Stealing - ever have a family member steal something from you?
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
United States
November 13, 2006 2:13pm CST
I had a close family member steal my jewelry. She took several rings and a couple of sets of my earrings. One set of earrings were the only ones I wore. I caught her wearing them! She had the kahonies to wear them in public! I believe I caught her offguard when I visited her at a time when I was usually in a class.
I demanded she return them. She did. I was banned from her house. But, that didn't stop me from going to visit them. I went even more often than before. That put a stop to her stealing from me.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
13 Nov 06
Lock your stuff up when he gets out, he may still be unable to control his need to steal.
@shellyrios (1212)
• United States
13 Nov 06
good for you! It is completely uncalled for when a close relative does that to you. It's hurtful and deceitful. I've just had family members not return things they've borrowed from me, and then I forget about the item until I go to look for it. I don't think I've ever experienced theft from them though.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
13 Nov 06
The funny thing is that when I found out about it, other people said that she had stolen from them too, but I was the only one to stand up and say something.
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
13 Nov 06
Yes, but if you shame them for stealing from you in the company of others they may stop.
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
15 Nov 06
Stealing in general is a bad thing, but stealing from relatives is worse.
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
13 Nov 06
I have immediate family members that when they come to visit I need to hide my pocketbook from.
@rusty2rusty (6763)
• Defiance, Ohio
14 Nov 06
Yes, I have had this problem several times.
The latest has been this past month in my own house. 3 times to be exact. the first time. I know my 8 yr old took it. He returned it. He said he took it so he would have money for lunch.
The second and third time, I don't know how exactly. But I have an idea.
Solution: Added a lock to my bedroom door.
Along time ago, I had a family member stay with me. I found out either her or her ex- boyfriend stole from me. Well, money from my kids bank.
So I threw all their clothes out that was just put in the washer and dryer (all were still wet) Outside all the porch and ground. I also threw everything they owned out on the lawn.
I found out where they were at. Went there and said the following: I am going to town. When I get back, my sons bike had better be at my house and you guys and crap had better be gone. I am giving you one hour. Or I am calling the police. Reporting the bike and money stolen. Your choice.
Needless to say, the bike was back. And that sister has never stolen from me again. That was 8 years ago.
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
15 Nov 06
Wow, good for you for standing up to her. It takes courage to stand up to a family member when they have done you wrong. They probably don't believe that anything would be said or done because they are family.
@rusty2rusty (6763)
• Defiance, Ohio
15 Nov 06
You are right. It is hard to stand up to a family member. BUt I will not put up with stealing. If you need something, ask for it. If I got it, I'll give it. But don't steal it. My family members know this. They also know if I find who stole from me. They had better be running. Stealing upsets me bad.
@nancygibson (3736)
• France
13 Nov 06
Sadly yes, one of my stepsons steals. Its very sad but we havent been able to stop him
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
13 Nov 06
Stealing can be addictive. I stole things from stores when I was younger. Somehow I broke myself of this very bad habit. My ex-husband's greataunt was a cleptomaniac. At 80 she still took things from other people in her nursing home.
