, but? if he is still being the player he was before you two started to show feelings for one another then save yourself some future heartache and just be friends.

wat happen is natural.justtell himu like him...maybe he can consider u as his girlfriend.As he know this far,he always can take u easily as his girlfrind...what to say....this is love...:)