Do you call home

hi zhuhuifen46, I thin as a parents, we look forward for the calls from our children, and you are also setting up good examples to show your children what to do ya.. and since I am living with my mum, however we are all busy, but we will have a once a week, get together dinner, no matter how busy we all get on the weekend.

tarundrebellian, thanks for responding.. good to let our parents know where are we, and how are we doing ya.. it's always a good manners doing that too.. and yes, not making them worry is the least we can do as a child.

iskayz, oh.. so, your mum will call you hah.. If I were to wait for my mum to call me, the first question will no longer whether I am safe or not (since she can get hold of me, means I am safe right) and it will be 'how come didn't call home' So, to avoid being questioned, I will usually call once I touch down.. even some times while waiting for the luggage to be release! I will want to have a peaceful mind while on travel, but mind myself that even I let my mum know where I am going, she will still want to make sure my flight is safe, and she won't want to wait for the 'news at 8pm' to inform her if I have an accident or so (touch wood) So, since the flight schedule might change sometimes, we are to ensure we call home before the home call us..

Well my mom isn't like that. She doesn't get mad when I don't hurry up to call home after I've arrived. She knows there are still things that I need to do after arriving to my destination. She also knows that I am safe and I always tell them that and they need not to worry about me. It's not also that I just wait for her call. If I am free at once, I will call or text her. We understand each other that way.

glad you have that understanding between yourself and your mum.. should I send my mum to yours for a tuition?

med889, I think all our parents will love it when we have the tendency to call home, or let them know that we are safe.. this way, we not just save the worry, we will also safe some nagging too! Good for you, and enjoy your day.

cwong77, Last time when I do travel, I travel alot. Sometimes, my family even lost track of where am I! Since I am not living with them, they tend to not to realise too much if I am still in the country or out of country! And when I do call home from overseas, they'll be like.. "Oh yeah, you are not at home!" lol! The cons of being away too often!

submerryn.. good for you do call home and continue doing that ya.. I will still call home if I am on trip, but not on a daily basis, and it's very much depends on how long is my trip.. I have spend at least 14 days away in Europe, and during that time, I call home once every 4 days or when I start visiting other countries.. I just want to make sure that they will have a peaceful mind, while I travel in peace too..

submerryn.. that's true when we are not living with our family, they may have gotten use to our disappearance, and not that worry much of us.. just like while I was working abroad, my mum will not call unless I have not call home for a week maybe.. sometimes, a few days, she will just call and check on me.. Since I am staying with them, I will need to adhere to this rules of calling.. and lucky me that all my trips are major on business purposes and I can claim all my phone bills..

I totally agree with you, that being far away from our love ones and family members isn't easy..

rudynahcapone, yes I totally agree that the technologies have help us a lot in maintaining close intact family relationship with our family members.. and I am glad you call home via skype daily to ask about your folks.. My foiks are not that good in PC, therefore, I will use my mobile to call them and in the event I can't call them, then I will just SMS to inform them on my safety and also to ask where are they too...

Yeah, it's either I call them on Skype or cellphone. It depends...but ultimately, I stay in touch with all of them there. It's difficult when you are far from your loved ones.

sridharsahu, yes, the main purpose of calling home, is to ensure that we are not bringing unnecessary worries to our family members and being just a flex of our fingers, we are able to do that, then why not?

indahfth, thanks for the response.. good that you have always practise to give news to people who are at home, and this at least keep them at ease right? keep in up..

taztheone, not easy to be a only child ya.. and glad to hear that you do keep in touch with your parents daily... :)

joezon50, glad that you still doing that, and your mum is still around.. I hope she is in the pink of health... and good for you to grow up in a caring family and closely knitted... keep it up my dear friend, while you happy Mylotting..

Hi Iriene.. nice to travel with you family ya... I am on the other hand, normally travel on my own most of the time.. even when I am doing just Form 3, I have already started travelling on back pack, and my parents are all OK with it, since they know I will call home every now and then.. Sometimes, I will even get frust if I call home and no one answer.. and I get myself worry in return.. While I was working abroad, I will call home every 2 days, and go home visiting every month.. and once I work in a company that needs me to travel every weekend, I also will make call home once I touch down and before I leave again...in between, lots of call home too..

hi kev.. yes, I think the Asian culture has lots of 'home rules' that all parents practises.. but nowadays, I am making way for those really strict ones since we are all the busy bunch of people.. Making calls is something that we are not able to make a way for it, and no reason for unable to make calls since now with the convenience of mobile and also internet. I wonder how come some people still complain about it's hard to make a call home.. I will surely shoot my brothers if they don't call home to even inform me if they are coming or not coming back for dinner.. and yes, we should maintain this 'rules' in order to ensure we are a good example for our children in future too.. frankly, I hope my mum can live long enough to let my girl witness how I treat my mum, so she can have a good examples..

Gladia, it's my house rules too.. and if we did not call home, the next home will call and will start asking weird questions that we don't know how to answer! I would rather I call home, than home calling me instead.. anyway, both way I have to pay for the phone bills, and if I have to pay, I rather pay with a peace of mind that getting questions on why, how, what and blah blah blah..

hi genius_zelda, thanks for responding.. and hope you could implement this in your own family soon... well, independent is good, however if a call could minimise the worry, then why not..

cwong77, I sure do not fancy being on your receiving end. I do agree that it would be really irresponsible to let family members worry unnecessarily when we simply take things for granted by not keeping tabs with them when we are outside. Not forgetting the occasional waste of food. On the side note of keeping tabs when overseas, I will try to use the internet to communicate i.e. emails, internet sms, messenger or Skype. Calling on the cell could is often very costly, be it receiving or calling out. Anyway, I do not get interrogated if I missed the schedule but there will probably be a session of concern.

skysuccess, I agree with you totally on this good habit! and yes, my siblings get 'fire' if they don't call home and inform me on dinner.. sometimes, getting fed up, I just don't cook and if they ask, they will sure get it from me! So, in order to ensure the call, I will usually ill treat them on next day if they don't call home by either not cooking or cook some 'instant' food... and if they see these instant stuff on the table, they know that I am 'anger' on the irresponsible of not calling home.. sometimes, I even just heat up the overnight food myself, and eat.. and leaving them searching for their own food.. and while travelling, if you don't call home, we sure be expecting calls from home that is no longer 'friendly' but more on 'interrogating' time..

skysuccess.. actually it's just a mere phone call, and sometimes I don't understand when people keep saying they are too busy.. and if my siblings did this, I will sure ask them, how long you like going to talk on the phone to tell me you not coming back to eat? and yes, calling from mobile is bit expensive.. so, if I know I am going to stay in the country for more than a week, I sure get the local call card.. I did that in Europe while I travel.. so much cheaper to call home.. it's even cheaper than I make local calls at home..

Sreekala, I totally agree with you... and YES, having the family bond is very important, and just making a call is not that difficult to do right..

I understand what you are doing, coz we are also doing the same here in my family. We are being taught to be considerate and not cause unnecessary worry to others since we are able to just make phone calls. Good for you to keep on practising this, and it will surely a good practise.

zeethegr8, all the best in your studies, and I think your parents will understand the need of you being away.. and being a big brother, I am sure you will miss your sister... good to know that at your age, you are able to understand the need of calling home, and you are able to do that since you are away.. I think I would understand how you feel, since I am also working abroad some years back, and I take the opportunity every time to take a few days off to return home visiting my family... you have a enjoyable time with them during your 10 days vacation, and do your best in your study, so you could graduate fast and back to your home again..

yes, actually being away is not something bad, but at least if we make a safety call home, we will be at least able to know what happen at home, and let those at home knows about us too.. :D

lilhyppo, your parents are already leading by example!! they show you and your brother the importance of having to call home, and you both got it just right in your head to remember this! good for you.. and I am sure you are going to instill this in your baby too!